View Poll Results: How would you like to see a bar setup at a wedding?

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  • Open

    43 66.15%
  • Pay

    3 4.62%
  • Wine/Beer

    9 13.85%
  • Full

    16 24.62%
  • Open wine/beer, Pay for cocktails

    15 23.08%
  • Pay for wine/beer, open cocktails

    3 4.62%
  • Wine/beer with select cocktails - open

    13 20.00%
  • Wine/beer, pay for select cocktails

    6 9.23%
  • No option here

    1 1.54%
  • Go Mormom, no booze

    4 6.15%
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    Vote. The poll is multiple choice.
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    Open bar, even if it was my wedding. It's the least I could do after making people sit through my bullshit in a cheap, stuffy suit and re-gifting me a toaster from the year before.
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    Have your reception at a place without a liquor license. Get your own license for one day. Buy all your own hard alcohol at your cheapest liquor retailer for the open bar. Catering company will supply the mixers and bartenders and will charge you a couple bucks for the mixers for each drink. If the catering company makes you use them for beer and wine, don’t go crazy with your choices. At the end of the reception, the open bottles are available for the after party and at a later date, you can return all the bottles that were unopened to the store.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PlayaDelWes View Post
    . Catering company will Return all the bottles that were unopened.
    Yea.....this isn't always the case

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    If its a venue and / or catering company WITHOUT a hard liquor license, they couldn’t legally take the bottles if they wanted.

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    So far the plan is Beer and wine, open. I would like to have select cocktails, also open, but the gal doesn't want people too hammered. I understand that. But, I want Kentucky straight bourbon, Maker's Mark to be exact. Most people like Jack, I'll be damned if that BS is served at our wedding. Also, most of the guys that drink liquor on my side, like cognac. That shit isn't getting served either.

    My sister asked if there would be a cash bar to buy cocktails, so have other people. We don't want to make people pay. I have been to weddings where premium drinks were a buck or two, be it beer or mixed.

    Considering the catering and budget, I doubt we'll do "full open", that's just too big a bar. Mixers, fruits, liquors, liqueurs, just absolute insanity.

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    Ok, I am going through the same thing right now so here are some options.

    In my opinion, it's tacky to have a cash bar. When you invite guests to your home, you don't charge them for the drinks they have. However, sometimes they may bring something to drink if they know the only thing you have is beer or wine. Know what I mean?

    We went to a wedding in September and it was open bar for beer and wine; if you wanted a cocktail, you had to pay for it. No one seemed to care. So there's one option.

    The other option is to only have available beer, wine, and a "signature drink". Maker's Mark and then maybe a girlie martini. Have the bar hide the good stuff.


    We're doing an open bar, but no shots because we don't want people puking in the bushes. We're also having the bar put away the expensive booze so people don't go all apeshit with the Crown Royal.

    Also, consider ditching the cocktail hour. Most people drink the most during that time because there's nothing to do but stand around and drink. Do the pictures beforehand and then go right into dinner after the ceremony.

    In our package, the champagne toast is included. So instead of doing an official toast, we're doing a "happy hour" since our wedding is on a Friday. People will show up around 530, have passed champagne (instead of the toast) and appetizers. Then they'll be escorted to the ceremony, and then dinner starts. Cuts down on the standing around/drinking time.
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    you're making us come to a fucking wedding that we all don't really want to attend, and this is the way you thank us for it. FULL OPEN BAR.
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    I went to a Mormon wedding reception once, and my then-girlfriend and I sneaked a flask in with us. I think we were the only people having any fun.
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    Quote Originally Posted by captncrzy View Post
    Ok, I am going through the same thing right now so here are some options.

    In my opinion, it's tacky to have a cash bar. When you invite guests to your home, you don't charge them for the drinks they have. However, sometimes they may bring something to drink if they know the only thing you have is beer or wine. Know what I mean?

    We went to a wedding in September and it was open bar for beer and wine; if you wanted a cocktail, you had to pay for it. No one seemed to care. So there's one option.

    The other option is to only have available beer, wine, and a "signature drink". Maker's Mark and then maybe a girlie martini. Have the bar hide the good stuff.


    We're doing an open bar, but no shots because we don't want people puking in the bushes. We're also having the bar put away the expensive booze so people don't go all apeshit with the Crown Royal.

    Also, consider ditching the cocktail hour. Most people drink the most during that time because there's nothing to do but stand around and drink. Do the pictures beforehand and then go right into dinner after the ceremony.

    In our package, the champagne toast is included. So instead of doing an official toast, we're doing a "happy hour" since our wedding is on a Friday. People will show up around 530, have passed champagne (instead of the toast) and appetizers. Then they'll be escorted to the ceremony, and then dinner starts. Cuts down on the standing around/drinking time.
    All of this is great. As a guest, I've fully enjoyed whatever the bar setup was, whether it was simply beer and wine, open bar, or some combo of both.

    It's so key to do the pictures before so there is no delay between ceremony and reception.

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    I suppose it depends on your social circle and peoples expectations, but in my opinion making people pay for drinks at a wedding is super tacky. As Jen said, they are your guests, and you should treat them as such. If you can't afford a full open bar, having limited beverage selections is fine.

    You didn't ask, but while we are on the subject, having a tip jar on the bar or elsewhere at a wedding is also super tacky. The people who are paying for the wedding should be the ones tipping the vendors. Guests should not be expected to open their wallets from the time they enter to the time they leave.

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    There are a lot of assumptions flying around here, when really, there should be votes and answers.

    I'm not asking if you want to pay, or how you feel about paying. I'm asking what you want to see.


    And as for you, don't feel so obligated to be a dick. It's an invitation, not a summons. I don't expect anyone to come. I don't want anyone to feel like they have to come. We will be inviting people, not commanding them to show up. Do you understand what an invitation is?

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    you're making us come to a fucking wedding that we all don't really want to attend, and this is the way you thank us for it. FULL OPEN BAR.

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    Um, my sister's wedding is a big pain in the ass that interrupts the hell out of my own life. so, excuse my anger. it's just so annoying for us all, having her control 5 days of our busy lives. yeah, i get it, me to her: "you are marrying your HS bf, that's great, here's a pic of me on the playa in a wedding dress. the caption: hope you both are having as much fun as me!" instead i gotta go to all the rehearsals and fly back and forth and miss burning man. but this is the only time she can be this controlling.

    you're a different horse.
    if you are getting married, then thats a diff story. How can anyone not vote for full bar? I say wine is free. That's bacchus style, beer is popular, make them pay!
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    Maroo, both you and Amyzzz are prone to intense reactions that sometimes surprise me and seem to me to come out of nowhere. It scares me a little because I feel like we would be hanging out having a beer one moment, and then the next moment you would be slitting my throat. Remind me not to have beers with you.

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    He's justified, it's his wedding. Well, he's himself. Gotta just take it!

    But he has a knife.

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    Maybe a left hook, but I wouldn't slit your throat. .

    Sometimes I'm short, rarely physical. You gotta do something to me first, or really threaten to. Or walk up on me in the dark. (poor mormon guy)

    And no, it's not MY wedding. It's "our" wedding. There are two of us involved.

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    lol.

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    If i am at a wedding and I have to pay, I will be happy to be drinking but unhappy that i'm schlepping to a fucking wedding and sitting through all that bullshit only to pay for drinks.

    If you have a dry wedding you can count on me simply not showing up.

    i have been pretty blessed with most of the weddings I have attended so far. i have some fucking fun friends.
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    I wish I could delete this thread.


    How many of you are under the impression that I am asking what we should do at our wedding?
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    There is no way in hell I am having an open bar at my wedding. If guests come to my house, no I am not going to charge them to eat or drink my foods. Guess what though? The reception isn't at my house! Its not like we are asking our guests to pay for their food. Jesus. Weddings are expensive as hell. In fact, way more than I thought.

    If my guests think it is tacky, then so be it. And I am not making anyone come to my wedding. My fiancee and I are inviting people we think care about us. If someone I invite doesn't want to come, then I probably shouldn't have sent them an invitation in the first place. Not being able to come is completely different. I don't want people to attend my wedding simply because they feel like they have to. I want them to come because they want to. If you don't want to come, but do anyways, don't expect me to pay for your drunk ass.

    If you want to get drunk at my wedding you have two options. 1) Pay. 2)Pre-drink if the parking lot with the wife and I. No way am I paying for those stupidly expensive drinks inside.
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    I am under the impression that you are wondering what people think about drinking/bars and paying at weddings. And if you make people pay for drinks at a wedding, people will start to dislike you and your evil knife.

    Drinky said it best. Except "fucking fun" friends. fun is enough.

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    If the people I invite are gonna be upset that they payed for drinks; I should have known better than to invite them, and they should have known better than to come. We're obviously not the kind of friends I thought we were.

    I'm not a very likable person. Neither are you.


    And Rage, they are DAMN expensive. I had to put my foot down. In no way do I want to enter a marriage with a big ass chunk of debt. Fuck that!

    And I wasn't asking what you "think". I gave you options, not the podium.

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    I don't have a knife in my avatar. You haven't met me, ever, and I don't care about being likable. In fact it bothers me when people overly like me, it's such a turn off. But you don't have to be mean about it. I guess since we all dont know your friends, maybe you should make your own decisions and stop bothering us and then bitching.

    I should say I don't care about being likeable to everyone. Just the people I intuitively am attracted to. So, given your new set of "you don't know my friends" and "i didn't ask for you to take the podium," maybe you should just /thread your mouth.
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    Quote Originally Posted by marooko View Post
    And I wasn't asking what you "think". I gave you options, not the podium.
    You don't want to know the why, just the ummm, pre-selected options? Damn sounds like you already know what you want. So why are you bothering to be an ass when we give our thoughts? You dick.

    Oh, and Congratulations.
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    You've got to be an alias.

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    would it make your frown turn upside down if I told you I were? You have no clue do you?
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    Quote Originally Posted by marooko View Post
    If the people I invite are gonna be upset that they payed for drinks; I should have known better than to invite them, and they should have known better than to come. We're obviously not the kind of friends I thought we were.
    Yes. I agree with this. If my "friends," or for that matter "family," are only coming to my wedding to drink, then fuck em. Im not saying people can't drink at my wedding, of course they can. They drink as much as they want! But if they judge me because I am not getting them drunk for free, then they probably shouldn't have come in the first place.

    Also, in my experience, open bars don't make or break weddings.
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    just give everyone free beer. call it a day.
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    Quote Originally Posted by marooko View Post
    And I wasn't asking what you "think". I gave you options, not the podium.
    You probably shouldn't have asked this via an outlet where the whole point is healthy discussion through posts and responses, then. An internet message board by its nature is about what people think.

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    i was thinking the same thing as i hobbled my way across the street on crutches, like, seriously? this is how knowledge is handled, with care.
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