It Rubs The Lotion On Its Skin: A Thread About Dating

[locachica73]

After a 4 month dating break I have decided to try again. I have a date on Thursday with someone who seems to be very mature. I am sure it will go horribly, but I can't help but to be slightly excited about it.

[guedita]

1. Why are you sure it will go horribly -- this isn't a good attitude

2. How does he seem mature?

[locachica73]

Previous dating experience just has me a little leary I suppose. As everyone has pointed out my picker is broken, which becomes more and more obvious with every dating adventure. He has a good job, a drivers license, a car, a house and can carry on a decent conversation, there has to be something wrong with him, right? He has kids, which is normally against my rules, but he seems to be a very good dad which I find strangly sexy.

[guedita]

Good dads are incredibly sexy, you shouldn't find that strange.

This piece is great:

http://jezebel.com/5977447/how-to-ge...g=first-person

[fiopadp7791]

Good dads are incredibly sexy, you shouldn't find that strange.

This piece is great:

http://jezebel.com/5977447/how-to-ge...g=first-person

Wow... as much of a dolt as I can be at times, I don't think I've ever been as bad as the guy in the article... but then again, I doubt I would've asked to go in with her.

[miscorrections]

That IS an unfortunate situation. I've had it happen before - and as much as you like to think you'd be assertive enough to just say, "Please leave," it rarely pans out that way. Sigh.

[amyzzz]

I'd probably just sleep with the douchebag.

[Archie Bunker]

Previous dating experience just has me a little leary I suppose. As everyone has pointed out my picker is broken, which becomes more and more obvious with every dating adventure. He has a good job, a drivers license, a car, a house and can carry on a decent conversation, there has to be something wrong with him, right? He has kids, which is normally against my rules, but he seems to be a very good dad which I find strangly sexy.

You are about to turn 40.

Time to stop ruling out dudes with kids.

[locachica73]

Not kids in general, just young kids. I am looking forward to traveling now that I am done raising my kids. The idea of starting over is really scary. This guy doesnt just have kids, he has 5 year old triplets... Eek. He also has a full time nanny though, so I am going to look past it. Plus, 5 year old triplets sounds cuter than a basket full of puppies.

[Sleepingrock]

Just got out of a three year relationship. No intention of getting into another anytime soon. It was mutual, long distance just wasn't going to work for us and I am focusing on myself more in Vancouver, I've got to grow and mature on my own right now. It was a clean break, and we are going to maintain our friendship and maybe some "cuddles" too.

My issue of not knowing how to hit on women will only be worse now.

[chairmenmeow47]

awww, so sorry to hear <3 i hope you're doing ok.

[Robin]

How does this Valentine's Day thing work? I've been dating a guy for about 3 months, and I'm not sure if I should get him something cheesily small. Or should I just try to avoid him around that holiday?

[PlayaDelWes]

Maybe like a babybell or lauging cow?

[RotationSlimWang]

SUCK HIM OFF

[marooko]

^...

[ENluv12]

Robin, I would do something small, yes. And then the suckie suckie.

[chairmenmeow47]

Maybe like a babybell or lauging cow?

lulz

[weeklymix]

Maybe like a babybell or lauging cow?

A single one, don't give him a bag or mini wheel.

[SlowMotionApocalypse]

As hot of a fantasy it is, I do not see taking advantage of a total desperado to be very fulfilling in the reality. Not to mention I am afraid of being robbed.

[Miroir Noir]

I pity anyone who hits Valentine's Day like two or three months into a relationship. It's such a stupid holiday to begin with, but at least everyone has settled expectations if they are just casually dating or are in a long-term relationship.

[chairmenmeow47]

i had a first date on valentine's day once (his choice, not mein), and it ended up being one of the best dates ever. but we didn't take it seriously, got bbq, smoked blunts, watched a shitty movie, and had sweaty sex.

[SlowMotionApocalypse]

I pity anyone who hits Valentine's Day like two or three months into a relationship. It's such a stupid holiday to begin with, but at least everyone has settled expectations if they are just casually dating or are in a long-term relationship.

I am taking myself out on a date.

[guedita]

I pity anyone who hits Valentine's Day like two or three months into a relationship. It's such a stupid holiday to begin with, but at least everyone has settled expectations if they are just casually dating or are in a long-term relationship.

Yeah. Robin, if your only concern is to get him something "because" it's Valentine's Day all that does is demonstrate is how this holiday has structured us to collectively think that we need to give gifts on a certain day that celebrates what exactly? The fact that you have someone to give something to? It's so fucking stupid and I've never understood it.

In highschool on Valentine's Day one year my boyfriend gave me one of those fucking elephants where when you press its foot its trunk would waggle and some dumb love song sang. Quite obviously bought at a CVS store. He gave it to me in the car and then said, "well, do I get a blow job now?" Nope.

[SlowMotionApocalypse]

Whatever you want Guedita, just name it.

[JustSteve]

I pity anyone who hits Valentine's Day like two or three months into a relationship. It's such a stupid holiday to begin with, but at least everyone has settled expectations if they are just casually dating or are in a long-term relationship.

Met my wife dec. 2004, we spent valentines 2005 in Paris. Seems to have worked out pretty well.

[Robin]

Maybe like a babybell or lauging cow?

I might just get him a small bag of those little cheeses, and then eat it all.

SUCK HIM OFF

I do anyways.

I pity anyone who hits Valentine's Day like two or three months into a relationship. It's such a stupid holiday to begin with, but at least everyone has settled expectations if they are just casually dating or are in a long-term relationship.

I've been avoiding talking about Valentine's Day, but I do mention Steak and Blow Job Day a lot. I keep telling him to take that day off work.

[Miroir Noir]

Met my wife dec. 2004, we spent valentines 2005 in Paris. Seems to have worked out pretty well.

Okay, so less pity, more envy in your case.

[Zafocaine]

Yeah. Robin, if your only concern is to get him something "because" it's Valentine's Day all that does is demonstrate is how this holiday has structured us to collectively think that we need to give gifts on a certain day that celebrates what exactly? The fact that you have someone to give something to? It's so fucking stupid and I've never understood it.

In highschool on Valentine's Day one year my boyfriend gave me one of those fucking elephants where when you press its foot its trunk would waggle and some dumb love song sang. Quite obviously bought at a CVS store. He gave it to me in the car and then said, "well, do I get a blow job now?" Nope.

Not into blow jobs, or insulted by the proposition? He shouldn't have asked. Sometimes you have to ask with body language. A husky girl like you ought to be giving up that road head on special occasions though

[JustSteve]

Okay, so less pity, more envy in your case.

Good to start out big, then we both know there is no topping it, so less pressure year to year to outdo the previous one.

[amyzzz]

Wow you guys must all be great lovers.