You know what? I kind of do have a fetish. A weirdly specific one too. For some reason, the sight of man's hand with wedding band drives me nuts. And not just any wedding band and not just any hand. It needs to be a a very simple, solid gold or silver band. And the man has to be white. But not just white. But a little pale with that touch-of-pink / peaches-and-cream tone. No surfer's tan. And the hands need to be big and strong, but also elegant.
I have no idea where on earth this came from. It's not about what the ring represents. I have no interest in unavailable men and certainly not in straight men. I'm also puzzled by how specific I have to be, not only on the man's ethnicity, but on his skin tone. Especially because outside of the wedding band arena, I find myself attracted to guys of all races. But put a wedding band on a black guy? Doesn't do a thing for me.
I was just reminded of this in an all day meeting at work today. Large room. Circular table set up. About 8 or 9 men in the room in addition to me. All of them were married, all had wedding bands. Two African Americans, one Filipino, one Hispanic guy and the rest were white. And all of the white guys were from the Minneapolis. And their hands had my preferred look. Found myself staring at those hands throughout the meeting. What's funny is, the two African Americans and the Hispanic guy were all far more attractive than any of the white guys, but their wedding band'ed hands did nothing for me.
I don't understand it, but if you have the right hand and you just slip that little sliver of gold or silver on the ring finger? I'm half way there. God I'm so weird.
Last edited by RageAgainstTheAoki; 02-17-2012 at 12:37 AM.
Gotta be a daddy thing.
5/9 - Suishou No Fune (水晶の舟) - The Empty Gallery - HK
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Nope. Definitely not. It really is purely the look.
getting my ear nibbled..
im obsessed with it.
and if a girl i like nibbles my ear, she can have whatever the fuck she wants
Unfortunately my fetish is being oppressed. I love the idea of being watched or risking getting caught, but my husband is telling me to grow up. I should have grown out of this one 15 years ago.
I still get him to play along if I promise special gifts.
I like doing things where I'm not supposed to.
Gunz, that sort of upsets me that your husband says that. Most sexual preferences aren't something you "grow out of" -- and by suggesting your desire to inject a little spice into your relationship is somehow inappropriate or immature, he is not respecting your wants and needs. I mean, granted, as a mother and as a teacher, you have a lot to lose and so this is a fetish where you'll have to be careful to enact it in ways that are smart. But surely between the two of you, you can think of ways to invoke the dangerous feeling of exhibitionism or getting caught, without risking the wrath of Social Services or the DOE.
He is. He just doesn't want to do it all the time and often I choose rather inappropriate times and places.
I can't help that I'm a sexual person.
I will take a good ol' foot fetishist anytime, day or night.
If you date a foot fetishist, does that mean receiving foot rubs? Because I could totally be into that.
Yes - tons. And toes sucked. A+
One of my friends has the biggest foot fetish, he is always wanting to rub feet or have someone rub his. Since I am genuinely terrified of people handling my feet I always ask him about it out of curiosity. During one of these discussions he revealed his mom would make him and his brothers rub her feet when they were young.