Ugh. These texts from him:
HIM: Sorry just feeling bad and didn't want to project it.
ME: I am here for you.
HIM: I know. And I know you need me too and I'm sorry I'm not the man and boyfriend I should be.
ME: You have the power to change. The ball is in your court. The man I love is there underneath all this. You just need help digging him out and I'm bad at digging.
Honestly, he knows what he needs to do. I just can't understand what's holding him back. He keeps saying he doesn't want to lose me or ruin the relationship; to him, the relationship is "the best thing that's ever happened to [him]" (his words, several times). If it's so amazing for him, why would he effectively ruin it?!
Point is as long as you don't think he is suicidal you just have to let him figure it out on his own to get help. You can't really force him to do it without more then likely making things worse. Can't help those who don't want to be helped.
I'm going to give him this week(end) while I'm gone to make a move. If he gets help, good. I'll be thrilled and thankful and so proud of him.
If he doesn't, then it's probably time to start moving on. I can't deal with this anymore. I've gotten absolutely NOTHING done today beacuse I've been worrying about HIM.
Well said, xucla. Katt, sometimes people need time and space to figure things out. It does suck to have wait on the sidelines in the meantime, but you have to decide whether he means enough to you as a partner and if so be patient. If not, still be there as a friend. Feeling abandoned in the middle of all this could make him consider those unfortunate options more seriously.
Last edited by algunz; 05-02-2013 at 02:40 PM.
Katt obviously cares about him. No, she shouldn't feel obligated, but as a friend you never walk away when a friend shows signs of genuine depression and possible suicidal thoughts.
Call his bluff
Can't argue that.
This girl responded to me on the 22nd, I had her number by the 25th. A meetup wasn't possible over the weekend but we texted, traded pics, etc. On Sunday she said Thursday was good for her...yesterday afternoon I text a time and place. She doesn't respond until late saying she just got out of work and "i think i can do 8 but can i get back to you in the morning to be sure? i'm so sleepy i feel like i'm forgetting something!" i text her back this morning, haven't heard from her since. She was cute too
xuclarockerx: have any of your online dates led to second dates?
What I don't get about sending messages to girls is how I almost never get a response from the messages I take my time to actually write up and send, but the stupid two sentence messages almost always get responses. For instance the last girl I went on a date with from online user name was LosingMyEdge3453235423 whatever number it was. Literally all the message was my favorite line from that song. Are short stupid messages the way to go?
Online dating is like looking at these profiles to imagine your dream life with them, then you discover they like olives and you think "fuck that bitch, she's disgusting"
So with that in mind as a generalization of online dating: Writing them a thoughtful paragraph will more likely scare them away, a quick chuckle or common ground with a lame lyric is a much easier way to seduce a lady of the internet.
Memes and smiley faces go a long way also
Keep in mind, if you meet them in person, your goal is to stick them within 2 more dates or you're in the friend zone.
Was she an online date though?
I'm sorry for your Coachella date/whatever not lasting UCLA; there's something wrong with bringing a person you're starting to date to a festival like that. I've learned from that after doing it twice.
Whoa. That's....just wow.
UCLA - what happened to Coachella date?
I got over online dating really fast after people didn't want to do anything but pussyfoot through text and emails. I have much more success being a creep at festivals.
It wasn't even in a beer garden and he didn't even shove pills in her mouth!
You're also in LA so...the online dating world here seems more unrealistic than anywhere else. People post headshots for their dating profile. Then you read how they write....
Guedi, what's your best date ever? Meaning, what are the best pills that have ever been shoved in your mouth?
Also, just to cycle back to the other thread--have you ever had someone shove the pills up your ass?
Would shoving pills up your ass with the intent of getting really high make you possibly gay?
Depends on the pills and the frequency. I can tell you the one time I stuck ecstasy up my ass... my ass felt a lot more interesting than I was accustomed to.
No, drugs up your ass is in no way a sexual act.
What if it was a tranny putting them up my ass?
Last edited by Mugwog; 05-02-2013 at 04:00 PM.
What are you thinking about? The drugs or the tranny?