Those must have been good days.
Those must have been good days.
Wasn't a bad way to make money. I was picking up independent work as a Reiki massage therapist. Turned out in this city, you'll get at least a couple of clients who are really just bored housewives. When you're already a cute young guy and you're really fucking good with your hands, most of these clients will want the same thing men want when they get massages.
It'll happen naturally at some point and be awkward as hell and I won't have to pay for it. Big deal.
All the stuff from earlier in the year where I was talking about how I don't want to have sex with someone unless I love her was bullshit emotional baggage from my last relationship. I've since realized how bogus it was.
Look, my biggest problem is that it takes me a while to warm up to people. It takes me about 6 months to get to feel like I can act naturally around them. With women it's probably more. It's not because sex is on my mind or isn't, it's because I feel like I'm constantly being judged.
I'm getting better though. I'm learning to stop caring as much and actually have fun with it. Flirt. Tease. Be a dick. I feel like I'm actually finally living through my early 20s right now where I'm starting to figure shit out.
So . . . Give Icey a massage and help him get it over with.
You guys act like the whole world will change when I get laid for the first time. Newsflash: I'll still be just as shy as I was before, except I can brag on the internet about the one time someone made me their mistake.
Well, this does seem like an improvement. I was convinced you were asexual.
See, that's your problem. Maybe it will be different. Maybe you will start to regard yourself as somebody's treasure & not their mistake. Either way, you need to start embracing yourself as the best fuck around whether you are or not. It's the greatest love of all.
Icey, dude, seriously, I'll look through some ads for you and find you a nice girl, but trust me this is the way to go.
Stop with all this "having sex with someone you love" shit. Because here's the thing: at your age, nobody wants to take a virginity. Nobody wants to take a virginity PERIOD, especially if you're a guy. But that's fine--that's what whores are for. You shell out 300-400 for a couple hours with a really attractive, experienced woman who will be warm and inviting and understanding of your situation, and if you talk to them ahead of time you can explain that you're a virg and you're looking to drop your cherry but also kinda get a quick tutorial on some of the things you should know by this point so that you can get back to dating. You'll find a whore with a kind heart--believe it or not, as much as a lot of the business are sad cases of women trapped into this lifestyle, some of them are really nice women who enjoy sex and know that their biggest marketable skill is their ability to make a man feel adored and they're putting it to use. They won't judge you, they will be able to calm your nerves, they'll show you a good time but more importantly they're the kind of girls who won't make you feel weird if you ask them to show you how to touch a pussy properly. They'll give you really good tips, you'll walk into your next date with a million times more confidence and ease.
I agree with Randy. Or, goto the foxfire or one of those cougar joints. I had an old divorce once who really showed me the ebb and flow of love making. Whores might not give you that.
Edit: young white American girls are terrible at sex
Icey, I think you're underestimating how much penetrating a woman changes your psyche.
The validation would be nice and it'd be nice to get off but I seriously doubt it's going to change my life.
Exactly, it's NOT going to change your life so just get her done.
It has nothing to do with penetration. The boy has no idea how to be intimate. I hate using that word but that's really what it is. Forget about fucking or anything close to it--he doesn't know how to touch a woman yet. He doesn't know the spots on her body to run his fingers along, he doesn't know where they like to be squeezed, he doesn't know how much the feeling of a man's hand on the small of their back does to them and to yourself--it's the hugest part of the bonding process that actually makes sex good. This is the stuff he needs to learn so that he can land pussy on his own.
Come on guys, turning someone down that you're not interested in is a sign of healthy self respect. It means I'm not desperate
Please get laid Icey, please.
2 oz blended whiskey
Juice of 1/2 lemon
1/2 tsp powdered sugar
1/2 slice lemon
Shake blended whiskey, juice of lemon, and powdered sugar with ice and strain into a whiskey sour glass. Decorate with the half-slice of lemon, top with the cherry, and serve.
See, now you've made FB desperate.
And since you place such great value, you need to get it through your fucking head that THIS is an essential step on the road to someone loving you. If you can't hold a fucking woman in your arms and make her feel safe, if you don't know how to prop her head up in the nook of your shoulder... you're fucked. Your "love" will not happen. So don't even fuck the whore if you wanna be like that about it, but you should still buy one for a GFE/educational slot for a night and just get this shit out of the way.
I became good with women when an older and insanely sexualized female friend of mine--she had stopped counting how many men she'd been with when she was 21 and the number was over 110--saw my socially awkward 16 year old self and said, "Okay, I'm gonna fix you up." And thank god she fucking did because just getting all that other bullshit out of the way (not to mention the whole part where she gave me a bisexual bondage freak's insight into how to handle women) DRASTICALLY changed my life. With the pressure of it off and the mystique of it taken away, I could be myself around chicks.
Yeah, Randy's right about touching women's backs.... especially when you're behind them so they can't see but only feel you. Then blow into her ear and kiss her neck. Then reach down and start playing with her crotch. Don't worry, she'll guide you. And the Goaaaaaaaal! Once you figure it out Icey you'll be like " how come I don't do this to them all the time"
I want in on some of the bisexual bondage freak's insight.
What's the title?