It Rubs The Lotion On Its Skin: A Thread About Dating

[OnlyNonStranger]

Well, are you?

[guedita]

Weren't people more likely to diminish a woman's maturity by calling them a girl in the 1920s? Aren't both words acceptable depending on the circumstance? Isn't Cameron making up historical American English colloquialisms?

The use of the term "girl" today, especially in the plural, diminishes a female's maturity even more now

i don't like saying women - i personally feel that it's in reference to someone beyond their late 30s

my 2 cents. does everyone get it? prbly not

I get it. You misogynist dope.

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

[marooko]

[guedita]

So Cameron, just to clarify, if you were dating a 32 year old female, you would refer to her only as a "girl" when speaking to her or of her? Like, if you were in a relationship with a 32 year old female that had a career and like her own apartment and maybe even her own car and car insurance and credit card and stub from when she voted in the last election, you'd call her a girl, always without question?

[marooko]

Like, seriously Cam, would you?

[SoulDischarge]

I believe the preferred term is "estrogen rich ovary possessing individual."

[guedita]

"CARD CARRYING UTERINE LINING ASSOCIATION MEMBER"

[suprefan]

[SoulDischarge]

We already have one GPS and that's more than enough, thank you.

[BROKENDOLL]

Against my better judgement, I went out with my friend Saturday. (I was home and lonely.) It was fun, but oh my god more awkward than before. He was really trying to make an impression or something. Ugh.

He called me yesterday asking to go to dinner but luckily I was helping my friend move all day until 11pm so I had an excuse.

I don't think he gets it. Next time I see him, I'll set the whole thing straight.

So, ignoring the fact that you had a good time with a decent guy who wants to make a good impression on you, you're going to actually tell him that you're just stringing him along because he gives you the kind of attention you wished that other jerk gave you? Or, maybe you should tell him how you can't handle his upfront approach to companionship and hanging out, when you could be playing drama filled word games hoping for a hot piece of ass from someone stringing you along for their own convenience?

[kitt kat]

"CARD CARRYING UTERINE LINING ASSOCIATION MEMBER"

AWWW YEAAAH

[Courtney]

Tommy 93%
Barb 86%
Sean 83%
Cara 83%
unit300021 83%
Ivy 82%
Heidi 80%
Robin 79%
Patrick 79%
JorgeC 72%
Marc 71%
MoSetsfire 67%
bluemamba 60%
Cameron/Chris 55%
Randy 47%

[Miroir Noir]

[MoSetsfire]

So, ignoring the fact that you had a good time with a decent guy who wants to make a good impression on you, you're going to actually tell him that you're just stringing him along because he gives you the kind of attention you wished that other jerk gave you? Or, maybe you should tell him how you can't handle his upfront approach to companionship and hanging out, when you could be playing drama filled word games hoping for a hot piece of ass from someone stringing you along for their own convenience?

While I agree with you in principle, we've had this discussion before. None of what you said matters without attraction.

[chiapet]

People notice my eyes first, because they are trying to figure out whether I am stoned or not.

Some dude who contacted me had that exact statement in his profile.

What is it with just about every female profile, under the "What's the first thing someone notices about you" section, every girl puts down "my eyes"??

Uhm, I originally listed my tits, because, let's be honest, that's what guys would notice first.

People usually do not notice my eyes at all because of my eyeglasses.

[chiapet]

I refer to people as 'girls' and 'boys' constantly. There is equality in my minimization of others.

[Alchemy]

My degrading system of gender nouns goes like this (Ages 0-2) Baby Gurl, (Ages 2-12) Little Gurl, (Ages 13-30, depending on where I am and who I am speaking to) Gurl/Young Lady, (Ages 30-100) Lady, and (Ages 100-300) Old Lady.

For males: (Ages 0-2) Baby Boy, (Ages 2-12) Little Boy, (Ages 13-50) Guy, (Ages 50-100) Old Guy, and (Ages 100-300) Really Old Guy.

I don't use "woman" or "man," because it feels too close to "female" and "male" to me. It feels like it lacks emotional connection. It is pure science.

[downingthief]

Tommy 93%
Barb 86%
Sean 83%
Cara 83%
unit300021 83%
Ivy 82%
Heidi 80%
Robin 79%
Patrick 79%
JorgeC 72%
Marc 71%
MoSetsfire 67%
bluemamba 60%
Cameron/Chris 55%
Randy 47%

If I have to lose, I can't think of more beautiful people to lose to than Tommy and Barb.

[locachica73]

I refer to people as 'girls' and 'boys' constantly. There is equality in my minimization of others.

Me too. Boys seem to be bothered when I call them boys though.

Also, I will call anyone out if I hear them referring to their girlfriend/wife as "the ole lady". They continually try to tell me it's a term of endearment but that's just shit.

[Alchemy]

I don't like it when guys call their girlfriend/wife as "babe," because I think he can only do that if he has a mullet or is wearing a leather jacket.

[Robin]

Tommy 93%
Barb 86%
Sean 83%
Cara 83%
unit300021 83%
Ivy 82%
Heidi 80%
Robin 79%
Patrick 79%
JorgeC 72%
Marc 71%
MoSetsfire 67%
bluemamba 60%
Cameron/Chris 55%
Randy 47%

As much as I enjoy being in the top ten, I'm also in the bottom ten. Maybe I should answer more questions in hopes that our percentage match would augment. I want to be on top!

Uhm, I originally listed my tits, because, let's be honest, that's what guys would notice first.

People usually do not notice my eyes at all because of my eyeglasses.

Honestly, I think the first time I met you, I noticed your hair first, then your glasses. I don't think I even noticed your tits, which is kind of odd for me since that's usually one of the first things I look at. I like to tell myself that I thought you were pretty kick ass before we met, and I just wanted to respect that, but who the fuck knows?

Edit: Sometimes people notice my eyes, but I think it's because it's kind of round for an Asian.

[amyzzz]

"Babe" and "baby" really bother me, along with "old lady," but I like the idea of calling everyone girls and boys.

[bottomfeeder]

Weren't people more likely to diminish a woman's maturity by calling them a girl in the 1920s? Aren't both words acceptable depending on the circumstance? Isn't Cameron making up historical American English colloquialisms?

The American and the girl with him sat at a table in the shade, outside the building. It was very hot and the express from Barcelona would come in forty minutes. It stopped at this junction for two minutes and went on to Madrid.
"What should we drink?" the girl asked. She had taken off her hat and put it on the table.
"It's pretty hot," the man said. "Let's drink beer."
"Dos cervezas," the man said into the curtain.
"Big ones?" a woman asked from the doorway.
"Yes. Two big ones."
The woman brought two glasses of beer and two felt pads. She put the felt pads and the beer glasses on the table and looked at the man and the girl. The girl was looking off at the line of hills. They were white in the sun and the country was brown and dry.
"They look like white elephants," she said.

--Hill Like White Elephants, Ernest Hemingway, 1927

[locachica73]

"Babe" and "baby" really bother me, along with "old lady," but I like the idea of calling everyone girls and boys.

They had a thing on the radio on V-day about the most common pet names and darling was on the top of the list and babe/baby was second. I don't know that I have ever called anyone darling. It sounds really old fashioned to me. The worst though is hearing women call their men Daddy...

[Robin]

I usually just say "Dude" or "Chica/Chick"

Though, I am guilty of calling significant others "Babe" and "Hun."

[Alchemy]

I have heard guys that call their girlfriend/wife "mommas."

[Robin]

I have heard guys that call their girlfriend/wife "mommas."

I had an employee that called me that before.
It was quickly followed with a discussion on his mannerism and a verbal warning on how wearing a wife beater around the office was inappropriate.

(He worked in manufacturing. I work in Human Resources.)

[chiapet]

Honestly, I think the first time I met you, I noticed your hair first, then your glasses.

Yea, I cut my hair off so it's not something that people notice right away. I do think your eyes are the first thing a person would notice (well, after the whole being Asian thing ).

[stinkbutt]

I say old lady a lot, no fucks given