I can't imagine the bride would be paying attention to what you are carrying in.
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I feel weird if I DO show up to a wedding with something in hand.
while we are on the topic, I am somwhat confused when ordering wedding gifts from a registry whether to plan it to arrive before or after the wedding. I feel like if I were getting married I wouldn't want to bother with them until after, but I've heard people concerned about whether a wedding gift they ordered would arrive by the wedding.
I have a habit of forgetting to get a gift and not sending one months after the wedding. The worst was almost a year after. Is this bad etiquette? Someone once told me that a year after is ok but now I question that.
The only real reason to order a gift before the wedding (and it's a good one) is so you can get something before the registry is too picked over.
So, on that note:
My best friend is getting married in two weeks (to someone that we've both been friends with for nearly a decade now.) I am broke beyond broke, and in large part because I'm going to be in his wedding party and the planning has drained most of my funds during summer, when I didn't have constant employment. I feel weird about not giving them a gift right away, but since I've already spent nearly a grand on their wedding I just don't have the money to do that as well right. What is the approach I should take in regards to this?
who to tip and how much:
This is one I have always wondered about.Takeout : No tip (unless they do something special)
I don't usually tip the person at Starbucks because they make minimum wage or higher, with benefits. I have always thought tipping was for waiters that made servers wages and for continued service, not just handing me a drink through a window. If I were sitting inside and they continually refilled my coffee, then I would tip. I am going to have to rethink this.
Some people just like to give gifts to their kid's teachers at the holiday or at the end of the year. I never expect it, but it is really appreciated when they do.
At my daughter's school, the room mom practically demands donations for a holiday gift, birthday gift and end of the year gift. I think that is ridiculous.
Last edited by algunz; 09-16-2014 at 11:11 AM.
and fuck tipping at starbucks. granted, i only ever order tea with nothing else in it. and no one comes to my table to bring me more.
I tip for any food/drink service excluding fast food. I'm a sucker though, because I remember how useful and appreciated that extra money was.
I will tip for takeout when they have curbside service, they bring my food, take my money, bring me my change, all while I sit in my air conditioned car. So that seems reasonable. If I am walking in and grabbing a pizza to go or something, I don't tip. I always feel guilty for not tipping though, especially when I pay with my card and there is a line for tipping, I feel them watching me while I put a line through the tip spot.
I guess so. I rarely go to Starbucks and when I do I'm getting a mocha or something more complicated than just a drip coffee so a few quarters seems fair to me for the effort. But then again, I worked at several coffee shops and those tips were nice.
No one thinks I'm goofy when I leave a big tip. Quite the opposite. And I usually say: and by the way you are very beautiful. And then the waitress will tell all the other waitresses about the 50% tip and the sweet nothings and I'm quite popular.
Other times, if you tip the bartender a lot of money then they will start pouring you free drinks. So you can rack up a 100 $ tab and only get billed for 30 bucks but then leave a 50 dollar tip. That's not goofy
I tend to tip bartenders well, and do notice the bartender pours a bit heavier the next time around. Having known several bar owners who go behind the bar and pour themselves and all of their friends free drinks, I don't really feel bad when I get a bit extra.
Are you saying that they are making fun of me?
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SHADDUP YOU KURD THIS ISNT KURDISTAN.
a system where customers are able to tip for exceptional service / because you feel like it is fine.
a system where customers are expected to tip is ridiculous.
The valet park thing becomes somewhat of a scam when they expect something coming and going.
I tip when leaving and try to not make eye contact when dropping off.
we can't complain about tipping without mentioning bathroom attendants.