Bullshit. Some people can handle those kinds of relationships. Perhaps most people cannot, but you should not make such general statements to encompass everyone.
This is true, I have met alot of swingers in my day I guess. But I also was in a relationship with someone who pushed for the threesome and then other things, I did it after alot of pressure and alot of weed, he then became overly jealous and told me I enjoyed it too much. After that I guess my view might be a bit jaded. I just want to be with someone who only wants to be with me and who I only want to be with. I don't see any problem with flirting, in fact I think its good for a relationship to know that others find your SO attractive. But if I want to fuck around then I take a serious look at my relationship because I just think it means there must be something missing. But to each thier own.
I'm too much of a jealous betch to be able to share. To each his or her own, though.
To get back on track...who's your pick, SoulDischarge?
My name is Becca. Hi.
I dated a guy who was really into the swinging thing. Him and his wife use to go to the clubs and everything, it was ok for her to fuck guys but not ok for him to fuck other women. One night things went to far, he ended up actually screwing the other woman (accidently?) and they ended up divorced over it. I guess if people go into it with rules then it can work, but eventually the lines will get blured I would think. It just isn't for me. I don't share well.
"I know I'm a lighter woman, but not enough to divide the pie..."
In all seriousness, I can't see how people in a committed relationship can share. Maybe I'm just too selfish. Also, I can't see how rules would apply if people break them because of a gray area. Everything just gets too fuzzy.
edit: i was slow in my response. The original statement i was responding to was just "This is moronic". You covered in the edit.
Last edited by ivankay; 12-29-2008 at 10:03 AM.
Some people need that, whether it's just craving new experiences and new skin, or whether you are in a relationship with someone that has a different kind of libido than your own...
The mature and healthy relationship understands that sometimes expansion is necessary. I'm not saying it's always the best thing, or always healthy, but completely writing it off is stupid. For the record, my relationship with this girl ended because she moved across the country.
A. I guess I'm not a home wrecker. There was just a lack of communication and some how the only way to make things better is a three way. It's a weird and confusing situation.
B. I'm very very much in favor of open relationships and kind of find the idea of monogamy a little weird. There's a lot of people to fuck/love out there, and no one person could ever fulfill every need and desire another person could have, so fucking around seems kind of healthy to me. Way more healthy than a monogamous relationship where one person fucks around behind the others back and the other person ends up shooting someone at least. But I've never been in a relationship, so my thoughts on that mean dick probably.
C. Ivy. Go.
my proudest accomplishment would probably be getting to audition for julliard. i wasn't accepted or anything and i certainly don't act anymore, but that was something i worked my entire childhood to get. my dad had called julliard when i was 12 or 13 to see what schools they accepted from. they recommended the boarding school i went to (idyllwild arts academy). my dad says they also told him they look for something specific when they accept applicants. they can't really explain it, but they know it when they see it. it was probably my most difficult audition to date, as it included cold readings of really obscure shakespear. no one from my group even got a callback. but i did get accepted to both hart and carnegie mellon that weekend, though i never went. even though i didn't make it and i decided against making it my career, it was still pretty cool just to be allowed to audition.