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    Who's the man here, seriously? If your wife wants to see some other band - let her! Pick a spot and time to meet back up and do it. This is what my wife and I do.

    For example - Lolla 2010 my wife really wanted to see Lady Gaga. I said, "great, I'll be posted up right here in front of the Strokes. Come back and find me (in this exact spot) when you realize just how shitty of a decision you've made." BAM - both parties satisfied!
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    Quote Originally Posted by travelfan View Post
    Is it so unreasonable to assume that somebody who is asserting that her boyfriend not go off on separate sets is because she wants to experience what she loves together? Even if my gf wanted to see something else, I'd be super bummed if she left me to see something else during 66 or Crown of Love, songs that remind me of her and that I'd like to share together. I think it's more misogynistic to assume that it's because she's needy and insecure. Not seeing how assuming someone in a relationship wants to experience things together is anti-woman. But I get it, we're all blind to our prejudices so I'm open to correction.
    So, does she compromise the things she would rather see because she knows you want to experience things with her? Your earlier post suggested that this guy had to give into his wife's demands all the time because that's "Girlfriend 101."

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    Quote Originally Posted by PlayaDelWes View Post
    I was really hoping this thread would have been how to balance conflicts between your wife and your girlfriend over the course of the weekend.
    Yes.
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    Also, I don't trust any couple who don't trust each other to be separated for a period of time.
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    Anyone know who the guy in the Cardinals jersey is? I've seen him in pictures on the board and I thought I saw him this year.

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    Quote Originally Posted by guedita View Post
    So, does she compromise the things she would rather see because she knows you want to experience things with her? Your earlier post suggested that this guy had to give into his wife's demands all the time because that's "Girlfriend 101."
    Mutual. I'm seeing Foster the People for her, she's seeing Replacements for me. If you're going as a couple I think it's silly to assume you won't have to compromise for each other. Should have read Relationship 101 but same sentiment. I was more addressing the idea that somebody who wanted to not see separate sets all weekend is being needy. Music is about connection and shared experiences for tons of people.

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    The how to go to Coachella with other people thread
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    I've always said that music is better with a familiar body standing next you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by travelfan View Post
    Mutual. I'm seeing Foster the People for her, she's seeing Replacements for me. If you're going as a couple I think it's silly to assume you won't have to compromise for each other. Should have read Relationship 101 but same sentiment. I was more addressing the idea that somebody who wanted to not see separate sets all weekend is being needy. Music is about connection and shared experiences for tons of people.
    I can agree with you on that. But, the advice to OP should be that his wife should be considerate enough to compromise for him on some things if he's going to compromise for her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by guedita View Post
    So, does she compromise the things she would rather see because she knows you want to experience things with her? Your earlier post suggested that this guy had to give into his wife's demands all the time because that's "Girlfriend 101."
    Exactly. I'm seeing some shitty pop sets and my gf is seeing some weirdo artsy fartsy shit and sometimes we are separating for sets. It shouldn't be all or none for either side of the party.
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    And stinkbutt leaving a motorhead set when you know he's dying just to talk shit ? Your a shitty person as well .please let mja give you an anal love disease .

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    Quote Originally Posted by travelfan View Post
    Mutual. I'm seeing Foster the People for her, she's seeing Replacements for me. If you're going as a couple I think it's silly to assume you won't have to compromise for each other. Should have read Relationship 101 but same sentiment. I was more addressing the idea that somebody who wanted to not see separate sets all weekend is being needy. Music is about connection and shared experiences for tons of people.
    The problem is, if you read his post, it's not seeing separate sets all weekend. It's seeing separate sets maybe once or twice a day here and there. The issue isn't that she wants to spend time with her husband, nobody sane would have a problem with that. The issue is that she literally wants to spend 100% of the time time together, which does come across as being clingy or having separation anxiety issues. The best solution would be for her to get over it, be willing to split up for a set or two here and there, and both parties having a great weekend. The best realistic solution is for both parties to give a little ground, for her to agree to see some of the sets he wants to see and him to agree to see some of the sets she wants to see. If she still balks at that solution the plan C is murder/dismemberment followed by hiding the pieces in the walls of the house.

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    Quote Originally Posted by guedita View Post
    I can agree with you on that. But, the advice to OP should be that his wife should be considerate enough to compromise for him on some things if he's going to compromise for her.
    Based solely on music taste, not at all on gender norms, I think the advise to OP should be that his wife should stop listening to Skrillex and Bastille for a weekend and jam to some more diverse (albeit music taste is subjective) music. Skrillex and Bastille will always be there, a The Knife music festival seems rare.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TomAz View Post
    Also, I don't trust any couple who don't trust each other to be separated for a period of time.
    Especially if they're Canadian.
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    Bro! Imagine the following scenario: The Replacements start kicking major ass on the Outdoor and bust into "We're Coming Out" at the exact time your wife/girlfriend has to pee. Do you leave, lose your spot and kill your buzz just join her in the port-o-potty? Come on, man! This is fucking amateur hour.
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    Quote Originally Posted by guedita View Post
    I can agree with you on that. But, the advice to OP should be that his wife should be considerate enough to compromise for him on some things if he's going to compromise for her.
    Fair. My comments were less about the breakdown of splitting sets though and more about the idea of why somebody would be resistant to the "if I don't like it and I'd rather see something else, let's both do something different." I don't necessarily see that as insecure or about trust, just that somebody wants to share the whole weekend with their gf or bf. But if that's the way they want to go (no splitting sets) then the compromise has to be mutual. But I get it...I trust my GF obviously but I enjoy watching shows with somebody I love and am willing to see some dog doo if it means she'll share mine in return. The sentiment I was addressing was the "oh she must be needy if she doesn't want to split up." Which I think plays into stereotypes just as much if not more so but of course YMMV.

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    Guys, I said a few posts back that its not about separation anxiety or trust issues. She is small, latina and cruvy and when she gets left alone at festivals she often gets a lot of unwanted attention, which makes her uncomfortable, so she prefer to not be left alone. On top of that, we actually really like each other, music (other than Bastile and Skrillex) is a significant part of our mutual love and respect for each other, we like going to events together because we can talk about music and share a similar passion. I was being cheeky with the jewelry comment, though as I stated later I believe all girlfriends and wives know exactly how to lay on a guilt trip if they would prefer their mate do something they want.

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    The dreaded small curvy latina / Bryan Ferry conflict
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    My girlfriend can go where ever she wants, and I'm going where ever I want. (lol @ my gf wanting to see Skrillex)

    As long as she is with me for Int'l Player's Anthem so we can rap Andre's verse together, all will be fine.

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    Different strokes for different folks, but me and the lady friend are going to be doing our own thing for the most part. Except Sunday, where we'll probably watch NMH>Lana>Disclosure because we're in love or whatever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by craigoneil View Post
    Guys, I said a few posts back that its not about separation anxiety or trust issues. She is small, latina and cruvy and when she gets left alone at festivals she often gets a lot of unwanted attention, which makes her uncomfortable, so she prefer to not be left alone. On top of that, we actually really like each other, music (other than Bastile and Skrillex) is a significant part of our mutual love and respect for each other, we like going to events together because we can talk about music and share a similar passion. I was being cheeky with the jewelry comment, though as I stated later I believe all girlfriends and wives know exactly how to lay on a guilt trip if they would prefer their mate do something they want.
    I guess I don't see the problem then. You want to spend 100% of the time together because she doesn't like being left alone, fine. If she's not actually guilting you about anything then the simplest solution still works: compromise. You go to some of the shows she wants to see, she goes to some of the shows you want to see, everything is copacetic.

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    Always have your significant other pick what you see when you are 50/50 on a conflict or don't have a strong opinion. Better shot of getting your important sets later.

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    Persuade her to blow you with the tent flap open. Try to sync your orgasm up with the outro of "Subterranean Homesick Alien." That should loosen you both up.

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    Dont compromise, lead from the front, wear the trousers.
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    Quote Originally Posted by craigoneil View Post
    Guys, I said a few posts back that its not about separation anxiety or trust issues. She is small, latina and cruvy and when she gets left alone at festivals she often gets a lot of unwanted attention, which makes her uncomfortable, so she prefer to not be left alone. On top of that, we actually really like each other, music (other than Bastile and Skrillex) is a significant part of our mutual love and respect for each other, we like going to events together because we can talk about music and share a similar passion. I was being cheeky with the jewelry comment, though as I stated later I believe all girlfriends and wives know exactly how to lay on a guilt trip if they would prefer their mate do something they want.
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    Went with a grilfriend for the past 3 years. VERY HAPPY I can spread my wings this year and see whatever the fuck i want when i want. Havent had this privilege since 2010
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    Get in a fight with her on thursday and make up on Sunday night. Works every time.

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    Try this:

    Reach your hand down your pants
    Start counting your balls
    If you get to two, say "We'll be fine seeing a couple bands without each other"
    Any less, say "You make the decision for me."

    Problem solved. Have fun.

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    This thread is so stupid it made me want to post on these godforsaken forums for the first time...

    Why don't you just not bring your gf/wife...that's what I'm doing, problem solved.

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    Yes. Why don't you decide when and for what your wife gets to leave the house. Why make her think she has the autonomy to want to experience something at all?

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    If she doesn't want attention, maybe she should have thought twice about being small, Latina, and curvy.
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