Kat, are you guys fighting or just bickering? When gf and I actually fight, we fucking fight. But more frequently we bicker at each other when we're stressed. Normally, we just need a few minutes to breathe and we're cool to talk and get ourselves back on track. We've been together for a decade and things are still great, so I wouldn't worry too much, that shit is very normal. You guys are cognizant of the frequency in which you guys fight and the stress it causes, which is a good sign. Seems just a matter of being a little more patient and devising steps to release pressure before you guys meltdown.