The Girls Only Thread

[Courtney]

I am just finishing up the last couple chapters of audio version of her book, Quiet, right now. It's really, really good.

As someone who could potentially be going to work as management in a tech company but who has no tech background, I'm finding the part that talks about Asian vs. Caucasian American ideals of quiet and studiousness especially interesting as it references introverted engineers and coders who work at tech companies and feel animosity towards the more extroverted non-tech people brought in to do management jobs because corporate America often privileges extroversion as a leadership characteristic.

[HowToDisappear]

I love the remark about the Wharton study citing how introverted leaders often deliver better outcomes than the extroverts when managing proactive employees --- by giving them autonomy and letting them run with their ideas. Which is, of course, the one thing introverts always long for themselves.

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

In general, you are going to find that people who are highly skilled in a very specific trade are going to feel animosity toward any supervisor or manager that doesn't really understand what they are doing. I have a large group of friends that all used to work as artists for an online gaming company that after a couple years hired a pair of supervisors who knew absolutely nothing about art and couldn't communicate effectively with artists at all. After 6 months at least a dozen people quit because they started to hate their job so much. it was really sad too because for two or three years they loved it there - they kept recruiting more friends to join the team and they had me half-convinced to pursue a job there before the shit hit the fan.

[guedita]

I own these things now. It's the girliest I've ever felt.

[scenicworld]

I really like those, especially the purse.

[HowToDisappear]

Kate Spade bag is so pretty --- love the color.

[amyzzz]

I have two Kate Spade bags now. I love them!

Does anyone know where to get a double stick tape for sticking one's top to one's bra? It has to be somewhere I can drive to get it today.

Also should I wear glitter eye makeup if I'm wearing a sequined top or is that overkill?

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

You're looking for "fashion tape," and you should be able to get it at most clothing stores. Try a Target or a place like that, they'll have it for sure.

EDIT: also, i pretty sure Heather is wearing a sequined top with glittery makeup and glittery fingernails and probably glittery shoes tonight. You can get away with murder on NYE

[algunz]

Drinkey, you're the best girl!

[guedita]

It's definitely not overkill if you're going out somewhere. And I mean, it's not overkill if you're staying in, either. Glitter all the fuck you want.

I'm seeing the Melvins tonight so I don't think I'll glitter.

[marooko]

Nice choices. first purse/wallet, first of the style/brand?

[guedita]

Yeah, marooko. I'm an adult woman in my late 20's who has never owned a purse or wallet before. Til now I've just rubber banded all of my money and belongings to my left leg. Thought I'd make it like that til I was at least 40, but apparently it's bad for your circulation so I had to explore other options.

[marooko]

every woman in the entire world owns a purse.

[casey]

I LOVE that Kate Spade bag, Cara. I usually dislike spending a lot of money on myself for some reason but having nice things feels great. That's why the holidays are awesome! I always clean up on the girly stuff because my mom wishes I was Kate Middleton.

[guedita]

every woman in the entire world owns a purse.

See, your problem is you say dumb things, and then you use even dumber rationalizations to try and explain why you shouldn't be given shit for the original dumb thing you've said. No fucking shit a purse and wallet isn't a commodity that every woman in the world owns. The difference is I'm an American woman of a particular economic/social/cultural sect and age and owning a purse/wallet is a fairly standard functional component of that life. If a 20 something male boardie posted a picture of nice Nikes, would you say "cool, first pair of shoes?" Do you see how dumb that is?

[chiapet]

I love nice bags, but they don't fit into my lifestyle very well. I feel like everywhere I go, I'd end up getting drinks spilled on it, or setting it down on a dirty floor.

[miscorrections]

Also should I wear glitter eye makeup if I'm wearing a sequined top or is that overkill?

You should if you want to! People are much less judgey about over-the-top cosmetics on NYE, although I also support wearing glitter whenever you feel like it.

I have a feeling I'm going to bust out the drag falsies tonight.

[Hannahrain]

You're looking for "fashion tape," and you should be able to get it at most clothing stores. Try a Target or a place like that, they'll have it for sure.

EDIT: also, i pretty sure Heather is wearing a sequined top with glittery makeup and glittery fingernails and probably glittery shoes tonight. You can get away with murder on NYE

What? She'll leave telltale glitter all over the corpse and can be seen from a mile away. She's dressed exactly the opposite of what she'd need to get away with murder.

[casey]

I love nice bags, but they don't fit into my lifestyle very well. I feel like everywhere I go, I'd end up getting drinks spilled on it, or setting it down on a dirty floor.

That's true too, but they're nice for dates and stuff. I need to retire my favorite purse. I've had it for 8 years, it's all ripped up, and I love it...but I know it needs to go. Going to replace it with this one:

[chiapet]

I'm super excited about putting on pajamas at 6PM and doing absolutely nothing tonight. (I'm doing parties tomorrow).

[guedita]

I love nice bags, but they don't fit into my lifestyle very well. I feel like everywhere I go, I'd end up getting drinks spilled on it, or setting it down on a dirty floor.

Yeah, I don't plan on taking it out when there will be potential drink spillage or other damaging stuff.

[chiapet]

Casey, I have a sporty version of that, that I use for going out -
http://www.zappos.com/lesportsac-kasey-black

I don't really go on dates to nice places. SF is so casual (as you know). I have trouble finding nice purses that are big enough to be practical without being so big that they're a pain to take out dancing and stuff.

[guedita]

Oh, yeah - I also got these awesome boots for Christmas:

[marooko]

that your first boot?

[casey]

Casey, I have a sporty version of that, that I use for going out -
http://www.zappos.com/lesportsac-kasey-black

I don't really go on dates to nice places. SF is so casual (as you know). I have trouble finding nice purses that are big enough to be practical without being so big that they're a pain to take out dancing and stuff.

Oh I like it! You know, after being in LA for so long and my family visiting me instead of me going to visit them, I kind of DID forget that it's pretty casual there. Aaaand now you made me homesick. I always feel like a bum in LA. Part of the reason I need to change my bag.

[ThatGirl]

Those boots are hot Cara. I love the Kate Spade bag too. I have a Kate Spade purse that I was given for my 40th and I've carried it every day since.

[amyzzz]

Drinkey, thanks. I checked at drugstores and they don't have it.

[miscorrections]

The intimates section at any department store should have boob tape.

[ELIZA83TH]

Drinkey, thanks. I checked at drugstores and they don't have it.

I got mine at Victoria's Secret unexpectedly... If there's one near you, it's worth a check.

[amyzzz]

Corinna, I will try that. Thanks, ladies! And Drinkey, honorary lady.