Just like driving, people should have to have a license to fuck, and reckless fucking should be a misdemeanor at the very least.
Why don't you give him a behind the wheel
It's not the recklessness that's a problem. It's the poor skills. And you're right that goes just as well with too many non-virgins.
All the skills in the world stem from one axiom: love is altruistic.
Love may be, but sex certainly shouldn't be every time.
Im just trying to say that if Icey is genuinely concerned with pleasing(sexually) the girl that he is with, then whatever minor mistake he's sure to make will be just that.
Sure, and he'll learn, as everyone is always learning, as all women are slightly differant.. But I think one of his main problems is that he needs to learn to lead, and by leading, pleasing her first.
Well, I have to sleep. Icey, it's not complicated. Love big and expect to be loved the same and I promise you won't have to think about any rules or techniques or nothing like that because the rest of your life will be fun in love with the cosmos.
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Randy's like the friends in 40 Year Old Virgin who insist Andy(?)'s gotta have sex to get it out of the way before screwing it up with someone he really likes and Andy tries but decides no I'm going to go with my heart and what feels right and he marries Trish (?) and they have sex and live happily ever after and sing The Age of Aquarius song.
I also agree with Icey in that having sex isn't going to change who one is as a person, at least not radically or overnight. I'm somewhat different from before I first had sex but it wasn't good sex. Never had "good" sex.
Is there an "appropriate" length when sending an OkCupid/Match message?
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blehh, so I basically got the bomb dropped on me tonight. I've been hanging out with this girl for the past few months..in the beginning she said she "wasn't sure" if she wanted to be more than friends, because she hasn't had a boyfriend before and is still a virgin (I just turned 20, and she's 18 btw). I said it was cool and we've continued to hang out, like multiple times a week. but it seemed to me she was warming up to the idea of taking things further, she's been super flirty etc. and idk things were looking that way. I started to like her quite a bit so tonight I had to see where things stand and she basically told me she strictly wants to be friends. kinda bummed, I mean at least she gave me somewhat of a warning this could happen in the beginning, but still can't help but feel sad. I think the shittiest part was when she said "we can stop hanging out if you want, it's no big deal" like all of this didn't really mean anything to her. whatever, i'll get over it
Bottom line: When a girl "isn't sure" what she wants with you, kick her to the curb.
But let's be serious for a moment.
You are from Palm Desert.
The girls from your area have like zero standards and even the hottest ones will hook up with some of the ugliest losers to walk the face of this earth.
I mean, when you get rejected by a chick from LA or New York, that's totally understandable, but when you're dealing with a girl from Palm Desert, anything less than a blow job on the first date is considered a miserable failure.
So, in short... what's wrong with you?
This space for rent.
And she actually isn't from Palm Desert. She grew up in Greece and moved to Indio a few years ago. But yes, all the girls in PD are pretty easy aha.
That's good. Im pretty sure that Archie The Ape would put both hands in her mouth and break open her jaw, probably killing her, and then turn around and give a big orangutan smile and wave at the camera as if he did something good.
That being said it is easy to focus on someone or get too invested in someone that isn't there.
I don't think you did anything wrong in this situation, though. If you were having fun dating her a couple of months is no big deal and a reasonable amount of time to get to know someone, especially when y'all are so young and figuring out what you like, what you want, etc. And now she says she isn't interested in a romantic relationship so you move on. Rejection is never fun to hear but at least she said something and told you so you know and can move on.