Shit wrong place.
I'm pretty amused by the "Similar Users" feature on OKCupid that you see when you look at someone's profile, particularly the part where it says that said similar users have more of a certain quality than the person you're looking at, i.e: "more adventurous," "more organized," "less loving," "more compassionate." Those are all real examples, not me trying to be funny. I'm not sure if it's totally dehumanizing or refreshingly honest to get your worth as a human being calculated by a dating site algorithm.
Also just found this gem on a profile while clicking on someone who was "less pure" than someone else, whatever that means.
I didn't realize living off the land was so expensive.If I had the choice and money was no option, I would live in the wilderness hunting for my own food and building my own shelters.
Well, he did say "no option," not "no issue." Perhaps he means that lacking the opportunity to make a boatload of money, his second choice would be to live in the wilderness.
He also implies that his hands are tied in that regard by not having a choice in the matter, that he lives under some oppressive regime where retreating to the forest to scavenge for food is strictly forbidden. Otherwise, it would just mean he's full of shit and actually DOES have the choice and money isn't really an issue (or option) and he's just saying that to make him seem outdoorsy and connected with the natural world and whatever other bullshit, but he actually likes have a smart phone and watching shitty tv just like the rest of us.
Well, Jesus! Don't blow him then.
The weird part was near the end of the date it seemed like we had some good chemistry. I'm not sure if it was because we got pretty comfortable with each other through a long day of abstract almost scathing discussions and hanging out naked or what. I dunno, I was pretty exhausted through a lot of the day so I can't really say whether it ended well or not, seemed like it did but she seemed pretty apathetic about seeing me again.
Ramblinon, not everybody sexualizes nudity.
Thank you, Tom.
You should know.
I have a date with a guy tonight and he told me he is nervous, excited and has butterflies... He asked me how I was feeling and I said very honestly that I was really not looking forward to it at all. That the entire dating process is like going on job interviews but with beer, and I am tired of the whole thing. I am half hoping my negative attitude will make him not want to meet me, I just really want to go home and watch bad television instead.
On a different note I ended things with the married girl. Turns out she is crazy. Yeah she is getting a divorce but it turns out her soon to be ex husband never cheated on her. She just told me that to make her seem like the good one. Apparently they spent very little time together and when they did it was always arguing and fighting with each other. I never met the guy and I'm sure it's just as much his fault, but damn I feel bad for him. I think this girl might possibly be bi-polar or something. I will admit though it might have been the best sex I've ever had. Lesson learned, NEVER sleep with anyone with more issues then you.
All that being said, I am leaving work to go pick up the shining gem I found on pof for another date, Disneyland at 95 fucking degree heat. I AM looking forward to this one and it feels the farthest thing from "chore" or "interview", which is I guess how it should be right?
I have 3 months in this time around, but I did the online dating thing for 4 years back before Nick. You are right though, it shouldn't feel like a chore, I should be excited. I think I am going to cancel, I have a bottle of wine and a dexter disc waiting for me at home.
I hate to be the cock block in this situation, but I sure as hell wouldn't judge you for staying home w dex
I've been single for about 6 months, and even thinking about going back into the dating game is tiring.
It's absurd. I ran into Pantera guy at the bar this last weekend who was drunkenly moping to the bartender and then later me how bummed he was that our discgolf date never came into fruition. "Look, (____)" I said, "sometimes I just have to get high and lock myself in my house and watch hours of television with complete disregard for whoever I might have made plans with."
5/1: Giegling Showcase @ Oakland
5/2: Sleater-Kinney @ The Masonic
5/8: Talker, Patricia @ f8
5/28: Refused, White Lung @ GAMH
5/29: Spoon @ The Fox Theater, Oakland
5/29: Max Cooper EMERGENCE @ PW
5/30: Neutral Milk Hotel @ Pappy & Harriet's
6/2: Kiasmos ft. Olafur Arnalds, Rival Consoles @ The Independent
2 NO SHIT
3 NO SHIT
4 NO SHIT
5 NO SHIT
6 NO SHIT
7 NO SHIT
8 NO SHIT
Here is some real advice, for guys at least. Online dating services are like at home treadmills/weights/dvd work outs. If one doesn't already do some form of exercise (gym, running, swimming, etc) and/or one is too lazy and unmotivated to do that shit, purchasing that at home equipment and dvd will NOT get his/her ass in shape and it will NOT motivate him/her to get in shape and it will NOT motivate him/her to live a healthier life and it will NOT motivate him/her to even use the shit that was just bought.
Those things are there for the convenience of those that already have the determination to get in shape and stay in shape and live an active lifestyle and/or for those that already live that way.
How does this relate, in my opinion, to online dating? Same thing. If a male has always been too scared to talk to (let alone meet) women, online dating will not help, in fact, it may hurt. It only gives a false sense of comfort hiding behind a computer screen. A scared, nervous, timid guy runs the risk of never actually growing out of that phase when constantly relying on emails, online photos, profiles, questionnaires, surveys, all that bullshit.
It seems, to me, that this online dating is most beneficial for those that actually get themselves out there and already interact w/ the opposite sex (or same sex, depending on preference). Online dating just adds a level of convenience to be taken advantage of by those that actually have an idea of how to interact with another interested party.
Of course, the other side of the coin, I admit this shit can be used to help someone's balls drop, just like at home fitness equipment can help someone really get in shape that was always out of shape. So what do I know. And it's worth saying that I am completely inexperienced in online dating, I've only been dabbling the past few weeks...with success I might add (though I do consider myself incredibly lucky in one case, honestly, I hardly had a part in how fortunate I've been with this one particular woman).