It Rubs The Lotion On Its Skin: A Thread About Dating

[lt.roast.a.botch]

Since your ex was the one that initiated the contact, she is in no position to be jealous. Sadly, as I'm sure you already know, many women are not rational. I say pursue the friend, hopefully the ex won't be an issue, but if she is you'll have to assess whether the new girl is worth the drama.

best advice given on this thread that i've read

[ramblinon]

Since your ex was the one that initiated the contact, she is in no position to be jealous. Sadly, as I'm sure you already know, many women are not rational. I say pursue the friend, hopefully the ex won't be an issue, but if she is you'll have to assess whether the new girl is worth the drama.

Agreed on all counts. The friend is actually really cool, we gel very nicely, and (honestly) is more attractive than the ex. Considering neither will end up being Marriage Material, it makes it an easy decision.

An amusing sidenote: I met the ex through another woman I used to date and stayed very good friends with as well. All from the same workplace. Slowly but surely, I am achieving my Ironic Master Plan of infecting the entire health care industry with HPV. Just kidding. Mostly.

[algunz]

And, as I mentioned, don't be so quick to discount the threesome.

[ramblinon]

The ex is now bothered by it and trying to goad the friend into not seeing me anymore. Hmmph.

I suppose this would be why meeting women through ex's is not generally seen as a viable way of meeting them.

[Robin]

I feel like, at my age (25), and having such little experience dating, I'm now at a point where I've been single for so long and I'm so old that I just don't give a fuck anymore. It sounds melodramatic but I feel like I'd rather not try to date anymore, as I'm comfortable with myself and my life right now. I've been on a few dates lately and they were mediocre at best. My friends think I'm being an idiot and need to keep trying, but I'm not sure I see the point. Thoughts?

If you're content with your life, then don't listen to your friends. Some people are happy being single. It's your prerogative.
Why try to do something you don't want to do?

[TomAz]

Sadly, as I'm sure you already know, many people are not rational.

Fixed. Women are the most irrational people on the planet, with the exception of men.

[guedita]

So have we really all just ignored ramble's use of the capitalized term "Marriage Material?" WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO US?

Used my beer pong skills to score last night. Thanks college.

[SoulDischarge]

I've ignored everything ramblinon's done or said, so I'm faultless in this.

[lehorne]

may have been propositioned yesterday ("The doctor wants to know if you make house calls"). Uh-oh. Guess we'll find out.

[HotHamWater]

may have been propositioned yesterday ("The doctor wants to know if you make house calls"). Uh-oh. Guess we'll find out.

........what?

[lehorne]

Passing her in the hallway could see the googly eyes and ten minutes later her staff member asked that question. Covering for a partner who is on a fishing trip and he says he’s never been to the doctor’s house in the three years that he’s serviced her account. He’s also fifteen years older than me and overweight. Could be wrong, but probably not.

[suprefan]

[JustSteve]

What are: three things Supre has never had?

Did I win?

[Mugwog]

What are: three things Supre has never had?

Did I win?

[RotationSlimWang]

Does anyone else find it fucking adorable and simultaneously really sad when Supre pretends he has sexual thoughts about women?

[obzen]

dun.
dun.
dun.

[IceyHotshot]

Trying to go with my friends' advice and put myself out there anyway. Texted one of the girls who I had gone on a date with and had suggested we go out again, and got rejected. Dealing with that by messaging women on OKC. We'll see if this goes anywhere (unlikely, but worth a try).

[TheMadeleine]

I don't know why I never checked this thread out before.

I have been officially, completely single/ex-free for four months, and so far the single life has been comprised of a few false-starts and occasional mediocre sex. I've tried to go outside my comfort zone but my efforts read like a grown-up version of Goldilocks: this one is too fat, this one is too old, this one showed up on LSD. On the other end there are the ones who seem great off the bat, then quickly deteriorate from there. It's not hard for me to meet guys (I'm into girls too, for the record), but I'm having a hard time meeting anyone I want to see more than once or twice, much less fuck or commit to.

I told myself that if I didn't meet anyone special in Brazil or at Coachella I would bite the bullet and sign up for match.com. I figure I should be open to all facets of meeting people, because you never know where The One may be.

Anyhoo yeah kind of a bummer right now but there are so many people in the same place as I am, and anyway I'm happiest snuggled up on the couch with wine, netflix, and dog. I have faith the rest will come.

[RageAgainstTheAoki]

Last year I went on a date with a guy to a pretty decent restaurant in LA. The usual thing these days. Small plates, good cocktails. But, you could easily get out of there for about $40 ea including drinks and tip. He told me that he didn't want to share the small plates because it was unhygienic. He ordered over $80 worth of food and drinks for himself and he took three - count them - three calls from his mother while at dinner. When the check came, he informed me that he thought he'd left his wallet at home. If it wasn't a restaurant I wanted to come back to again, I would have said I had to use the bathroom and left him there to handle the entire check without his wallet. Oh, and, I met the guy volunteering at a shelter. Looking back on it, perhaps I had actually taken a surprisingly dapper looking homeless dude out for a good meal.

Also agree that $120 is too much for a first date.

^ This guy texted me at 2am this morning. Too see "what's up." Ha. Our whirlwind romance ended on that first date and I hadn't seen him since. Took me a few mins to remember who "Edgar - Date" was.

[algunz]

He sounds like a real catch.

[JustSteve]

Trying to go with my friends' advice and put myself out there anyway. Texted one of the girls who I had gone on a date with and had suggested we go out again, and got rejected. Dealing with that by messaging women on OKC. We'll see if this goes anywhere (unlikely, but worth a try).

If I was interested in asking someone out on a date I would not use a text message to ask them to do so. Just seems really impersonal and kind of chumpy.

[HotHamWater]

Yeah, seriously, what the fuck are you thinking texting someone to ask them out?

[chairmenmeow47]

this must be a generational thing. a text is fine. it's less awkward than a phone conversation where both people keep awkwardly saying "so, uh... no you, no you" at the same time.

[RotationSlimWang]

Agreed. Frankly I get kind of annoyed anytime someone calls me with texting first.

[TheMadeleine]

The thing about texting is that it's so low-risk & casual, and definitely not romantic. If someone wants to pursue someone in earnest, a proper phone convo is a must.

[HotHamWater]

this must be a generational thing. a text is fine. it's less awkward than a phone conversation where both people keep awkwardly saying "so, uh... no you, no you" at the same time.

If a phone conversation to ask someone out is awkward, there's not much hope for the date. It's not like we're talking about just chatting aimlessly on the phone. That could be awkward. All he has to do is ask her out then wrap up the conversation by setting plans then saying "I'll see you then, I'm looking forward to it," or something like that.

[suprefan]

The thing about texting is that it's so low-risk & casual, and definitely not romantic. If someone wants to pursue someone in earnest, a proper phone convo is a must.

Im sure all the rich guys you bang just text you with ''hey, come over'' and you happily oblige, cause its not romantic of course.

[RotationSlimWang]

If a phone conversation to ask someone out is awkward, there's not much hope for the date. It's not like we're talking about just chatting aimlessly on the phone. That could be awkward. All he has to do is ask her out then wrap up the conversation by setting plans then saying "I'll see you then, I'm looking forward to it," or something like that.

I think more than a generational divide, this is an attractiveness divide. Us beautiful people don't need to be bothered with a phone conversation.

Im sure all the rich guys you bang just text you with ''hey, come over'' and you happily oblige, cause its not romantic of course.

Jesus Christ dude, you have SUCH anger problems when it comes to women. What the fuck did your mother do to you to make you so gay and pissed?

[BROKENDOLL]

Does anyone else find it fucking adorable and simultaneously really sad when Supre pretends he has sexual thoughts about women?

I've always thought he was just being evasive, then...

Im sure all the rich guys you bang just text you with ''hey, come over'' and you happily oblige, cause its not romantic of course.

I realized he's really got no choice but to pretend, does he? Geez...

[chairmenmeow47]

i am really just not a phone person. i only like talking on the phone with about five people whom i've known for many many years and i don't see very often. generally i feel like phone conversations are fairly aimless and i feel uncomfortable about when i can end the call. if it's early enough on in the "relationship" that someone has to think about whether to text or call, we probably are still a little awkward and getting to know each other, which means we won't have comfortable phone rapport yet. plus i'm busy and can't talk on the phone a lot.

and text is just another form of communication. whether someone i'm into asks me out in person, calls, texts, emails, faxes, or facebook messages me out, if i like them i'll be happy they asked me out and gladly accept. who the fuck cares how they do it?! if you have to worry about whether the person will be receptive to your chosen method of communication; they probably aren't that into you.