It won't happen because I don't believe it can happen. If that makes sense.
Not entirely against it, though.
Actually, I'm sorry to those who have been annoyed by this exchange, but it helped me a lot and helped me realize I'm ok with things this way.
What a putz. Even Urkle gets layed. See a therapist. Or maybe you're gay. Figure it out
Vigo clearly wants Icey
Mugwog. shut up
Icey, you're bland, not ugly. Your attitude is clearly the main impediment to not getting girls to go out/hang out with you, sex or no sex. And of all things, why would you post here when you're feeling low about your sex life?
Everyone here is so supportive, why wouldn't you post your problems in real life here?
That being said supposedly I'm being set-up with someone this weekend. Should be fun considering last time I was set up it was quite the interesting experience, not for the best, but still fun. So this time I'm in charge of setting up what we do. What would be some fun things to do for a group of four? I know there is always a bar and I'm sure we will end up at one at some point but I want a different idea. I'm thinking mini golf but never have done that on a first date so not sure if it's good idea or not. I'm open to any and all suggestions.
I'm actually grateful to this thread tonight because it helped me spell things out for myself and figure out that I only feel bad about not dating because I'm trying to live up to other people's expectations of what I should be doing, when in reality... I don't date because it's not something that would be good for me or that I want to do. I mean, I grew up with 6 older brothers, who were always dating, and constantly got asked by others why I wasn't/told I should, love is hugely overplayed in our society, but at the end of the day, it's just not for everyone, and that doesn't make me any better or worse of a person for being one of those people who will never experience it.
I actually read an article recently that suggested 1% of the world population has little to no sex drive at all, making quite a many millions of people technically asexual. I'm not sure how they came about that conclusion but it's worth googling. I doubt how many of those millions of asexual brothers and sisters have a complete fear of intimacy like yourself. Personally, I think that the vast majority of people who aren't actively seeking love, which includes you Icey, are probably clinically depressed. It's nothing to be ashamed of but you probably should seek professional mental help.
Last edited by VigoTheCarpathian; 12-11-2012 at 06:47 PM.
Isn't Bradford Coxs celibate too?
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I had an incredibly awkward situation arise yesterday thanks to god damn OKCupid. I was working from home, had overslept even though I'd gotten to sleep in, and decided to run to Starbucks in my pajamas, covered by a long coat, and with a hat on to cover my bedhead. Yes, I'm gross.
The hat is a pretty distinctive one.
That I'd forgotten was in my OKC profile photo.
At the store, this guy keeps staring at me, every time I'd catch him looking, he'd look away, and then stare again as soon as I pretended to look away. Something about him was familiar. A couple of minutes later, I was fiddling with the OKC app on my phone while waiting for my coffee, and I realize it's a guy who'd sent me a bunch of messages on OKCupid... he shows up in "locals," he must live near me. I check my history and yup, he was looking up my profile while I was at Starbucks.
Came home and deleted that photo. Now I feel like I can't wear my favorite hat for a while...
And, I don't know why I'd ask you maladjusted weirdos for advice, but I've been corresponding with this guy on OKCupid, who I don't find particularly attractive physically (though he's not ugly or anything) but who seemed nice enough. This was part of my effort to not immediately rule out people for not being hot. :P
Anyway, he contacted me first, I replied, and now we've exchanged a dozen messages via the site. He always replies pretty quickly when I answer his messages (I delay, because I'm a jerk :/ ). Yet he's never made me feel like he wants to meet.
How long do I indulge this without suggesting a meet-up? Or do I just want to avoid this one, if he can't be aggressive enough to suggest this himself after weeks of messages?
I have a feeling he's far too 'nice'.
To make matters worse, the crazy old lady who always yammers about my hat was there too at the same time. So as I was trying to avoid looking in the direction of the guy, I have to contend with this old lady going "Why are you wearing my hat? That's my hat!... I like your hat!" etc. (I've never even seen her wear a hat. This is how she always reacts to mine.)