Take the stairs people!
Take the stairs people!
I received a wedding invite and the RSVP says:
that means I can bring a date, right?Name(s):
10/18-19: Treasure Island Music Festival
10/22: Roman Flugel @ f8
10/25: Moodymann @ PW
11/20: The Drive by Truckers, Sturgill Simpson @ The Fillmore
My rule would be as I would with any other personal service:
If the person is self-employed -- in other words they are keeping the entire fee for themselves -- then there is no need to tip. They are the 'business owner' and (in my view) one does not tip business owners.
If the person is an employee of an agency -- in other words they are just getting paid a salary and the agency gets the fee -- then tipping is appropriate.
What about tipping an Uber driver? I never have, as they say the tip is included, but a friend of mine said he's had some awkward experiences where it was clear the driver was expecting a tip at the end of the ride.
I think this is outdated, you should tip if you think the service was deserving no matter who is doing the service.
They usually refuse a tip when I try.
I had a terrible uber experience a couple weeks ago. The jerk tried to swoop up on the other uber drivers job and then tried to get me to pay him under the table for a cut rate. I flipped the fuck out on him. I gave him terrible verbal abuse for the five minutes he had to drive me back to the party. I told him how stupid he was for trying this scam. I told him I'm calling the police. He was actually shaking. Kid looked like one of those "suburban gangster" types who thinks his shit doesn't stink but has very little real world experience. He thought he was being smooth and I just had to break his brains open for him. He was truly sorry.
The opposing view that you have expressed is based on a vague emotional feeling that you should pay someone for doing a service for you. It doesn't recognize the actual economics of the transaction and instead focuses on the apparent economics. This viewpoint is not uncommon among well-intentioned but naive dunderheads and rubes.
They think you're a polygamist?
As to the broader subject, I really have no idea if people bring (uninvited) dates to weddings. Wouldn't seem like such a bad thing if the date was a "serious" thing as opposed to a "casual" thing, i.e., in keeping with the gravity of the event itself. But really I don't know what's done.
i used uber once and a tip was not solicited or expected.
i find the idea of tipping a cat sitter odd. i have no idea how well she did at the service except for knowing if my cat is alive or dead when i return. i dunno, it feels weird to me to tip, but maybe i am just being stingy. i am also not asking her to check my mail, do things with lights, or any of the other "extras" offered. a tip would be well over an extra day of service. now i feel like though i should tip because it's the holidays and it seems vague as to whether you should. guess it's always good to err on the side of someone who knows where you live getting a tip.
as far as the wedding guest thing, i think you should ask the person who sent the invite. normally there is a mention of guests or +1.
I am not sure if I would tip a proessional pet sitter or not. I have always had friends take care of my cat, and people have always been more than happy to get $20-25/day plus having the option to hang out at my house for it.
Also, you are not supposed to tip an uber driver - it's included in the price. The entire point of it is that you are not supposed to use cash at all, which makes it really appealing.
10/22/14 - TV On The Radio @ Regent // 11/9/14 - Bad Religion @ Mayan // 11/14/14 - Death From Above 1979 @ Regent // 11/16/14 - Lucero @ Echo
I would only tip a house/pet sitter if they went above and beyond with cleaning, or if something had gone wrong with the house or the dog during the trip and they had to deal with it unexpectedly. Otherwise a pre-arranged rate or fee should be sufficient.
If a friend invites you to a wedding and knows you're in a serious relationship, it seems reasonable to infer that "name(s)" means you can bring a date.
Last edited by JustSteve; 08-11-2014 at 03:22 PM.
I'm attending a wedding for a good friend's daughter this afternoon. I purchased a gift online that was delivered to the bride to be a couple of weeks ago. But should I still come to the wedding with a card or something that says congrats? I feel strange going to something like this empty handed, although I'll have some cash handy in case a collection box goes around.