Breakup Thread

[TeamCoachellaHellYeah]

More evil than suggesting for a heartbroken sap to commit suicide?

completely.

[Donaldj]

Listen to some Merzbow.

LMAO, sad thing is I used to know a few people who would do this.

[wmgaretjax]

LMAO, sad thing is I used to know a few people who would do this.

sad thing? why is it a sad thing? I've listened to pretty much every Merzbow release. I own several of his records and had the pleasure of meeting him once.

[TeamCoachellaHellYeah]

I listened to Portishead when I broke up. NOT A GOOD CHOICE. The 2nd Portishead is way too dark to listen to under those conditions.

[TheGunner'sDream]

Send her your self amputated ear

Kick her dog

[Donaldj]

sad thing? why is it a sad thing? I've listened to pretty much every Merzbow release. I own several of his records and had the pleasure of meeting him once.

Fair enough, I personally wouldn't want to listen to noise getting over a breakup.

[wmgaretjax]

Fair enough, I personally wouldn't want to listen to noise getting over a breakup.

anytime is a good time for merzbow.

[TeamCoachellaHellYeah]

anytime is a good time for merzbow.

WORD! I need to put some Merz on my pod. I have always wanted to have a license plate that says MERZBOW just never got around to it.

[wmgaretjax]

WORD! I need to put some Merz on my pod. I have always wanted to have a license plate that says MERZBOW just never got around to it.

Have you heard Houjoue? You should listen to that 6CD set. Blizzard for Acousmonium 2 is one of my favorite tracks.

[TeamCoachellaHellYeah]

The Frog album is my fav

[wmgaretjax]

The Frog album is my fav

I have that on vinyl. It's printed on this ridiculous red and green wax, absolutely gorgeous. One of my favorites as well.

[amyzzz]

DON'T watch that Sylvia Plath movie (Sylvia) with Gwyneth Paltrow in it. I was seriously depressed after that one for at least a week or so. Liked it, but it was damn depressing.

[garrett222]

yesterday i listened to some 'gospeed you black emperor!' ...which was good.

Went to the BRMC show last night...checked out some girls with a bud of mine, but wasn't ready to start approaching. I can't pull tail as quick as the forgetting sarah marshall dude...he had some serious game..

[PassiveTheory]

Yeah, I really think that Portishead, the Smiths, Blonde Redhead's "Misery is a Butterfly" and Jeff Buckley contributed to my depression following the end of my last relationship. Bad idea to listen to them, in retrospect, but I'll be damned if that isn't good music.

[CalmerThanYou]

Just send her this vid...it's magical.

[algunz]

I've never been broken up with and have never felt any regret after a break up, so I say move on and find another fuck until you find the one that fucks you the "right" way.

[TommyboyUNM]

DON'T try to be friends with her right away. You'll either start fucking again and regress into limbo or you'll feel like shit ten times over when she starts dating another guy. Take a break and don't be friends until you're 100% cool with it. I just made this mistake, so trust me. Be selfish and tell her you can't talk to her right now. Even if you are 100% wanting to be friends at some point, it's not gonna happen now. I put myself through torture because we had a Radiohead trip planned. While the trip and concert were both amazing, I put myself through months of anxiety so that day wouldn't be ruined.

Going out with other women might be the fastest way to get over it. Or at least start out with just hitting on other women.

And when you think about your "failed" relationship, only take the good things and learning experiences out of it. Remember that it's only a failure if you didn't learn anything from it. Just take your experiences with her and use them for the next woman.

Good luck. And High Fidelity is definitely a good one to watch after a breakup.

[captncrzy]

Just send her this vid...it's magical.

I was hoping this was the "Hello Hello" breakup video....

I was wrong.

[bluemamba]

Just start dating other women. Fastest way to recovery. I dont know if thats an option for you or not. Youd have to be somewhat good looking.

[locachica73]

Although sometimes dating other people makes you realize how fucked up most people are in the world and makes you think, ok maybe the ex isn't so bad, he may be a lying cheating man whore but at least he isn't a freak/perv/loser/living in the basement of his parents house star trek junkie. oh wait, i mean she.

[TomAz]

[chairmenmeow47]

fuck all this "date" other people. FUCK other people. as the cherry poppin daddies say, "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else". DO IT. and for god's sake, don't call them the next day.

[downingthief]

Yeah, I really think that Portishead, the Smiths, Blonde Redhead's "Misery is a Butterfly" and Jeff Buckley contributed to my depression following the end of my last relationship. Bad idea to listen to them, in retrospect, but I'll be damned if that isn't good music.

Buckley. So true. Last break up I had, some years ago, I listened to "Last Goodbye" all the time. It was in my head 24/7. I even learned the song, and sang it "at" the offending girl whilst she was in the audience at a gig. Quite cathartic.

[locachica73]

fuck all this "date" other people. FUCK other people. as the cherry poppin daddies say, "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else". DO IT. and for god's sake, don't call them the next day.

I agree, and it works even better if it is dirty naughty angry fucking, then you can yell "I HATE YOU _________" in the middle. The other person might not like it but not like you are going to see her (or him) again.

[Young blood]

I HATE YOU DAD!

[locachica73]

ok that might be a little weirder then screaming out your ex's name, but hey, whatever gets you through the day.

[luckyface]

Travel. Visit friends all over the place. Just go out there and discover that this is not the end of the world.

[bluemamba]

There probably isnt much you can do. Time will cure it. Every day you wake up you will feel a tad bit better than the day before.

[BROKENDOLL]

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[mountmccabe]

I agree, and it works even better if it is dirty naughty angry fucking, then you can yell "I HATE YOU _________" in the middle. The other person might not like it but not like you are going to see her (or him) again.

This is pretty base advice. People shouldn't use a break-up (or whatever) as an excuse to treat strangers like shit. [I'm referring to the not caring what the person nice enough to fuck you thinks, not the "dirty naughty angry" part.]