Show it to her, Lee.
This is a pretty cool place,Lee .http://brew-ligion.com/ also Ironfire brewery is really good.I would recommend if you can meet up in Carlsbad some where nice so it not such a miserble enivorment.
Last edited by getbetter; 12-03-2013 at 07:30 AM.
personally i agree that you should meet in her hood first, then maybe yours. why should both people be inconvenienced?
in addition, online dating exists for a reason. i'm sure a lot of us would love to meet people when we go out, but it doesn't always happen.
Holy shit the sky has fallen. I actually went on a date. A real one. This was my first date in umm a couple of years. I met her shortly after getting into the Joint last month in Vegas for night one of Nine Inch Nails. We talked for about 45 minutes or so before the show started, she was alone and met up with people after the show started much like I did. We had a lot in common and exchanged phone numbers. I sent her a text after the show that night and then not much happened for a couple of weeks. Then about a week ago a friend who just came back from SE Asia said he had an extra vacation day and wanted to go to Vegas. Once I got there I texted her and asked her if she was free for dinner. She was hesitant at first but then made some time.
She lives in Vegas on the edge of the art district and drove to the casino I was staying at. We went to a hiking group "meet-up" with people she has known for a few years. It being a first date I think this made her more comfortable. We had a few drinks and spent about 3 hours there. After that we went to a bar she likes. We had a couple of more drinks and talked for another couple of hours. It was good. She had family in town the next day and I came back to Phoenix the next morning. I told her I would love to come back and take her to dinner somewhere quiet so we can get to know each other some more and she agreed that she would like that. We connected on facebook as much as I tried to avoid that so I gave her fair warning about my awful rants, she found it amusing.
Anyway, happy I finally had a date is all and wanted to share. I had to force myself get this far. I was full of anxiety and doubt which is the worst but I never let it show. I almost didn't even bother texting but I am at the point that I would absolutely hate myself for not trying or putting forth effort. At the very least this was long overdue practice with lots of positives to take away. I'm hoping to head back in a couple of weeks to see her again depending availablity. This was what I needed to convince me to put more effort into meeting women in general because frankly I have fear and anxiety when it comes to this stuff. Thank you booze for helping me the night I met her.
One concern of mine was being in some "friend zone". I always land there so I was certain to make it clear whenever I could this was more than just two friends hanging out and that worked. Once she mentioned that I had "picked her up at the NIN show". Later in the night when we were alone I made it clear I wanted to take her out one on one soon and I would return just to do that and she said she would love to. She also mentioned the burn more than once so she has either done burning man or helped friends with installations. She also does a lot of those novelty runs like everyone wears a pajamas or some such.
Done. Thank you.
Hot date tonight.
wow, I haven't posted in this thread in ages. I'm still with my current boyfriend that I met on a dating site, so put me in the "works for me" category. we've been together almost 2 years now and we've even gone on a few trips together (one of them being Austin for ACL). I took him to his first coachella last year, too, and that's when we really started getting close. the last few months we've kind of been living together part time and I've gotten to know his son (11) really well. since he works nights, I often get to be the kid's caregiver which has been a bit of an eyeopener for me.
like getbetter said, the Carlsbad area has lots of nice places to eat/drink and you're also not far from the beach for the beach at sunset thing.
also, I'm sure she's pretty used to driving an hour to do just about anything. living here, I always say that it takes an hour to get anywhere, but you can get almost anywhere in an hour from here...
if you have any questions about places in the area, let me know!
Beth, on which dating site did you meet your boyfriend?
OKC. I've used other dating sites, but they've mostly just led to dates from hell, a few of them the kind that you have to make an excuse to use the restroom and never come back! OKC wasn't perfect, but I found the quality of guys to be far better than PoF, for example. of course, there's still a bunch of BS to sift through before you can find the people that are worth your time, so I would always exchange several messages before giving out my number and then talk to them on the phone a few times before actually meeting in person. it's worked out OK for me I guess.
I've found that OKC's matching system seems to be more accurate than any of the other sites.
OKC also makes it a lot easier to weed out weak lays.
I'll tell you one of the main reasons I chose to respond and meet my boyfriend, though. communication. He sent me a well thought out (and written!) message that addressed himself as well as responded to or inquired about things listed on my profile. that, in combination with his profile and the many messages and emails we exchanged gave me a pretty good understanding of what he was about before I even met him or spoke to him on the phone.
I could also tell that it wasn't a form letter that he sent to everyone. as a girl, I can't tell you how many form letters I'd get from guys. ugh. but at least they are better than the random hookup messages (possibly from Randy, I guess? )
I'm thinking of signing up for a pay dating site like eharmony. Has anyone here had any experience with one?
We're here to play some Mississippi Delta Blues. We're in a horrible depression, and I gotta admit - we're starting to like it.
I haven't gone on a date since forever. I live at home still NOT for reasons because I'm in financial disarray or don't have a job or anything that might categorize me as a loser, but because I moved back home a few years ago so that I could have a job (which actually fell through after the company financially imploded, so now I'm stuck at one I actually hate and didn't think I would be at for this long. My goal is to find a new job and hopefully move altogether, but these days, nothing is guaranteed.) Fast forward four years and my social life is dead as evidenced by posting this on a Saturday night. I live in a typical suburban sprawl with no major cities with a life to it within two hours of driving, everyone around me that's in my age range is either married with kids or a complete disaster and it really sucks being forced into not having a social life.
I've tested the waters of dating sites, but think OK Cupid is probably the one with the most depth to it and accuracy. Even with filling out my profile as much as I can, though, I'm afraid that because of the type of area I live in, the matches are pretty boring or look like the trashiest cast members of Teen Mom all grown up. Throw into the mix that it's really important to me that I find someone who has relatively similar interests in what the world outside would categorize as non-traditional music tastes, and it's pretty discouraging.
I have no idea what to do anymore. It's like I'm stuck in purgatory and have no idea when I'm going to be able to do more with my life other than sleep, work and enjoy my self-entertaining hobbies, but otherwise might as well not exist. I'm starting to feel like those people who you meet who are in their mid-40s and are hopelessly single is going to be me in 15 years.
You need to start with a better attitude.
My confidence and optimism has plummeted over the last few years and I'll be the first to admit that. I was more of a human when I was 25 than I am now. Life makes no sense.