Wow, someone here has one major gender persecution complex.
Now back away from the lighter you're about to use to burn that bra, and listen up.
My commentary regarding Amy's hair had nothing to do with her looks. Maybe she's actually prettier with purple hair. Maybe she's not. I don't care either way.
My advice to her was not regarding how she can look prettiest for men, but rather how she can present herself in an age-appropriate manner in order to achieve the respect she deserves -- both in the dating capacity and otherwise.
Did I tell her to lose weight? To wear more makeup? To get a boob job? To wear sexier outfits?
No. Because I'm not focusing at all upon her physical or sexual appeal, and that's never been part of the discussion.
I am talking about something very specific -- the bright purple hair color -- which can be off-putting to a fairly large sector of the male population, at least when it comes to someone they would want to take seriously for a relationship.
Simply put, I am focusing not on how pretty she is, isn't, or can be, but rather on presenting herself in a manner to where she will be taken more seriously.
There is nothing sexist at all about that, and I would give the identical advice to men.
I don't know how to be any more clear about it, but you can keep thinking that this is my super-subtle way of degrading women, if it makes your persecuted mind feel better.