but what about opinionated/angry/homely?
EDIT: You know, getting told over and over that my insecurities and low self esteem are just attempts at fishing for compliments isn't doing much to, you know, help my low self esteem.
Kat, how did you meet your last boyfriend? I'm assuming that at some point the two of you conversed and got to know each other, right?
5/25-5/27: MOVEMENT DETROIT
6/6: The Field @ The Independent
6/26: Colin Stetson @ The Chapel
EDIT: Nothing anyone has said here has helped you with your supposed low self esteem. What's your point?
Kat, go up to him and say, "Hey, how's it going? I like your shirt. Do you come here often? Do you go to school? Oh yeah? Cool. What are you studying? Cool. What kind of music do you like? Oh yeah, they are cool!"
Don't go up to him and say, "Hey, I want to fuck you, you cunt! Nevermind! Fuck!" and then storm off. Don't do that.
By the way, to put it all to rest:
There is the great horror in the flesh. Call me crazy, but I'd hit it.
Of course, I'm also a cholo, so I don't know if that helps anything.
First, you need to figure yourself out and be comfortable with what you got and not what the media says you should be. Second, you need better friends. Then you should talk to random people. Consider moving to the Bay Area and out of the LA bubble.
THIS THREAD FUCKING SUCKS
5/12 - Acid Mothers Temple - Casbah
5/13 OoOoOo - Soda Bar
5/19 Black Angels / Hanni El Khatib - Belly Up
5/29 Junip - Troubadour
5/30 John Talabot - Echoplex
6/2 Bjork - Hollywood Palladium
"Hi, I'm Kat... great band tonight, yeah?" (obviously only if in a situation where you've seen a band)
"Hi, I'm Kat... Can I buy you a drink?" (no reason a woman can't offer to buy a man a drink... had it happen before and it was a bit disarming... which isn't a bad thing)
"Hi, I'm Kat... What are your top five desert island albums?" ( had a woman come up to me and ask this once and it led to a good hour long discussion about music)
No reason to over think things!
EDIT: This exchange between Cara and I should teach all of you how to find love and lust in today's post-9/11 world. Notice the clear and concise opening that she made. Notice the confidence and pride that I replied with. The lesson is finished. None of you should have any excuses from now on.
Last edited by GuyInTucson; 02-27-2012 at 02:44 PM.
Kat, I have to admit that I feel like you're fishing too whether purposefully or not . . . How many times do you have to hear it until you can learn to actually believe it and accept it. You are intelligent and beautiful. Nobody is going to embrace that in you until you can embrace it in yourself. "It's the greatest love of all."
How about you go on dates with all the guys on the board in the LA area and we fill out testimonials on how we felt about said dates. We can play scenarios where you hit on us and we hit on you, save a stranded kitten, etc etc at a record store/show/trendy eatery meeting fantasy etc
You will have to put out if 3 rounds of drinks are finished. Shots do not count as rounds unless Kat wills it so to speed up to the sexual compatability round. We will test the limits of you making our penis soft. If you choose to further challenge us, you can wear a cutout print of Boosh looking angry and disapproving to make sure we focus on the body that is said to not be attractive by Kat. Fat guys to the front of the line
One thing I have noticed when ladies do the approaching is that they will often walk up, coyly say "hi" and then awkwardly stand there. Don't do that. If you initiate the situation, you should be in charge of the conversation in my opinion.
Also, one time this woman came up to me, interrupted a conversation I was already having, and started aggressively telling me over and over again how much I looked like Pete Yorn and it kind of scared the shit out of me, so don't do something like that either.
Also, Kat, it's clear that you do have self esteem issues and even if you are trolling for compliments here it just plays into that, but if that above picture is accurate you look like fucking Milla Kunis. For you to constantly berate yourself physically is pretty offensive to all of us here who actually are hideous CHUDS.
Also if you think a guy is attractive in a bar, just approach him and leave yourself open to you. Send him signals to approach you or perhaps buy him a drink and start a convo.
Or just grab his ass, he'll turn around you grab his nuts and offer some fun. You can form the relationship after you bone and feel an opportunity to be intimate. Or take down a new number of some good local cock you can ring up
2) What are you afraid of? Seriously? Everyone here -- regardless of their looks, personality, conversational style, level of self esteem, or historical level of luck with the opposite/same sex -- has been rejected in the course of a pickup, or has choked under pressure. It's okay to fail, but it's not okay to not give yourself another chance.
You live in the second-largest metropolitan area in the United States. Even if you were the member of the most ridiculous, insular subculture imaginable you could surely find many people with whom you would be perfectly compatible. I get it, shutting off the anxiety switch is not easy. But if you can do it, there's no reason to believe that you can't find success.