Wow. Here we are. Answering Stinkbutt's questions about getting backstage passes. Wow.
Stinkbutt, come on now, there are so many variables. Broadly speaking? No. You don't have to "romance the butt". It should be a pleasurable experience for both parties and not one's anniversary gift or something that one has to barter for through "romance". Believe it or not, there are many gay men who don't care for it and rarely engage in it.
Also, what Sbessio said.