I saw an ad for some sort of dating website where people bid on you as a date. Which seems....strange. Literally, it was advertising for the idea that you can have men try to outbid eachother on you.
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Clicking yes a bunch of times is a lot easier/efficient/successful than sending drab message after message after message trying to make each one sound unique.
I'm not sure how OKcupid works though.
For the most part, this isn't true. You just remember much better when this happens, as opposed to when you're single, meet just one person, and start dating them.
Also, there are some contributory factors as to why this can occur more often when you're single for a long time.
First, when you have been single for a long time, you often become more open to using more forms of meeting prospective dates. This is especially true of women. So while you might have refused to touch something like match.com or OKCupid six months ago, it starts to look more appealing after an extended time of being single.
Second, being involuntarily single for a long time can cause a sense of desperation, causing you to lower your standards, and thus vastly increases your chance of having multiple dating partners concurrently. It also causes the psychological effect of not wanting to dump any of the "lesser" prospects, for fear of the others not working out and finding yourself in another extended period of singleness.
Everybody Wang Chung tonight.
I've never used okcupid, but rating a profile high is not the same thing as being interested in someone.
For example, if I found a 55-year-old woman with a detailed profile that clearly stated what she was looking for, had lots of pictures, and didn't come off as arrogant or generic, I would give it a high rating. I'd basically be saying, "You seem like a good catch. A hope a good 60-year-old man finds you soon." However, I wouldn't have any interest in dating her myself.
Everybody Wang Chung tonight.
Using this method got me three separate dates, 6 numbers, and numerous numerous back and forth messaging in five days.
When I was on OKC I would occasionally go through the Quickmatch thing just because I'd be bored. It's an easy way to kill time and flip through profiles easily, especially if you're on your phone. And giving somebody a rating of 4 stars or more puts them in that Chosen category which I could see as being useful for going back and referring to people you might want to contact, but if you spend like 20 minutes flipping through it you'll end up "choosing" like 40 or 50 people in all likelihood and then it's just way too many to bother messaging. It's just an easy way to quickly browse pictures of people.
It's no more silly than my thought that just checking someones profile will somehow let them know that I might be interested in them and they will then send me a message. That doesn't work either. Even when someone does finally message me I eventually get bored because they just want to message back and forth for 3 months without actually hanging out. I am far too passive for online dating.
You must keep in mind, however, that you are FEMALE. As a male, online dating becomes much more of a numbers game.
I don't think anyone is doubting that people have traded crack for sexual favors. It's just that your story is hard to believe because it's so outlandish. But then again, a lot of things I've done in real life nobody would believe if I posted them.
So wait, how fucking old are you? I thought you were a kid.