Breakup Thread

[garrett222]

I just broke up with a g/f of 4.24 years this weekend. I need good movies, albums, and general things to do to help get over the breakup and move on. Ideas???

Here were my thoughts:

Movies:
Swingers

Music:
NOT The Cure

Things to do:
Hit on one random girl a week
Hit the gym

[PassiveTheory]

High Fidelity. Rent it.

[bluemamba]

Sorry about the situation if its killing you right now. Ive never gone out with somebody for 4+ years before so i guess it must be hard.

Hit the gym bro. That helps.

Watch some sports on tv or gamble. Anything that doesnt remind you of her.

[locachica73]

Do the things you were unable to do while with her. All those things that she hated, sit on the couch with your hand in your pants, burp, fart, watch sports, leave dirty dishes in the sink and have some mind blowing sex. Oh and delete her number from your phone so you are not tempted to drunk dial her. lol

[bluemamba]

Oh and delete her number from your phone so you are not tempted to drunk dial her. lol

QFT

Try calling up all those girls you have on the side and go out for some dinner and sex.

[Quadromarshia]

Sounds like you have a date with Jim Beam.

He's always there for me when girls aren't!

[Geno_g]

good ol' beam

[faxman75]

heh movies lets see
Singles

Music:
Nine Inch Nails

Progress not regress, that's my issue lately. I moved out of my 4 + year relationship almost a year ago to this day. I don't think I have progressed enough. I went back to how I was before I met her. Not a good idea. I have a list of goals and I write down what I want to do and get done but I don't follow the lest yet. It's like i'm pre mapping out what i'm going to do but don't have the motivation to do it yet so I smoke weed all evening watching tv and playing video games like i'm 18. Anyway, good luck. Look forward and make life happen.

[locachica73]

Listen to angry music, not sappy. sappy music is the devil.

[stuporfly]

In the past, I've found that it almost helps me to suffer for a while. One of the best breakup albums ever recorded is Frank Sinatra's In the Wee Small Hours. He was busted up about Ava Gardner - and that was the young, sexy Ava rather than the old Earthquake-era Ava.

Buy (or illegally download) that album immediately. And if you want a companion piece, Sinatra's Only the Lonely ain't too bad, either.

Feeling the pain is sometimes preferable to feeling nothing at all.

[CalmerThanYou]

Go Sport Fucking.

Pee in some butts.

Remember: You can't rape the willing.

[stuporfly]

Pee in some butts.

Thanks for reminding me...

- Buy In the Wee Small Hours

- Pee in some butts

[Pixiessp]

I'm going to assume you lived together. If that is the case you need to get out of the house as much as possible for the time being.
Go out with friends,go to shows,run errands etc.

Then when you are ready, redo the house/apt. rearrange furniture etc.
Make it your space. It really helps.

[chairmenmeow47]

whoa, i had no idea you had a girlfriend!

sorry to hear about the breakup. make sure NOT to "reset the breakup clock", as dr. drew says. this means no calling, no talking, let the breakup period go on for awhile before you attempt friendship and things like that. remember that every time you two get in contact with each other, it's like you're "resetting the breakup clock" and having to start all over again with the "moving on" part.

and why deny the depression? i say let the sadness take you over now so it doesn't come out later. the cure has gotten me through many a breakup. though nin is great for angry need-empowerment breakups, lol.

[bluemamba]

Dude go to a lot of shows, jump in some mosh pits and stage dive. It will release some anger. Have as much sex as possible and cry if you have to. Let it out.

[Donaldj]

Just start doing the stuff that makes you happy. Rekindle your passions, whatever they may be. I got out of a 4+ year relationship a couple of years ago and it really saved me. I went from baby showers and dinner parties with people I only tolerated to warehouse raves/parties and music festivals and couldn't be happier.

I would avoid any contact with your ex for awhile, at least a few months until you start to get over it. Do not listen to sad music, it really doesn't help at all in my opinion.

[TomAz]

commit suicide.

[amyzzz]

oh Tom.

[bluemamba]

commit suicide.

lol

[RotationSlimWang]

commit suicide.

I was scrolling down the thread already planning to suggest the way to get her back would be killing yourself.

Tom, you and I think alike. How do you like them apples?

[TeamCoachellaHellYeah]

commit suicide.

have you been listening to The Smiths again?

[wmgaretjax]

Listen to some Merzbow.

Watch "Un Chien Andalou."

Eat ginger snaps.

[Young blood]

sleep with her mom.

[TeamCoachellaHellYeah]

sleep with her mom.

Listen to some Merzbow.

Watch "Un Chien Andalou."

Eat ginger snaps.

both great choices.

[amyzzz]

and her sister.

[fiyahhh!]

Ben Folds - "Song for the Dumped"

[TomAz]

I was scrolling down the thread already planning to suggest the way to get her back would be killing yourself.

Tom, you and I think alike. How do you like them apples?

different paths to the same end. I dont' give a fuck about getting back at her.

[TeamCoachellaHellYeah]

and her sister.

wow...that is just evil.

[chairmenmeow47]

I was scrolling down the thread already planning to suggest the way to get her back would be killing yourself.

well, glad to know i have something to look forward to

*sings ben folds style* and DON'T FORGET!

tee hee

[amyzzz]

More evil than suggesting for a heartbroken sap to commit suicide?