I'm sorry for your loss.

[SoulDischarge]

A thread for personal tragedies and deaths of loved ones. I don't know if we really need this, but it's kind of weird complaining about how your latte was the wrong temperature in the bad mood thread followed up by a post about someone losing their parents. Keep it respectful.

[rjadams90]

I lost my grandma to lou gehrig's disease :/

[malcolmjamalawesome]

A thread for personal tragedies and deaths of loved ones. I don't know if we really need this, but it's kind of weird complaining about how your latte was the wrong temperature in the bad mood thread followed up by a post about someone losing their parents. Keep it respectful.

The irony? Nobody will mourn this thread when it dies.

[CrimesceneCookie]

The irony? Nobody will mourn this thread when it dies.

Well that didn't take long.
Patrick I know you mean well with this topic but there are too many people trying to win some kind of "snarky on the internet" contest on this board.
This is probably the last place I'd come if I wanted sympathetic ears.

[Courtney]

I enjoy the contrast. And hopefully it makes people think twice about posting something super trivial.

[SoulDischarge]

I enjoy the contrast. And hopefully it makes people think twice about posting something super trivial.

That's what a bad mood thread is good for. Trivial bitching. Some times you feel better if you can just commiserate and then move on to more important things. I just feel like personal tragedies and the like deserve a little more gravity than a "bad mood." Whatever. This thing exists now. It'll follow its natural course.

Best of luck, Steve.

[Sleepingrock]

The board can be compassionate, and everyone will attack the snarky folks in this thread, I hope.

[BROKENDOLL]

[BROKENDOLL]

Great, I came with an offering of tissues to share, and now I have to live with the knowledge that I killed yet another thread... *sniffle*
I'm so sorry, Patrick. Please accept my deepest and most heartfelt apology... With sincerity, Bdoll

[JustSteve]

The board can be compassionate, and everyone will attack the snarky folks in this thread, I hope.

check out my "i heart you coachella msg board" thread. so many posts have brought comfort, smiles, and even tears to me in there, no snark whatsoever. this board ain't all bad.

[Starraven]

^lol

[MissingPerson]

How about: smart people will use this thread as it's intended, and the others will do whatever it is they do and we'll all duly ignore them.

Sorted.

[BROKENDOLL]

How about: smart people will use this thread as it's intended, and the others will do whatever it is they do and we'll all duly ignore them.
Sorted.

And Gemma scores one point for snarkiness!





With many regrets,
I'm sorry, carry on...

[Starraven]

And Gemma scores one point for snarkiness!





With many regrets,
I'm sorry, carry on...

[Neighborhood Creep]

This thread is already off to a good start!

[gaypalmsprings]

[JustSteve]

on wednesday i have the final meeting in this long, miserable transplant evaluation process. meet with the surgeon and if she gives the ok, i get listed. this is the end of the road and possibly the start of another.

i may be losing these shitty lungs or maybe my life, can't be sorry for my loss if i am gone, though, haha. does that count?

[algunz]

I created an "In Memoriam . . ." thread about 3 years ago when my Aunt passed away and everyone was very kind and helpful (for the most part).

It died.

[BROKENDOLL]

Speaking with much respect and on behalf of Pete, I know that when he first told the board about his mother's pancreatic cancer diagnosis, the support offered was much needed and appreciated. And the fact that this particular cancer is quite literally a death sentence, didn't make it easy to find those words, I know... I tried to "sugarcoat" the outcome with positive stories, and successful life stories, but it all became too real and he needed more than just my support. In a matter of weeks she went from being giving 3-6 months to live, to being gone within a month and a half... The kind words and thoughts did help ease the reality of the whole situation, and I thank you from the both of us...

[gaypalmsprings]

Speaking with much respect and on behalf of Pete, I know that when he first told the board about his mother's pancreatic cancer diagnosis, the support offered was much needed and appreciated. And the fact that this particular cancer is quite literally a death sentence, didn't make it easy to find those words, I know... I tried to "sugarcoat" the outcome with positive stories, and successful life stories, but it all became too real and he needed more than just my support. In a matter of weeks she went from being giving 3-6 months to live, to being gone within a month and a half... The kind words and thoughts did help ease the reality of the whole situation, and I thank you from the both of us...

My mother died of Pancreatic Cancer as well. It's a bad way to go.

[malcolmjamalawesome]

I stubbed my toe getting into my car this morning and it KILLS.

[Grant]

you deserved it

[fatbastard]

The more people you loose, the more alone you feel in the world. You can meet new people, but it's not just the same.

[TomAz]

My mother-in-law passed away a few days after Coache11a. It's been 4 months and my husband broke down just the other night. It takes a long time to recover from the loss of your mom. In some ways you never do. It's as if you lose a part of your essence.

There is truth here. My mother died in 1993 and I don't think I've been the same since.

The more people you loose, the more alone you feel in the world. You can meet new people, but it's not just the same.

I come from a small family: my mother's brothers were much older than her and I never knew them very well at all and they all died when I was young. My father had just one brother (who was himself childless). So when my father died last summer and then my uncle died just before thanksgiving, it wiped out pretty much everyone older than me.

[roberto73]

My mother-in-law passed away a few days after Coache11a. It's been 4 months and my husband broke down just the other night. It takes a long time to recover from the loss of your mom. In some ways you never do. It's as if you lose a part of your essence.

There is truth here. My mother died in 1993 and I don't think I've been the same since.

My mom died in March of this year. It seems weird to say that someone who wrestled with cancer for fifteen years died suddenly, but that's the way it was. She was fine at Christmas and dead ten weeks later. Of course she wasn't fine at Christmas, not really, but that's a testament to the way she lived. She never felt sorry for herself and never let any of us know how bad things were.

I got married a couple weeks ago, and it was extremely bittersweet. We were happy to have something to celebrate, but there was definitely something missing. My dad especially was having trouble keeping things together. But this is what happens when you're 65 and you married the woman you first met at the age of 14. But my mom was the personable one, the one who took it upon herself to keep the family together. Now my dad and brother and I are learning how to pick up where she left off.

This is all a long way of saying I can relate to what you've both expressed. Much of the last six months has felt like trying to breathe underwater.

[BROKENDOLL]

My mom died in March of this year. It seems weird to say that someone who wrestled with cancer for fifteen years died suddenly, but that's the way it was. She was fine at Christmas and dead ten weeks later. Of course she wasn't fine at Christmas, not really, but that's a testament to the way she lived. She never felt sorry for herself and never let any of us know how bad things were.

I got married a couple weeks ago, and it was extremely bittersweet. We were happy to have something to celebrate, but there was definitely something missing. My dad especially was having trouble keeping things together. But this is what happens when you're 65 and you married the woman you first met at the age of 14. But my mom was the personable one, the one who took it upon herself to keep the family together. Now my dad and brother and I are learning how to pick up where she left off.

This is all a long way of saying I can relate to what you've both expressed. Much of the last six months has felt like trying to breathe underwater.

Roberto, I'm sorry, really...I'm sitting here with a gentle flow of tears running down each cheek. I bet your wedding was beautiful and blessed because Mom's love nothing more than to "oversee" all the wedding details...Congrats btw! In time it gets easier, but those are awfully big shoes to fill for any of us...

[Suffacated]

[sbessiso]

I was thinking of starting a thread like this so kudos to you Pat...

Well, its been like a year and 4 months since my mother passed away from a heart attack. Its been so emotionally taxing on me but I do think I'm moving on. Its just so weird for me to have this awful thing happen and then have pretty much the best year of my life in many ways. Itmakes me feel kinda guilty sometimes.

[fatbastard]

I'd like to think that she pushed some buttons upstairs to make it happen for you.

[BROKENDOLL]

I'd like to think that she pushed some buttons upstairs to make it happen for you.

You know, I don't know if it was a blessing or not , to know ahead of time how much time you have. Pete's mom seemed at peace with the news of being given those 3-6 months. She had a husband awaiting her, she used that time to take care of all her legalities and such before going back to her home country, and Pete was by her side the whole time. To say it was harder on him seems wrong, but true. I don't think he had truly accepted it and surely didn't expect it to be so quick. In fact, he hadn't bothered to pack anything for any funeral services because he really thought he'd be getting her there, and returning home, to finish the legal matters before flying back for her remains to bring back here...I don't think anyone expected that within maybe 10 days, she would be gone...And, if she had any worries, they were for Pete. She wanted him to know he wasn't alone, that he had a huge family. She so had a sister she had originally planned to see and didn't due to her condition... This is where it gets .... I don't know the word, but....that sister died 3 days later, so Pete has also lost an aunt...I think they were the closest out of all the sisters, so I found that rather.... Still can't find the word... He ended up extending his stay, and even with his return here on Tuesday, he's already talking about clearing everything up and returning to Ecuador...


Truthfully, what Pete did in making sure his mom was in the right place and surrounded by so many that cared, was short of amazing considering the short amount of time he had. And considering the sadness of losing her, knowing she had everything she could possibly want when the time came brought her even more peace and much beauty to an otherwise sad story. Yeah, she had a good ending to her story... And I think her and her favorite sister laid the plans all out accordingly...