It Rubs The Lotion On Its Skin: A Thread About Dating

[Dogvolta]

http://www.businessinsider.com/okcupid-tips-2012-10

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Here is some real advice, for guys at least. Online dating services are like at home treadmills/weights/dvd work outs. If one doesn't already do some form of exercise (gym, running, swimming, etc) and/or one is too lazy and unmotivated to do that shit, purchasing that at home equipment and dvd will NOT get his/her ass in shape and it will NOT motivate him/her to get in shape and it will NOT motivate him/her to live a healthier life and it will NOT motivate him/her to even use the shit that was just bought.
Those things are there for the convenience of those that already have the determination to get in shape and stay in shape and live an active lifestyle and/or for those that already live that way.

How does this relate, in my opinion, to online dating? Same thing. If a male has always been too scared to talk to (let alone meet) women, online dating will not help, in fact, it may hurt. It only gives a false sense of comfort hiding behind a computer screen. A scared, nervous, timid guy runs the risk of never actually growing out of that phase when constantly relying on emails, online photos, profiles, questionnaires, surveys, all that bullshit.
It seems, to me, that this online dating is most beneficial for those that actually get themselves out there and already interact w/ the opposite sex (or same sex, depending on preference). Online dating just adds a level of convenience to be taken advantage of by those that actually have an idea of how to interact with another interested party.

Of course, the other side of the coin, I admit this shit can be used to help someone's balls drop, just like at home fitness equipment can help someone really get in shape that was always out of shape. So what do I know. And it's worth saying that I am completely inexperienced in online dating, I've only been dabbling the past few weeks...with success I might add (though I do consider myself incredibly lucky in one case, honestly, I hardly had a part in how fortunate I've been with this one particular woman).

[guedita]

I'm dating this guy from South India and I know that English isn't his first language and maybe the British do this too and that's just what he was taught but he always says "today evening" in text messages. Is that a British thing? What the hell is that?

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

I'm dating this guy from South India and I know that English isn't his first language and maybe the British do this too and that's just what he was taught but he always says "today evening" in text messages. Is that a British thing? What the hell is that?

However, this was my favorite answer:

[jackstraw94086]

I'm dating this guy from South India and I know that English isn't his first language and maybe the British do this too and that's just what he was taught but he always says "today evening" in text messages. Is that a British thing? What the hell is that?

you know what he means. The bigger question is whether he does that Indian sideways head nod thing where you can't tell if they're nodding in agreement or disagreement. That shit's ambiguous.

[TomAz]

The bigger question is whether he does that Indian sideways head nod thing where you can't tell if they're nodding in agreement or disagreement. That shit's ambiguous.

I was just about to post this. Damn that can be confusing.

[amyzzz]

I need a gif of this sideways nod business.

[TomAz]

can't find one, just youtubes.

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

i love youtube comments so much

[TomAz]

[TomAz]

[guedita]

^ That's who I'm dating, actually.

[NachoCat]

Online dating is the easiest thing Ive ever done. I thought I was going to hate this whole dating game and going through the motions of all the questions and blah blahhh blahh. Honestly though, its pretty exciting to just go out and meet some random person and see how it goes. Women are easy.

[ThatGirl]

you know what he means. The bigger question is whether he does that Indian sideways head nod thing where you can't tell if they're nodding in agreement or disagreement. That shit's ambiguous.

I went to India for work a few years back, and the way it was explained to me is that a head shake isn't meant to be agreement or disagreement - it's more a physical gesture that they understand you. At first it is confusing as hell though.

[amyzzz]

Thanks for posting that. I did not picture it in my head correctly.

[chairmenmeow47]

Online dating is the easiest thing Ive ever done. I thought I was going to hate this whole dating game and going through the motions of all the questions and blah blahhh blahh. Honestly though, its pretty exciting to just go out and meet some random person and see how it goes. Women are easy.

i'm sure you do well

i'm thinking that now that i'm thirty, i need to learn to accept a little cushion in the pushin. almost every message i get is from someone chubby. not that i'm thin myself, but i guess i am just superficial.

[getbetter]

^ That's who I'm dating, actually.

He better be coming to max cooper.I wanna make him a special hat with lights on it.

[ods..]

i'm thinking that now that i'm thirty, i need to learn to accept a little cushion in the pushin. almost every message i get is from someone chubby. not that i'm thin myself, but i guess i am just superficial.

you'll come around

[IceyHotshot]

I got another date off OKC. I'm pretty sure she's overweight though can't really tell from pictures. But I can't be picky. She's into metal and likes Sunn O))) and seems extremely opinionated. Should be fun.

[saranater]

You don't want to date the extremely hot ones that are online dating. Every guy I've been on a date with that is über hot from a site has a serious personality flaw, if he has personality at all, that is. Just this week a guy told me I'm probably good at swimming because of my big boobs. What a waste of a pretty face. I'm exclusively dating less attractive men fom meow on. No more pretty boys.

[Still-ill]

If she likes Sunn o))), then you're good to go.

[Mugwog]

Every guy must pay his fat woman tax

[chiapet]

"Look, (____)" I said, "sometimes I just have to get high and lock myself in my house and watch hours of television with complete disregard for whoever I might have made plans with."

Same but without the television. I don't want to even try to date anymore. Need to just find some guys for the aforementioned activities. All future dates should take place inside my apartment.

[Dogvolta]

I work out frequently, I value staying in shape and feeling good and healthy (honestly I do it to feel physicaly good and mentally good/clear, not because I want to be muscles malone, in fact, I am lacking in the bulk department). Does that make me shallow for being bothered by how many overweight women are on dating sites?

[guedita]

Are you bothered by how many overweight women there are in real life? You live in the United States, pal.

[Dogvolta]

Are you bothered by how many overweight women there are in real life? You live in the United States, pal.

Well said. I will eat my words.

[HotHamWater]

Pal

[Robin]

Well said. I will eat my words.

And I will eat this candy bar while looking up profiles on a dating site.

[guedita]

Some guys initiate the most boring conversations ever on OKC.

You ate stunningly beautiful!

I did. But I found it a bit salty. I hear breathtakingly gorgeous is better on the palate

That was a typo. I meant you are stunningly beautiful.

OH. Thanks for deciphering that for me. I had no idea.

What do you do for fun?

Ketamine. Binge eating Sushi. Karaoke. Sometimes all at once.

I like watching movies.

[chiapet]

"Ketamine."

I actually just laughed out loud at work and now people wonder what I'm doing. It's bad enough that I was already painting my nails and reading the board rather than doing anything productive.

[Courtney]

Ha Heidi.

I don't understand the way some of you talk about dating/sleeping with overweight people. It seems pretty simple to me: if you are attracted to someone, date/sleep with that person. If you're not, don't. Why would anyone embark on any sort of relationship, however temporal or long-lasting, when one does not find that relationship appealing?