I think the best advice would be to not listen to Randy and listen to Alma instead.
I forgot about this thread.
I feel like a lot of stuff in my life has really fallen into place for me over the past year / few months. As a result I stopped taking all of my medication a few months ago, and I feel f#cking great. I am a happy bastard. Proof that things do change and there is a light at the end of the tunnel etc etc.
"The first time I heard the new single off the Bravery album, I actually cried, and I do not even remember the name of that damn song. It reminded me of this girl I am in love with." - kroqken
Dude - I've been married for 10 years. Happily married. We argue daily and sometimes piss the other off to the point where we just want to get away for ahwile. But those usually last no longer than a couple hours at the worst. It's been 10 good fucking years and the beginning of probably 40 more. 12 years ago, I was fairly positive I would be living my life alone...and was sure I was destined to either live with my mom or work some stupid minimum wage job and be a nervous recluse who could never have a relationship. Shit changes...you don't even have the faintest idea how or when, but they will.
I don't have any advice for you exactly...just realize that what your going through now will pass. If it persists and starts to feel crippling, go talk to someone you trust and who knows you. And, because everyone is so fucking different, your experience with this girl is in no way foreshadowing your experiences with other women.
Don't cut the hair, either. You think Tom Waits didn't get women?
UP down UP down
She added the phrase "meany head" to my profile.I hardly think I'm an attention whore.
-not remembering being told something
-"zoning out" in conversations
-being late or forgetting to show up when expected
-speaking without thinking
-pressured rapid-fire speech, seemingly random, and aimless hopping from one topic to the next
-perceived as aloof and arrogant, or tiresomely talkative and boorish
-compulsive joking, often about personal life history and feelings
-easily frustrated or bored
-leaving a mess
-procrastination (difficulty starting tasks)
-incompletions (starting tasks, household projects, or book reading, but not completing them before new projects or new books are begun, leaving a never-ending to-do list),
-insecurity and self-esteem issues because of unmet high personal expectations
-inadequate censorship of rude or insulting thoughts, and poor timing in interactions
i've been trying to unravel whats going on for a long time. its hard to remember a time when she was ok. she had eating disorders when she was in her teens and after she stopped that, she turned into an alcoholic. i don't think she dealt with her grief very well when our mom died; she drank instead. its hard to see your only sister make a mess of her life and abuse herself and turn into a monster of a person. but anyway i've been trying to figure it out for years, so maybe i'm just hoping that a diagnosis of some kind will explain everything!
OMG I HAVE ADDDD!!!!! seriously I think I have ADD
What about helping her get organized. Not trying to interfere with anything she has going on. Once sticking to a routine life becomes organized and efficient. Focused routines. A lot of people see ADD as something that needs to be treated with medication and that is not always the case
absolutely not. she's the type of person that takes takes takes from everyone and will use anyone for as much as she can get from them and not feel bad about it (AND openly admit to it!). so to volunteer to help her get organized would mean i would end up doing her shit for her. i think she needs to learn how to grow up and take care of herself, not have others do it for her.
fer realz, yo
Then stop worrying about her. I understand you love her but all you can do now is point and laugh and be all "I told you so!" when she falls down.
Just tell her you honest opinion sometimes people need to know exactly how you feel. If she cannot respect you and what you see from an outside perspective then she does not deserve your respect and constant worry/love.
totally. i'm sick of worrying about her. it stresses me out and she's beyond mine or anyone's control.
The best thing a person can do is hit rock bottom. Just ask Nietzsche.
I was mad when my husband cut his hair last summer, but he was working outside (and inside) in horrendously hot conditions, so he pretty much had to cut it.
Also, I have days (like Monday) when I'm extremely depressed for no specific reason, but when I take 5-htp at night, the next day I'm much better. (I haven't taken Ecstasy in weeks, so e-depression had nothing to do with it)
Being stupid and looking stupid go hand in hand, so you are in good company Randy.
I refute both the general principle of your statement as well as how it's phrased: I'm in good company? What the fuck is that even supposed to mean? Did you really just respond to me drawing a distinction between the advantages of being stupid vs. looking stupid by basically saying, "Well, if you are stupid you probably look stupid?"
Tell me, J, when's the last time you had a haircut? =)
Love ya, bitches.
Actually I've been frighteningly sober recently. Ran out of my Valium and Ambien on the 6th, the same day that I got a heap of bad news that has proven difficult to sift through. Got back into LA on the 8th, consumed an ounce of GHB a day until Sunday when that well ran dry too. I'm now waiting on a package of Oxycontin and Xanax to be delivered to me so that my soul and brain will shut the fuck up. In the meantime, the board will have to endure me, kthxbye.