He sold his soul for a shot at fame
Catchphrase and wigs and the jokes are lame...
Another fantastic Lindy West aka my hero article: http://jezebel.com/female-purity-is-bullshit-493278191
Obviously our society's collective virgin/whore complex is dumb beyond all belief, but I feel it's really tiresome how Jezebel sometimes picks out random small non-legit internet articles and sources just to have something to quote and complain about.
What do you mean by non-legit, though? I think their focus on source material from blog reader comments and other stuff is a completely valid arena of discourse to critique.
In other news, my housemate told me today that one of my classmates in grad school "hates me" because "I get picked for everything she wants." Why do women do this to each other? Wouldn't it be nice to be in a place where women cheer each other on for their accomplishments, and go to each other for advice and encouragement instead of being catty and putting each other down?
I'm so fucking over it.
Good thing excessive sensitivity to any perceived gender bias and frequent overreaction to little things that aren't really all that important aren't stereotypes women have been facing since the dawn of time, or Jezebel might be setting us back rather than moving us forward.
"BONERS ARE NOT THE BOSS OF YOU."
There was a Jezebel article recently that discussed that WSJ article on maintaining a healthy sex life during marriage, and I think those sorts of Jezebel articles tend to be much stronger because they address a topic in a way that demonstrates the extent of its saturation within our media culture.
The classmate can be frustrated by having to continually take second place to Courtney, but to use words like hate is a pretty typical and silly female response. Of course, was "hate" her word or the roommates?
I guess we're viewing it from different ends of the interaction. It may have been a "typically female" (ergh) response from her, but I don't think it really matters that you're female. It only matters that you take what she wants. I wouldn't view that as a female dynamic issue–I'd view it as a bitchy jealous girl issue.
I've also known some pretty fucking catty dudes in academia. The last person I clashed over research with was male, and he wound up plagiarizing my work in pursuit of "winning." The conflict was laughably one-sided, and it all came entirely from him.
The whole use of the word "hate" is far, far, far more prominent when women talk or compare themselves to other women than it is in other gender relationships. "She's soo skinny, I hate her." "Don't you just hate her?"
I'm too tired to come up with a critical reason as to why this is, beyond that we're conditioned so young to see other women as (sexual) competitors.
Hannah, that's a good point. I think it's also worth noting that in business school, there's still serious gender inequality so in some weird backward sense I think male classmates may not see female classmates as a "threat" because female students are still a significant minority. And like 99.9% of CEOs (or some similarly absurd statistic) are still men.
Would this situation change if your receipt of the opportunities/accolades in question didn't diminish those available for this other woman? Would she still "hate" you purely for being successful? Or would she shift the focus back to her own work where it damn well belongs?
Well, if she was smart, she would invite me out for a friendly coffee or a beer and pick my brain about what I'm doing in terms of cover letters or interviews or whatever that she is not. And then she would steal that tactic and beat me at my own game. That's what a couple of my female classmates from other countries have done, under the guise of asking for advice, and I applaud them for it. I feel like learning from your peer's strengths is a win-win situation in most cases because everyone has something unique to bring to the table.
I don't know if the situation would change if there were unlimited opportunities, but for whatever it is worth I do feel like for all practical purposes there ARE unlimited opportunities when it comes to things like summer internships given the myriad of fantastic companies and programs. And even within the internship program I was chosen and she was not, the company took 12 interns in total and I only took up one spot out of those 12.
Well, that's pretty stupidly hyperbolic, then. Does she work at Jezebel?And even within the internship program I was chosen and she was not, the company took 12 interns in total and I only took up one spot out of those 12.
There are several satisfactory lubrication products available at her local pharmacy anyway.
the busy bee has no time for sorrow.
Is 'purity' an actual real life issue that real women who date real man actually face these days? I mean I guess I understand it is still a thing in Utah and other cultural backwaters, and maybe that's the article's point, but still. Is it really a part of mainstream society? Or at least mainstream educated/sophisticated/cosmopolitan society? I'm genuinely asking.
also Courtney: in my mind using the word 'hate' as your friend did is a marker for stupidity. Or at least simplicity. It's child talk, not adult talk.
Tom, I'll have to get back to you on the purity thing. (god I hope not at my age)
the busy bee has no time for sorrow.