I'd probably pee myself while out partying/getting wasted while trying to figure out that damn lock!
If this is the direction things are headed, where women are apparently expected to 'protect themselves' from would be rapists, then fuck locking underwear. Dentata is definitely the way to go.
This is a very interesting project, and a very good discussion of a subject that I know Cara has brought up quite a bit -
3/21/15 - Tweedy @ Theater at Ace Hotel // 3/27/15 - At The Gates (w/Converge, Pallbearer) @ Wiltern // 4/14/15 - Cloud Nothings @ Echo // 4/19/15 - Electric Wizard @ Roxy
// 4/22/15 - Faith No More - Wiltern // 5/15-17/15 - Psycho CA @ Observatory // 5/27/15 - Neutral Milk Hotel @ Warner Grand Theater //6/3/15 - Sufjan Stevens @ Dorothy Chandler
I don't know that I agree with her assessment of the selfie phenomenon, but yeah, those comments represent a huge amount of the responses women face on the internet. It's not confined to pictures, obviously, either - those responses are absolutely in line with someone just posting an opinion or a thought that someone (more or less always a male) disagrees with. If you have any presence on the internet - written, photographic, artistic, anything - you can expect to get bombarded with comments about your looks, sexuality, whether or not you should be raped/are rapeable, etc. It's a nasty and pervasive attitude.
I knew there was a reason I have been taking so many classes on new product development in business school!
My cousin asked me to be her maid-of-honor. I really don't want to be, but I also don't want to disappoint her and our family. She lives in Orange County, so I would need to fly down to see her if she ever needs help with anything. I've been trying to convince her to elope.
I'm already stressed about being maid-of-honor for my friend's wedding that's coming up, even though I haven't helped much. Today, I realized I will be spending at least $1,100 on her wedding (flights out to Denver x2, car rental, lodging, wedding gift), and that cost doesn't even include the bachelorette party.
Robin, if these weddings are causing you financial stress, I think you should seriously consider having a frank conversation with the bride(s). Surely if you outline the situation and suggest that you either (1) modify the situation, or (2) step down, all but the worst bridezillas will be willing to consider alternatives.
Yea, I mean, I know you don't want to disappoint your cousin, but if you're saying you don't want to do it now, and the preparations haven't even begun yet, won't you feel a little resentful that you agreed? Like Courtney said, maybe just say no, or outline what you're able to do (such as - not flying there for planning).
I don't understand why brides pick an out-of-town maid of honor, unless that person is her best friend in the world. It's a lot to ask of someone, both in time and money, to travel for incremental planning/preparations, and it seems like it would be more fun to have someone relatively near by who is also happy to indulge you with each step of the planning.
I will be attending a gatsby-themed charity gala in a couple weeks, and it just occurred to me that I have no sartorial plan whatsoever despite the fact that I will be up on stage presenting for a bit and therefore kind of need to be presentable.
Any ideas for things to wear (in plus sizing) that do not include an ugly flapper-inspired halloween costume that comes in a plastic bag?
Oooh get one of these too!
And maybe a headband with feathers.
(I hope the charity isn't for lung cancer, lol)
robin, i hope you don't have to travel for maid of honor stuff. that would be lame. i am spending about a thousandish dollars next week to be a bridesmaid in jamaica. second time in three months. no more weddings please.
also, if anyone has experience with adenomyosis, please PM me.
Last edited by Robin; 02-11-2014 at 11:11 AM.
i can't believe someone would make you travel to do shit like taste food. hopefully they can find a dress shop that is national so you can try on in your home city. glad you told your cousin that you will only make it if you can financially.
Well, she didn't "make" me. I had a lot of credits from a canceled flight, so going to Denver was a recommendation. The matron of honor also flew out from Missouri to be with us that weekend. Since they're on a budget, we ended up finding dresses on sale at a department store that are non-refundable. I just have to make sure I lose about 10 lbs before the wedding to fit into the dress.
I have a feeling my cousin and her fiance might be a bit more needy. They're super young, and she's already started complaining about the guest list.
Courtney, I've ordered from Simply Be a few times, and the quality of most things has been pretty poor (like, construction looks like a child's sewing project). Their sizes are completely skewed compared to their size charts too -- jackets seem to be normalish but skirts and dresses seem to run 2-3 sizes large in my experience. They're also shipping from overseas, so it can take a really long time. (Returns are sent back to a US address though). Not saying not to try it but I'd definitely suggest having a backup plan.