Does he have a friend named Lennie?
2 oz blended whiskey
Juice of 1/2 lemon
1/2 tsp powdered sugar
1/2 slice lemon
Shake blended whiskey, juice of lemon, and powdered sugar with ice and strain into a whiskey sour glass. Decorate with the half-slice of lemon, top with the cherry, and serve.
whatever retarded shit he said after that i have no idea, I'm afraid.
And Kat, unless the conversation is VERY bizarre, I always like being approached by a woman. Someone just making eye contact is not going to get me over to them, they could just be looking at something weird stuck to my shirt or trying to calculate my heart attack risk. If she says something first, then I know that she wants to talk to me at a minimum. Never hurts to talk. However, if the woman is way too young for me, or way "out of my league", I'm still going to talk, but I might not be as engaged because I will get a little "what does she want?" defensive. You seem to have a bit of an inferiority complex, so this might be you and you don't know it.
To sum up, a super-hot girl approaching me is definitely welcomed, but I'm probably going to be questioning her motives. I can guarantee that no one is finding you "repulsive" unless you are talking crazy talk.
Take him on a tour of Lombard Street.Originally Posted by george
kittkat needs a date. with this guy: PrinceValiumJMBullock.jpg
As for approaching guys, what works best for me is to say something that will give me more than a one word response or mention something that may be interesting to him. "Hey. What's up?" doesn't get me much, but maybe notice something about him. Maybe his drink of choice? And start talking about it.
After several e-mails back and forth I just asked Carrie out for a drink. Now I await her reply. This could be huge as I have not asked a stranger out on a date in ........ geez I would rather not say. It's kind of embarrassing.
About the approaching guys thing: I have no problem with this. I have no problem with being really explicit about my intentions also, so it's very clear.
However, I find that I end up dating sort of passive, not very confident guys as a result. So I think you have to be cautious about how much you are willing to make the first move and what that means about the tenor that is being set for the rest of the relationship. Learn from my mistakes.
"so where do you want to eat?"
"wherever, I don't care"
"well I could eat anything"
"ok, how about Indian?"
"oh I'll eat anything but Indian."
The guy that I've been seeing has been a good sport on deciding what we've had to eat on our dates. He hasn't exactly experienced many types of food that aren't mexican, pizza or hamburgers so my work is cut out for me. On our first date I suggested that we have Thai food since it's one of my favorites and not only did he agree to it, he actually loved it! granted, he only had the pad thai but I also let him try my curry and he seemed to like it too. I really like that he's willing to try new things and on our third date I got him to have sushi for the first time. He said he liked all that we tried (mostly Nigiri and a spider roll) but he did get full after the first round of an all-you-can-eat place, so maybe he didn't like it as much as he said (though he loved the unagi!).
Date 3 went pretty well and date 4 is this weekend. He may have stayed the night, but I'm not going to confirm anything :-p
We fooled around quite a bit and the next day he asked if I thought he was moving too fast. I told him that I was far from innocent and had an equal share of the blame on how things went that night but I do want to take things slowly since I have a lot on my plate for the next three months. I feel like "the talk" is coming fairly soon because he followed that up with a "taking things slow is fine, but I don't want to take things too slow either" and I agreed.
Don't think. Just let it flow.
But I do still have trouble with that first step into turning things physical, and that's on me. I've been fairly aggressive (for me, anyway) with Ms Veggie Burger, with nothing but positive signals, but I think I still blew the opportunity for a kiss on our first "real" date. I'm determined to remedy this soon though.
Last edited by M Sparks; 02-28-2012 at 12:47 PM. Reason: removed a stupid statement that is probably true of everyone.
A conversation on one of the phone bear dating apps.
--hey whats up
Not much. Woke up from a nap a little while ago. You?
--u gay or bi
--that i am gay
Sure if it works for you.
--u live alone
Nah. Live with my mom at the moment.
--does mom know your gay
--is she ok with it
More or less.