The Gays* Only Thread

[JorgeC]

penatration isn't really necessary if the guy can suck some good dick.

[HunterGather]

Delaware becomes 11th state to legalize same-sex marriage.
39 to go.

[SlowMotionApocalypse]

[HunterGather]

wrong thread.
or is that a gay?

[Stickjohn]

The MN House is voting tomorrow on marriage equality bill. If it passes would go to Senate then governor, who will sign it. Could all happen by Monday. There's a vigil tonight at our capitol. I might go down there and break up a couple.

In other MN news, Kluwe our past punter spent Monday doing a Terminator impersonation for a Fringe Festival fundraiser then played with his band last night at a small music club. He was posting on reddit yesterday too. As of last summer the Vikings led the NFL in arrests and had twice as many as the next highest team. Kluwe is fun and interesting and deserves better. I read he entered UCLA with a perfect verbal score on his SAT.

Finally I'd like to personally thank Emmett Burns, the Maryland Delegate who pissed off Kluwe and resulted in the unleashing of the cockmonster. My people are better off because of you.

[JorgeC]

when I was in New York last week, every time my friend logged into Grindr, the popup message says "There's a meningitis outbreak in New York City". I heard about the guy that died in Weho, but are there a lot more cases in NY? I don't keep up with a lot of gay news (blogs, rags, etc) so not sure if this is something that should be getting more attention.

On to a more fun topic, when we were there, it happened to be Urban Bear Weekend. Eagle was packed with guys, but they wouldn't let us into one of the larger rooms because it was a "gear only" night. Assholes.

[footixy]

12 ....woohoo!

http://news.yahoo.com/minn-house-app...200825261.html

[guedita]

Apologies for the triteness of this rant, but why is it that straight people often seem so compelled to add homosexuality as a qualifier when talking about situations in which sexuality and identity are completely out of context? Like, unless you are going to follow up by mentioning that he causes a scene at desert every time by claiming to be even more flaming than the baked alaska, I don't know why the "comma, who is flamboyantly gay" addition to the sentence, "I'm going to dinner with my friend" is necessary. Is it just some mix of tokenism and an attempt to paint oneself as liberal/an ally?

Do any of you ever feel the need to add these types of qualifiers when talking about your straight friends? "I'm going out for drinks with my friend, he only fucks fat chicks."

[gaypalmsprings]

[HunterGather]

[Mr.Trent]

Hello fellow gays I need your expert relationship advice

I met a guy through a mutual friend of ours last December. At that moment I was unemployed and received an offer for a good job opportunity in another city so I was really bummed out that I wouldn't have the chance to really go out on dates with this guy. At first I didn't tell him that I would be leaving in January because I didn't want to force him to feel like we had to go out those days, besides, December is always a bit hard to schedule with family and friends. We did go out in January twice and had a really great time together, even if nothing sexual happened, we just talked about past experiences and relationships and how life is fucked up and stuff, he also mentioned he was not seeing anyone at that moment and that he was comfortable like that. He had been in two serious relationships previously, each lasting a bit less than 2 years. He's one year younger than I am (25) and my two relationships haven't gone past the 4 month mark.

I left for my new job and in the first week of being there they told me that I would have a week of time off in lieu every month. We work longer hours each week so they compensate with one paid week complete with a round-trip flight to my hometown. I was really happy when this news arrived because that would mean I could see this guy again. I messaged him that I would be there from this day to that day but he never replied, so I left it here and didn't say anything. During the next working period he continued talking to me on facebook and for the next time off week I went out with him one night for some beers. After chatting for a while he mentioned he was going out with someone (my heart broke right there and then but had my poker face on) so the date ended and I remained cool. I sent him a message after that saying it was nice hanging out (didn't get a reply) and then the next day saying how it sucked to be back working (no reply either) so I assumed that was his way of saying "now you know in person that i'm not interested in you anymore" I was really feeling down the next two weeks. I came back again and just kept seeing old friends and even had a one night stand with one of my acquaintances, just out of spite.

During the whole of April there was zero interaction between us, even when I had a last card under my sleeve. We both love bjork and planned to invite him to come with me for the Bowl show. He surprised me first because he started talking to me again last week, so that made it easier for me to invite him to the concert. I told him yesterday about it and said it would be awesome and that he would have to check the dates to make sure it wasn't the graduation date of his BOYFRIEND... (broken heart again).

I'm determined to fight for this guy, he's definitely boyfriend material even if he's messing with my head so hard. I thought he had started talking to me again because he had stopped seeing the other guy but I guess I was wrong, he has now been promoted to the 'boyfriend' position instead of just 'someone I'm seeing'. He's still willing to go with me to the concert, which is nice, and I even told him that we could hang out sometime this week if he's able to, to which he eagerly said sure! let's do something.

My plan is to be just a friend right now, but I'm willing to fight for him. Could he be unhappy with his current bf and testing the waters somewhere else? does he just want to be a friend and nothing more? I'm so lost guys : ( please help, thanks!

[SlowMotionApocalypse]

Hello fellow gays I need your expert relationship advice

Relationships? Fuck that, it's all about the middle stall in the Ikea men's room.

[JorgeC]

Trent,

First of all, congratulations on the job! Secondly, I'm sorry for the fucked up situation with the guy. Honestly I have to say don't pursue him. If he's boyfriend material, then stealing him from his current boyfriend is not how you want to establish your relationship with him. I'm sure there are differing opinions on this, mostly romantic and/or sexually driven. Lets say you did fight for him and got him. Wouldn't you still be doing the long distance thing? How would you feel if another guy also thought he was the one and decided he was going to fight for him too?

I would just stay friends with him and leave the possibility open for something in the future. We all have "the one that got away" or friends that we'd be with if not for timing, situation, etc. I'm sure as things continue to progress for you career wise and you continue to grow as a person, you will be his "the one that got away". If he was as into you, he should have made more of an effort when you were in town. By not hanging out (prob because he was hitting it off with the soon to be boyfriend) he's kind of already made a choice. If you like him as a person, then you should be happy for him, even if its not being happy with you. Have you met his boyfriend? If he's a total bitch then you won't have to fight for him because you'll be able to see the breakup coming from a mile away. If he's a nice guy then you can congratulate them and move on.

Best of luck. Love sucks but there's lots of guys out there, don't get hung up on 1 and wait around for him.

[Mr.Trent]

Thank you so much! I needed to hear that, I agree with you. I will just remain a friend for the time being and let time run its course. : )

[gaypalmsprings]

"I'm willing to fight for him" - there are other fish in the sea. No need to fight. PLUR.

[Stickjohn]

You sound like boyfriend material Mr. Trent



The MN Senate passed our marriage equality act today. The mayor of St Paul had rainbow flags placed on the lights of the Wabasha Bridge early this morning in anticipation of the vote. Our governor will sign it tomorrow on the steps of the capitol and then follow the local GLBT marching band several blocks to a small plaza for a party. The Suburbs are playing ("Love is the Law" is the anthem), P.O.S. and a bunch more. Marriages in August. 12th state. It's also supposed to be our first hot day tomorrow - pushing 90 - so hopefully people shed their clothes. I think I may go. I am trying to get my house ready to sell and this would be a good diversion from working on 98 year old double hung windows.

[HunterGather]

So there's this person at work who I can barely formulate a conversation with and look in the eyes. (i think I felt my face start blushing when we started a real conversation the other day and thankfully I had to keep walking back to the area I was working in).

It's bizarre how we share the same mannerisms. We don't exactly look a like, but our mannerisms & such are similar enough that we could be brothers (just to paint a picture of our similarities. Not that I'd bang my brother because we share mannerisms...)
...
Anyways, besides it being the thing thats attractive to me (aside that he's easy on the eyes), it's also the downfall. I'm a reserved guy (at work, anyway) and this bitch is even quieter than me. So it's this maddening game (in my head) to get to know him. The amount of words he speaks in a 5 hour shift can probably fit in a note card. He's not creepy-quiet or anything. Just seems like vaguely shy and a man of few words.
Another obstacle is during the course of a work day, our time when we are in the same area is kind of short, so there's no real time to converse. It all seems rushed, where I would rather it happen organically.

Forever a pussy, i am.

/incredibly cool story brah

[gaypalmsprings]

You need one of these...

[getbetter]

Apologies for the triteness of this rant, but why is it that straight people often seem so compelled to add homosexuality as a qualifier when talking about situations in which sexuality and identity are completely out of context? Like, unless you are going to follow up by mentioning that he causes a scene at desert every time by claiming to be even more flaming than the baked alaska, I don't know why the "comma, who is flamboyantly gay" addition to the sentence, "I'm going to dinner with my friend" is necessary. Is it just some mix of tokenism and an attempt to paint oneself as liberal/an ally?

Do any of you ever feel the need to add these types of qualifiers when talking about your straight friends? "I'm going out for drinks with my friend, he only fucks fat chicks."

I always make sure to add Oh Yadua, the limp dick who is always trying to throw boozes under the bus for it coming to dinner to all conversations possible if he is going to be mention.Or Cindy the ugly chick with the face worms , who happens to get them from swimming in Lake Elsinore.

[TomAz]

Zack, it must be interesting being you. I mean that in the most positive way.

[SlowMotionApocalypse]

[JorgeC]

San Francisco, you dirty whore of a city. i love you.

[JorgeC]

okay so, hope everyone that went to Long Beach Pride had a great time. It was a hot day and i never actually went inside, but did attend a house party that had a back patio opening onto the beach. Lots of drinks, lots of men = Jorge hungover at work on Monday. Le sigh.

So anyways, i know a lot of us have Netflix and wanted to highlight a couple of new releases i watched that were actually not horrible.

Gun Hill Road - Story of a young transexual being brought up by her mom in the Bronx. Homophobic dad (Esai Morales) is paroled from prison and comes home to find that his son is becoming a beautiful young woman and is none too pleased. Hilarity ensues. And by hilarity, i mean abusive relationships, assault, and an opportunistic apartment turned clinic hormone peddling tranny that made me cringe. That last part was only one scene, but it broke my heart because i'm sure that stuff happens.

Gayby - As if the story of a gay man and straight woman hasn't been done to death, this one is about a 30-something woman feeling the old biological clock ticking and decides she needs a baby NOW! Her gay best friend goes along with it and they do it "the old fashioned way". They both continue dating and hilarity ensues. Typical "sassy gay friend" included on both their parts. Not breaking any new ground, but definitely enjoyable and worth watching for a few cameos. The lead, Matthew Wilkas is like a hot gay version of Dexter (which would just be Michael C Hall in Six Feet Under, i know...), but i'd be lying if i didn't REALLY enjoy the scene was he has to JO several times into a jar. Cameos by Adam Driver (Girls) and Randy Harrison (Queer as Folk).

anyone else seen anything new?