Good to know.
Least favorite: I'm not a big fan of my ankles -- they are weak and occasionally will turn in while I'm walking causing me to collapse. It's not awesome. I used to be a pretty good figure skater when I was younger, and I would have to wear special ankle supports. I also sometimes feel like I got gypped in the brain frontal cortex department -- that's the area that is most effected in people who have long-term clinical depression. But overall, I feel pretty lucky that I have the body I have. It is fully operational, gets me where I need to go, and is responsive to training and has allowed me to do everything from row varsity crew in high school and college, to train for the Honolulu marathon and do long-distance running.
Your week has made me love you even more and increasingly more envious in the meantime. If you had the opportunity for only one more success in life, what would it be? Whether that be family, career, relationship, it's purely subjective on how you want to interpret it.
Your question is tricky because there are a lot of things I want in life, and I'm not sure how to prioritize them. With going to get my MBA, I feel like my career is already on track, so I probably wouldn't choose that as my big success because I feel like as long as I stay the path and work hard, I'll be ok career-wise and find something that will be able to support my needs and interests. In terms of my family, although I have some tensions and issues, I do very much love my family and I don't feel the need to somehow create a "success" in that arena. And although I love (some) kids (in small doses), I'm not sure I want kids of my own, so that's very much something that's still up in the air.
I guess I would choose to have my one big success be finding someone to become a life partner and companion. I have very strong friendships, and I feel very lucky for my support network, but I do sometimes think about being single as I move into my 30s and what that means for my future. I certainly don't want to settle down with someone just for the sake of having someone around, and would much rather be single than be unhappily committed. However, I hope I can find someone who is just as right for me as I am for that person. It makes me feel vulnerable to even admit that I really want that -- but I do.
Thank you all for the fun week. Many of your questions have really helped me to re-examine myself, my goals and beliefs, which is always useful.
For this week, I would like to ask Somewhat Damaged to be the new person.
Rick, what is your relationship with religion?
Rick, can you give us a brief history of your dating life prior to marriage, and what you learned from those relationships?
Rick, is that new Aaron Sorkin show on tv going to be any good?
SD, when and why did film become a passion for you?
If you could eliminate 3 types of people from the earth, who would you get rid of and why?
Rick, who are your five most favorite and five least favorite board members, and why?
If a giant meteor was heading towards earth, what would you eat for your last meal and why?
Rick, if you went into a rage and murdered someone, where would you hide the body?
Oh, so the reason I mentioned my family was because a part of me hopes it isn't bullshit since religion was actually a positive force in some of their lives (my tata was a huge alcoholic and nearly died several times due to drinking prior to "finding god" in the mid-80s) and I'd hate for them to have wasted so much of their time, although I fully realize that if what they believe in were true, I'd be fucked.
The biggest takeaway from my last relationship, which was simultaneously the best & worst thing, is that I have to look out for myself first. I was so enamored with this girl and put her needs ahead of mine even though that sort of consideration was rarely reciprocated. I paid for her to go to Coachella 2005 and 2006 and missed some acts I would've really liked to have seen (Chemical Brothers and Prodigy in 2005 the biggest examples) because I was overly concerned about being with her & our friends rather than at a set by myself. I overcame that in 2006 when everyone else wasn't as urgent about Daft Punk as I was, so I caught their set by myself and had what was up to that point the best time of my life, and all because I decided to just do what I wanted. When things went to shit between us a month later, due to her being so selfish and me being a jealous lunatic, I became really hardened and jaded and decided I needed to be a lot more selfish and self-sufficient than I had previously been. The self-sufficiency directly led to me meeting Jen a year later but the selfishness still manifests itself when, for instance, I get it in my head that I'm going to put hundreds of dollars into making a movie the same year we're getting married or that I'm going to attend a show I really want to see even if Jen thinks we should save the money.
I remember watching movies on HBO at my grandparents' house growing up, stuff like Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom and Big Trouble in Little China, and that undoubtedly helped to mold my passion for films. During that 18-month period that I was out of school, I went to the theater over 115 times in '99 and '00 and watched probably just as many films on DVD, so I suppose I still gave myself a fairly decent film education at a fraction of what I would've paid by going to college. After college, it really stopped being a persistent passion as I grew cynical after having worked on a couple of locally shot films and dealt with some really deceptive, backstabbing personalities. The spark of inspiration returns every couple of years and lasts for about that long, and I tend to make a movie during that time, but breaking into the film festival circuit is so fucking tough and disheartening. I would be really primed to follow up on whatever momentum I developed with the movie I finished last year but the passion just isn't there to do so. I'm pretty annoyed about that.
Least: I put people who irritate me too often on my ignore list, so I'm not consistently annoyed by too many people on here anymore. The one who still manages to irritate me despite his posts being blocked is Goatchella, although I suppose some of the blame should be on the people who respond to him. They haven't done anything to bother me in a while but Brokendoll & Suffacated (if it wasn't for the feuds with Jen, then it was for that shit pulled on Patrick a year or two back). Then Devin the Dude (that "I'm going to kill you" business with Brandon a couple years back, now his seeming trolling in this thread) and whoever that Rosemont guy is (the geezer who acted like the authority on all things Prince back in 2008 then got himself banned after trying to scalp tickets).
EDIT: how could I forget Spooks? He belongs here. BD & Suffacated count as one, so I'm not over my limit.
2 oz blended whiskey
Juice of 1/2 lemon
1/2 tsp powdered sugar
1/2 slice lemon
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SD, what do you feel is the most positive human quality and what is the least?
Who are your heroes?
#2 would be the people at restaurant chains like Domino's or Taco Bell who push themselves to find ways to make their food even less healthy than it already is. The pizza chains seem to be one-upping each other on how quickly they can worsen the obesity epidemic: Domino's feels that their cheesy bread wasn't cheesy enough, while Pizza Hut trots out their Dinner Box that features a medium pizza, cheese sticks, and cinnamon sticks. Not even a token nod to attempting to be a little healthier by replacing one of the kinds of sticks to salad, marketing that as an option? Basically, I hold them in similar contempt to the television executives because they are in a position where they could do some good (by offering at least a modicum of reasonably priced low-fat/low calorie menu items) and deliberately choose to peddle products that don't do anybody any good instead (save for themselves with the profits they must be raking in).
#3 would be anybody who drives less than or just barely the speed limit during rush hour when there isn't a car closer than 20 yards in front of them, particularly when they're unable to pull ahead of the semi truck that's driving under the speed limit in the ostensibly fast lane and that I want to pass already.
Off to kickboxing, be back in a few hours.
Rick, we've discussed comedy before and I don't think I've ask you this. How much of humor do you think is innate, and how much do you think can be learned?
Also, since you've been taking kick boxing for a bit, do you think you can kick my ass now?
The other one, which is closer to being realistic, would be held at the Crescent Ballroom and have a capacity of 543 (the capacity of the venue), be invite-only, feature artists like Depeche Mode on Friday, Radiohead on Saturday, and Portishead on Sunday, and not be very long, maybe starting at 5pm and ending at midnight. 7 hours of music is plenty of time for me. This would happen if I were to win the Mega Millions jackpot (one of the big ones, like north of $250m) and I would promise to make a $1m donation to the charity of each artist's choice to get them to sign up.
I don't really believe in heroes but Steve Kerr would have fit the bill when I was 8 years old.
Dude, you wouldn't stand a chance. I took a kick to the chin last week that didn't knock me out, or even down. And my kicks are really effective; made the guy I was working with tonight wince repeatedly and ask me to stop a couple of times, and last week this guy said his leg was fucked up the day after we sparred from all the kicks he ate. So yeah, your only hope would be that it went for more than 5 minutes, since I still need to develop my cardio.