It Rubs The Lotion On Its Skin: A Thread About Dating

[RotationSlimWang]

Not to mention the fact that she recently realized she WORKS WITH A MUSIC ENTHUSIAST.

[Robin]

Im confused ..why is EVERYTHING awkward for kitt kat?

Through no fault of her own, awkwardness just seems to follow her. It's not like she makes situations awkward or anything.

[kitt kat]

I guess it's just my workplace. I know everyone here thinks they're special little snowflakes -- but a lot of people who are over the age of 30 and REALLY like sports (enough to make it their profession) don't give two fucks about music. These are people who don't know who Radiohead are, to put it in perspective.

I am the youngest person in my department by about 8 - 10 years. I am also one of THREE unmarried or unengaged people. These are your average I DON'T LIKE MUSIC OR CULTURE OR ART people. I don't know how I else I can explain it; it's not like anyone here will fucking believe me anyway.

Just fucking believe me. It's a fucking bizarre, weird occurence that the one dude I sit by is also the only person I can say "Pitchfork" to and will get the reference. -- but we don't talk. I guess that's just the culture of my workplace; no one talks (unless it's about sports) and NO ONE hangs out outside of the office.

[kitt kat]

I took two days off to go to Coachella, and when I got back and, when people asked where I was and I told them, EVERY SINGLE PERSON said "What's Coachella?" and when I told them the headliners THEY HAD NO IDEA WHAT I WAS TALKING ABOUT. It was like I was speaking Chinese.

[euphonicfiend]

that story just confused me. I have no clue how any of that would be awkward.. other than the fact you think its awkward so when people try to talk to you , it becomes awkward.... Why would you hide from someone you sit next to while at work? I cant wrap my head around the fact you sit next to someone and never really talk to them. Eventually don't you just loosen up around people? When I put myself in your situation it takes more effort to be weird and awkward , than it would be to just say " hi, how did you like the show? oh ya? cool me too. See you at work, bye" It just seems like your putting all your efforts in the wrong direction.

[RotationSlimWang]

Kat, most people don't know what Coachella is. Or Pitchfork. This doesn't mean that they don't like music--it means that they don't go to music festivals or read intolerable music websites.

[Bud Luster]

Randy is correct here. Coachella is still pretty unknown to mainstream folks. Pitchfork even more so.

[RotationSlimWang]

Lots of people at most of my jobs don't particularly know what Coachella is. That doesn't mean I would hide from anyone in that office if I saw them at a fucking concert. What's it like being just batshit crazy, Kat?

[getbetter]

People at my work dont know who Prince is, I get made fun of, only democract, and blah blah.And this doesnt stop me from trying to talk about music and what not. Maybe Kat has some type of social anxiety which is perfectly ok everyone has their problem .

[RotationSlimWang]

Frankly, unless you work at a music-related business, you can pretty much expect the people you work with to not know what Pitchfork is.

[getbetter]

What you dont know my old kentucky radio or drunken aquarium gheez .I CANT TALK TO YOU

[RotationSlimWang]

"You mean you don't know who Echo Echo is? UGH THESE PEOPLE ARE FREAKS I MUST CONCEAL MY IDENTITY FROM THEM ALL."

[kitt kat]

That's not at all what I was talking about. It's not like I was at a fucking...I dunno, Foo Figheters concert. I was at Ty Segall -- which is exactly the joke you're making. It caught me off guard. That's not exactly mainstream shit; my mom knows what Coachella is but not Ty Segall.

[Robin]

Foo Figheters .

Are they new? I never heard of them.

[RotationSlimWang]

Right, and you saw someone else from your work there, so fucking OBVIOUSLY he knows who that is. Instead of viewing that as an opportunity to find someone else at your job who you can talk to about this shit and will understand you, you cower like a psychopath because you don't want him to find out that you like the same music he does. Do you not see how fucking insane that is?

[stinkbutt]

Zach, how are you the only democrat? Aren't you in a union?

[Robin]

I'm starting to think that people do talk and hang out at her work, just not to her.

[Mugwog]

So now that Kat's sex life is not so awkward, her coworker situation is now awkward?

She is either an amazing troll or truly the most awkward girl ever. Pat has more game.
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-Dpv6MrKFKQE/T-sBdaYnmRI/AAAAAAAABDw/LD4Gpk-O1Ik/s1600/snl-pat-58d5f.jpeg

[HotHamWater]

So she's saying that she doesn't have anything in common with most people in her office, which is awkward, but it's also awkward when she does have something in common with someone from the office. Am I understanding this correctly? Instead of thinking that it's awkward to have something in common with someone in an unlikely place, why not just embrace it?

Kat, have you ever considered that your preconceived notions and expectations of people and situations limit your ability to effectively interact with anybody?


Awkward.

[RotationSlimWang]

If you worked with Kat, how much do you think you'd avoid having to talk to her? On a scale of 1-10, 1 being you see her coming up the hallway and quickly duck into a bathroom just to avoid crossing paths, 10 being you'd fake deafness.

[IceyHotshot]

katt, there is no way any of the things you said are awkward in that story, should be even remotely awkward. If one of my coworkers showed up to a show I was going to it would be awesome. Especially if I felt I couldn't talk to anyone in the office about my interests - I'd just found an ally! Someone who won't make fun of me and I can share a non-tense moment with every so often.

In other news, I got an unsolicited message from a cute girl who has a lot in common with me on OKC! That's a first on multiple fronts. Also, talking to my friend's sister (who is off limits to dating because I've asked my friend if he would be okay with it and he said no) tonight really felt good and I have such a crush on her, and it's nice to have that even though I can't act on it because it shows I am capable of having these feelings for women other than my ex.

[getbetter]

Zach, how are you the only democrat? Aren't you in a union?

There is no union.I work at a small repair station.I get label with most stereotypical stuff.I was talking about how I didnt like CoD but i'll play it to hear trent renzors soundtrack and one guy goes its because it promotes war or I always get Your presidents did this today blah blah..I just laugh it off and plays devil adovcate by agree with their shitty labels.

[HotHamWater]

There is no union.I work at a small repair station.I get label with most stereotypical stuff.I was talking about how I didnt like CoD but i'll play it to hear trent renzors soundtrack and one guy goes its because it promotes war or I always get Your presidents did this today blah blah..I just laugh it off and plays devil adovcate by agree with their shitty labels.

It could also be that they look at you as an outcast because you're the only person at the repair station who types with his feet.

[kitt kat]

(who is off limits to dating because I've asked my friend if he would be okay with it and he said no)

YOUR FRIEND IS A DICK

[unit300021]

Also, talking to my friend's sister (who is off limits to dating because I've asked my friend if he would be okay with it and he said no) tonight really felt good and I have such a crush on her, and it's nice to have that even though I can't act on it because it shows I am capable of having these feelings for women other than my ex.

Obviously if you were just going to hook up with your friends sister then that is a no. However if you have some sort of feelings for her and she has them back then I say go for it. Yeah it might upset your friend a little bit but once he sees that it's something real I don't think he would be to mad.

[HotHamWater]

(who is off limits to dating because I've asked my friend if he would be okay with it and he said no)


YOUR FRIEND IS A DICK

He just wants his sister to have a good orgasm. The last thing he wants to do is put her in the company of someone who will take 20 minutes just to locate the vagina.

[Mugwog]

He just wants his sister to have a good orgasm.

LULZ

[IceyHotshot]

He just wants his sister to have a good orgasm. The last thing he wants to do is put her in the company of someone who will take 20 minutes just to locate the vagina.

lol

No, his reason isn't that he thinks I have bad intentions, it's that he doesn't want to risk our friendship in that if I dated her and it was successful but we had a falling out it might change how he and I interact. And it's not a position I can budge him from, so I'm not going to bother.

[suprefan]

Im confused ..why is EVERYTHING awkward for kitt kat? Is there medication for her not to care about people making fun of her so she can be normal?

yeah, its called cocaine........





YOUR FRIEND IS A DICK


But you're allowed to go bang somebody to spite another person you cared about?

[RotationSlimWang]

Suprefan, coming in to give advice about the three things he's an expert in: dating, being comfortable in social situations, and drugs.

[M Sparks]

I got an unsolicited message from a cute girl who has a lot in common with me on OKC!

Pretty sure making an OK Cupid account counts as soliciting messages.

[IceyHotshot]

Fair enough. I meant that I wasn't the first to make contact :)

[theklein25]

If I was on a dating website I would just hit up every semi-attractive girl on that thing. Worst that could happen is a no reply.

[Mugwog]

If I was on a dating website I would just hit up every semi-attractive girl on that thing. Worst that could happen is a no reply.

Theklein25: Quantity over quality

[guedita]

I once saw a male coworker at a pizza by the slice place that I was walking up to eat at, and we work in this environment together where there is like NO FOOD and people NEVER EAT ANYTHING besides taking giant gulps of office air, and I fucking panicked. And it's not just that they were eating pizza, it's that I couldn't believe that I have a coworker that eats the same brand of organic freshly tossed pizza that I also love. I threw myself into a thorn-bush nearby so that my colleague wouldn't see me and my neck now has permanent puncture scars but I dodged a serious "awkward bullet."

[TheMadeleine]

Just to answer the question a few pages back...

Upon reflection, I'd say I've been in love twice; I've had two additional relationships where I loved them but was not in love with them; and I've mistaken long-term, intense infatuation for love an additional three times.

It's been a busy 15 years or so.

[mountmccabe]

If I was on a dating website I would just hit up every semi-attractive girl on that thing. Worst that could happen is a no reply.

Being captured, immobilized and having your skin force-fed to you over the span of a few months would be worse.

[locachica73]

Kit Kat, I was once young, many years ago. I was a very socially awkward person back then, I was a young mom and didn't have a lot of people in my life. I could only meet people from work, some of them much older than me. Those friends led to more friends, and even more friends, young and old. Now I am a social butterfly and can pretty much talk to anyone I come in contact with, in any situation, regardless of awkwardness. Just because someone is older, married, engaged, ugly, fat, balding, etc. doesn't mean they aren't worthy of having a conversation with. Some of your thoughts on life and interactions with others makes me want to be your wingman. But I doubt you would ever talk to me because I am almost 40, have kids and am fat.

[chairmenmeow47]

i feel sorry that all of you are so insecure you work at such AWKWARD places. thank GOD i work in the land where ben folds five and old dirty bastard are on the intercom 24/7. where my low cube walls (that means the walls are low, so you can see the people you work with. imagine a wall, now cut it in half. that's how big it is) allow me to look into the faces of eric bana and usher look-alikes. where everyone places rock band on their lunch breaks and everyone is fine with going to la perla for lunch. sucks to be you guys.

[algunz]

I need to put kit on ignore because her "drama" makes me want to poke my eyes out with plastic forks. :nono

[obzen]

LAST TWO PAGES COME THROUGH WITH THE LULZ

[locachica73]

Conversation with guy I have never met:

Him: Good morning sunshine!
Me: Good morning to you, did you sleep well?
Him: So So, I really need to have some sex.
Me: LOL, yeah?
Him: Yes, my dick gets so big sometimes!
Me: Really now? I try not to discuss dick size till the 2nd date at least, but thanks for the information.
Him: Oh, sorry, I didn't know the rules.

The process of finding dudes to want to date is making me not want to date.

[Robin]

But I doubt you would ever talk to me because I am almost 40, have kids and am fat.
You're totally wrong. She would never talk to you because you're from the interwebz.

[Courtney]

The problem is that you responded at all after this:


Him: So So, I really need to have some sex.

That's when I block the dude.

[obzen]

Us guys are so needy.

[Courtney]

I don't like to date anyone who needs to have sex. It's just SO NEEDY.

[euphonicfiend]

You're totally wrong. She would never talk to you because you're from the interwebz.

Robin, you are wrong. She wouldn't talk to her because loca is so awkward.

[xuclarockerx]

I don't like to date anyone who acts like they need to have sex. It's just SO NEEDY.

...

[bucketofpower]

I once saw a male coworker at a pizza by the slice place that I was walking up to eat at, and we work in this environment together where there is like NO FOOD and people NEVER EAT ANYTHING besides taking giant gulps of office air, and I fucking panicked. And it's not just that they were eating pizza, it's that I couldn't believe that I have a coworker that eats the same brand of organic freshly tossed pizza that I also love. I threw myself into a thorn-bush nearby so that my colleague wouldn't see me and my neck now has permanent puncture scars but I dodged a serious "awkward bullet."

I want to put this quote on a pedestal and love it for eternity.

[amyzzz]

I think I'm the only one here who understands what Kat is talking about.

[Kyliediscope]

I don't think that helps her case.

[euphonicfiend]

I think I'm the only one here who understands what Kat is talking about.

I understand what she is talking about to a certain extent. I understand dodging someone because I clearly do not like them. I understand thinking someone is just weird and you get a strange vibe from them so you don't enjoy talking to them. What I do not get is thinking a normal interaction is awkward.. And claiming the other person is awkward because they are trying to initiate conversation in a work environment about topics you enjoy. Instead of just accepting the fact that maybe Kat is awkward and everything seems awkward to her. She never said that this coworker give her creeps or she just doesn't like him.

[guedita]

Look, in all honesty, I often try to avoid talking to people I know AND AM SOMETIMES EVEN GOOD FRIENDS WITH when I see them in public because sometimes I just don't want to make conversation. But that's on me. That's me being a weird motherfucker and doing things like comically putting a book up over my face or ducking into a novelty leather belt store just to avoid having to exchange pleasantries. These encounters Kat has with people are abysmally awkward because she projects abnormal amounts of awkwardness all around her and then internalizes her own actions in a way that suggests that it's everyone ELSE that makes things awkward. It's not.

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

Look, in all honesty, I often try to avoid talking to people I know AND AM SOMETIMES EVEN GOOD FRIENDS WITH when I see them in public because sometimes I just don't want to make conversation. But that's on me. That's me being a weird motherfucker and doing things like comically putting a book up over my face or ducking into a novelty leather belt store just to avoid having to exchange pleasantries. These encounters Kat has with people are abysmally awkward because she projects abnormal amounts of awkwardness all around her and then internalizes her own actions in a way that suggests that it's everyone ELSE that makes things awkward. It's not.

I will straight up hide when i see people I know when i'm at the grocery store or whatever. Sometimes i just want to be alone and get on with my business.

[guedita]

When I have some booze in me I go the opposite route and just straight up pretend to be a doppelganger with no fucking clue who the person saying hi to me is.

It often involves bad British accents.

[amyzzz]

Re: co-workers, I'm not sure how to tell this neighbor co-worker to stop singing along to his music without causing any friction.

[greghead]

Here's my funny workplace story that explains why I just don't talk to people at work ...


I'm sorry, where was the awkward portion of that story? And why can't sports people talk about music? You need medication.

[euphonicfiend]

Re: co-workers, I'm not sure how to tell this neighbor co-worker to stop singing along to his music without causing any friction.

Maybe just tell him that his beautiful voice is a distraction.

[ThatGirl]

Re: co-workers, I'm not sure how to tell this neighbor co-worker to stop singing along to his music without causing any friction.

I would just let them know you want them to feel comfortable in their workspace but you have an especially hard time concentrating with the additional noise of the music/singing above and beyond regular office conversation. Make it about you and not them.

[guedita]

Start convulsing and sputtering mumbo-jumbo whenever they sing and hope that they notice the connection.

[Somewhat Damaged]

I think I'm the only one here who understands what Kat is talking about.

Funny, you were the person I visualized when Kat was regaling us with her tale.


Re: co-workers, I'm not sure how to tell this neighbor co-worker to stop singing along to his music without causing any friction.

Do you have a supervisor? Address it with him/her and let that person discuss it with the co-worker. Had that happen to me when I first started at ADP & the other people in my row felt I played my music too loudly.


I'm sorry, where was the awkward portion of that story? And why can't sports people talk about music? You need medication.

I also missed the "funny" part of it. Although good thing Kat waited till she got home to type that all out so nobody from her office could hear.

[mountmccabe]

Look, in all honesty, I often try to avoid talking to people I know AND AM SOMETIMES EVEN GOOD FRIENDS WITH when I see them in public because sometimes I just don't want to make conversation. But that's on me. That's me being a weird motherfucker and doing things like comically putting a book up over my face or ducking into a novelty leather belt store just to avoid having to exchange pleasantries. These encounters Kat has with people are abysmally awkward because she projects abnormal amounts of awkwardness all around her and then internalizes her own actions in a way that suggests that it's everyone ELSE that makes things awkward. It's not.

I agree with this completely.

[amyzzz]

Maybe Kat should not reproduce so that she actually DOES cause others to be awkward, as in, her children. I'm afraid that is what I am doing, alas.

[chairmenmeow47]

at clubs, i generally start dancing when i see someone i don't like walking my way. i've noticed other people do it too. it generally starts with quickly lifting your fists and making jogging and head bobbing motions.

[Geno_g]

Look, in all honesty, I often try to avoid talking to people I know AND AM SOMETIMES EVEN GOOD FRIENDS WITH when I see them in public because sometimes I just don't want to make conversation. But that's on me. That's me being a weird motherfucker and doing things like comically putting a book up over my face or ducking into a novelty leather belt store just to avoid having to exchange pleasantries. These encounters Kat has with people are abysmally awkward because she projects abnormal amounts of awkwardness all around her and then internalizes her own actions in a way that suggests that it's everyone ELSE that makes things awkward. It's not.

When I have some booze in me I go the opposite route and just straight up pretend to be a doppelganger with no fucking clue who the person saying hi to me is.

It often involves bad British accents.

THIS is great...

[M Sparks]

Look, in all honesty, I often try to avoid talking to people I know AND AM SOMETIMES EVEN GOOD FRIENDS WITH when I see them in public because sometimes I just don't want to make conversation. But that's on me. That's me being a weird motherfucker and doing things like comically putting a book up over my face or ducking into a novelty leather belt store just to avoid having to exchange pleasantries. These encounters Kat has with people are abysmally awkward because she projects abnormal amounts of awkwardness all around her and then internalizes her own actions in a way that suggests that it's everyone ELSE that makes things awkward. It's not.

Those weren't belts.

[IceyHotshot]

I knew someday this thread would pay off. Today is that day. The massive lulz have been delivered.

[Mugwog]

This thread was teh coffee room this morning

[algunz]

When I have some booze in me I go the opposite route and just straight up pretend to be a doppelganger with no fucking clue who the person saying hi to me is.

It often involves bad British accents.

Hahaha

I'm gonna hunt you down somewhere and if this doesn't happen, blood will be spilled.

[amyzzz]

That is pretty hilarious.

[ThatGirl]

Watching Silence of the Lambs right now. Ah the lotion.

[RedHotSgtPeppers]

If I see someone I work with outside of work, I generally greet them with a hug. Most of my coworkers are girls, so awkwardness doesn't ensue usually.

Also, one of my female coworkers sized me up with her eyes today. Like the "start with the top of the head, stop at the crotch, move to the feet and go back up" size up. Part of me was flattered and part of me felt objectified.





I didn't know being objectified felt so awesome.

[Robin]

I objectify everyone I work with.

When my boss talks to me, I stare at her boobs.

[ThatGirl]

I objectify everyone I work with.

When my boss talks to me, I stare at her boobs.

I had a colleague that did this to me constantly, in a terribly obvious manner, and it was difficult for me to even be in the same room with him. Thankfully he transferred.

[Robin]

As an HR professional, I like to create a culture where everyone feels comfortable with sexual harassment. If they're comfortable, then it's no longer harassment.

[RedHotSgtPeppers]

I like the way she thinks.

Speaking of sexual harassment, when I worked at Braum's (a fast food/ice cream place in Oklahoma), my female coworkers would regularly grab or slap my ass when they gave me a hug. I didn't mind at all, though. Who am I to pass up cute girls grabbing my ass?

But there was this REALLY creepy gay guy (not that there is anything wrong with that, but it's important to the story) that worked with me there. He was unshaven, greasy hair, ugly as a mother fucker, and he gave off the strong "child molester" vibe. Anyway, I heard from my coworkers that he told them "I'm so jealous that you girls get to grab Logan's ass at work... If I did that, I'd get fired..." *cue sad face*

There was another time that I was joking around at work there, doing my gay character trying to make my coworkers laugh. Shortly after I did that, Creepy McCreeperson came up to me, got in my personal space, and whispered "If you were secretly gay, it'd be a dream come true for me." Officially weirded me the fuck out.

[ThatGirl]

As an HR professional, I like to create a culture where everyone feels comfortable with sexual harassment. If they're comfortable, then it's no longer harassment.

I welcome harassment under the correct circumstances and from the appropriate colleague.

[guedita]

If I have one complaint about my job it's that I'm not sexually harassed enough.

[RedHotSgtPeppers]

If I have one complaint about my job it's that I'm not sexually harassed enough.

Start wearing low cut tops and "fuck me" pumps. Bonus points if the shirt has an arrow pointing down that reads "insert penis here."

[Mugwog]

Start wearing low cut tops and "fuck me" pumps. Bonus points if the shirt has an arrow pointing down that reads "insert penis here."

This way works, but leaving a trail of pubes to your cubicle works better. No underwear also. Also go commando.

[ThatGirl]

Start wearing low cut tops and "fuck me" pumps. Bonus points if the shirt has an arrow pointing down that reads "insert penis here."

One other colleague mentioned to me a couple of weeks ago that I was wearing "throw me down and fuck me boots". Does that qualify as harassment?

[Riggins33]

If I have one complaint about my job it's that I'm not sexually harassed enough.
Shave your mustache, that might help a little.

[RedHotSgtPeppers]

One other colleague mentioned to me a couple of weeks ago that I was wearing "throw me down and fuck me boots". Does that qualify as harassment?

Did he throw you down and fuck you? If not, two things happened.

1. No sexual harassment.
2. You weren't doing enough to provoke it. Shame on you.

[ThatGirl]

Did he throw you down and fuck you? If not, two things happened.

1. No sexual harassment.
2. You weren't doing enough to provoke it. Shame on you.

Guess I need to brush up.

[RedHotSgtPeppers]

Guess I need to brush up.

Just borrow one of Guedita's shirts.

[getbetter]

Shave your mustache, that might help a little.

Who are you? Am I being dumb and this is a troll?

[Riggins33]

Who are you? Am I being dumb and this is a troll?

What do you mean who are you? This is a message board. Are we all supposed to know each other? Derp

[kitt kat]

A dude I work with kissed me on the top of the head. THAT was awkward.

Two things today:

1. Coworker from the story no one though was awkward or funny and I had a weird run in. I was secretly making a flyer for a show I booked with the office Xerox. Photocopying giant photos of a vintage bikini babe with weird text on top. Was copying a bunch of versions when the printer started going...That meant someone was coming. I pulled the paper out to set it aside and it was printed by that dude. The other page had nothing on it -- kind of easy to see when I flipped it over to set it down. He comes in and I'm making my flyers. I'm trying to not show I'm abusing office shit, he obviously printed nothing. I told him, "Oh I put your stuff there," and he was like "Oh. Um. Yeah." I said I was scanning and moved it and he mumbled something and left. Awkward.

2. Was parallel parking on my street at home and Stupid Hot Dude rides up on his bike, sees me, and stops. He's making fun of my parking job, blah blah. Get out and we end up talking on the sidewalk for 20 mins. I was wearing kind of a slutty dress on accident today and he all of a sudden compliments me on it. Blah blah blah...

We're hanging out on Friday :-\

[IceyHotshot]

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lts0cu3qMA1r22325o2_500.gif

[RedHotSgtPeppers]

ITT:
Kitt Kat speaks to humans. Awkwardness forecast: 100%

[unit300021]

We're hanging out on Friday :-\

If you are using that face after you say you are hanging out with him on Friday, then why would you hang out with him on Friday? Unless if you are trying to get fuck buddy number two going on?

[lt.roast.a.botch]

Kat, you're a strange girl.

[TheMadeleine]

What do you mean who are you? This is a message board. Are we all supposed to know each other? Derp

I want to sig this but I don't know how. Plus my sig is long enough.

Anyhoo, qft.

[locachica73]

How do you accidently wear a slutty dress?

[Somewhat Damaged]

She closes her eyes when picking an outfit out of her drawer/closet before going to work in the morning & doesn't look at what she put on until it's too late to change into something else.

[stuporfly]

If you are using that face after you say you are hanging out with him on Friday, then why would you hang out with him on Friday?

She may also use that face through the entire date.

[Robin]

Was parallel parking on my street at home

Aren't you a woman? You shouldn't be driving.

[guedita]

Wait coworker/creepy indie rock band fan printed a blank piece of paper? To spy on you? And he's also a mumbler? Why isn't this is a sitcom?

[faxman75]

I once saw a male coworker at a pizza by the slice place that I was walking up to eat at, and we work in this environment together where there is like NO FOOD and people NEVER EAT ANYTHING besides taking giant gulps of office air, and I fucking panicked. And it's not just that they were eating pizza, it's that I couldn't believe that I have a coworker that eats the same brand of organic freshly tossed pizza that I also love. I threw myself into a thorn-bush nearby so that my colleague wouldn't see me and my neck now has permanent puncture scars but I dodged a serious "awkward bullet."

So good.

[kitt kat]

She closes her eyes when picking an outfit out of her drawer/closet before going to work in the morning & doesn't look at what she put on until it's too late to change into something else.

Not too far off base. It was just a little tight.

[Mugwog]

Katt, I'd like to follow you around for a week, pretty sure we could cash out on writing your life into a sitcom for Fox.

[amyzzz]

I'd watch that sit-com.

[kreutz2112]

Kat, you're a strange girl.

I feel like a lot (not ALL. pipe down.) of girls over analyze shit like Kat does, but Kat just lets it show and comes off as batshit.

[Robin]

What would the title of the sitcom be?

"Awkwardness Not Adverted"
"Scaredy Katt"

[locachica73]

I over analyze conversations and interactions I have with the people I care about. I do not over analyze running into a guy in the copy room.

[amyzzz]

I over analyze conversations and interactions I have with the people I care about. I do not over analyze running into a guy in the copy room.I do sometimes. It comes with the Social Anxiety Package my dad dumped on me.

[Newro7ic]

Katt, I'd like to follow you around for a week, pretty sure we could cash out on writing your life into a sitcom for Fox.

A sitcom with the star being an awkward girl on Fox? That show's called New Girl.

[kitt kat]

I do sometimes. It comes with the Social Anxiety Package my dad dumped on me.

Social anxiety! High five!

You people just don't understand.

[Mugwog]

"20 Something and Hating It"

Kathy Lopez is a 20 something year old single female living in Los Angeles and she's can't stand it! While working a well paying office job, instead of enjoying the coffee/break room banter with her other employees, she's constantly video blogging in the women's bathroom about Chance, her bisexual love interest. When she's not at work, she's at her local dive bar, admiring Mario, the sexy ethnically ambiguous bartender she's in love with. Problem is, Kathy has never said a word to him other than "Pint of Shock Top and fries" before she sits in herself in a corner and blogging more.

She's got the stuff according to some, but she just doesn't feel it, as she says, "I'm 20 something and hating it."

Pilot premieres on Fox this Fall, right after the new Glee spinoff: Glee Club Idol: CALIFORNIA EDITION!

[kreutz2112]

I never watched an episode of Ally McBeal, but I'm just assuming that show would qualify too.

[Mugwog]

A sitcom with the star being an awkward girl on Fox? That show's called New Girl.
Like Fox has never repeated a formula.

[lehorne]

Aren't you a woman? You shouldn't be driving.

They are never really confident, are they? It’s either “I don’t like parallel parking” or a flat out “I don’t parallel park” refusal.

[amyzzz]

I like parallel parking. Getting in there in one backward swoop is so satisfying.

[lehorne]

farmhand, lesbian, or mechanic's daughter

[Robin]

I'm an Asian female that drives an SUV. Parallel parking is the devil to me.

[amyzzz]

None of those. I don't like the inherent misogyny in the assertion that all women drivers are incompetent.

[lehorne]

Robin, wait till you're old completing the motherload of poor driving (AWE = Asian Woman Elderly)

[kitt kat]

I'm a damn good parallel parker (via street parking only at my house)

Also, My name isn't Kathy and, since my brother and father are both named Mario, I highly doubt I'd be attracted to a dude with that same name. Fail.

[algunz]

I suck at driving. I hit a parked car in my most recent accident.

[HotHamWater]

since my brother and father are both named Mario, I highly doubt I'd be attracted to a dude with that same name. Fail.

Wait, really? Is not being attracted to someone who has the same name as a family member a thing for people? Not piling on, Kat, I'm genuinely curious about how people feel about that. If it causes some sort of psychological noise. I would have no problem dating someone named Jessica, Michelle, or Debbie. Interesting.

[Mugwog]

I'm a damn good parallel parker (via street parking only at my house)

Also, My name isn't Kathy and, since my brother and father are both named Mario, I highly doubt I'd be attracted to a dude with that same name. Fail.

I'm aware I don't know the hard facts of your life. If you'd like to sit down with me and actually discuss some of the awkward moments of your life, then we can do that. In fact, if you do that, we will have an edge on "The New Girl" - "20 Something and Awkward : Based on a true story"

We are going to become rich, and by "we", I mean myself. Don't worry the actress who will play you can pull of the awkwardness perfectly! She's also does not have googly eyes. Unless you have googly eyes?

Talking attractive names for men, what would be an ethnically ambiguous name you'd be attracted to? Mike? Rick? Jon? How would you feel about a good ol' Adam?


EDIT:

Has anyone hooked up/dated with a person with the masculine/feminine version of their name? IE Eric/Erika, Michelle/Michael

Having hooked up with a few Erikas, I've determined I'm just a whore.

[MusicIsMyBoyfriend]

I think it's a little strange, just sets off a hmmm in my brain. I think it would be weird to actually date someone with the same name as my father, but perhaps at that point I'd just call them some pet name and not think about it. I think a name would be a stupid reason not to date someone potentially compatible for you. Just maybe don't scream out his name during sex.

Examples of peole I am attracted to who other than their first name are about as different from my father as they can be.... Paul Banks, Paul Rudd, Paul Walker, Paul Smith (Maximo Park).

[fetuspiniata]

lucky for me, my mother's name is norma!

[IceyHotshot]

I used to have massive social anxiety but I worked through most of it. I still "feel awkward" occassionally, most notably lately when attractive women smile or say hi to me when they get into the elevator. I feel awkward just because I never smile in time (read: at all. It always surprises me) and I don't know what else, if anything, other than "hi" to say during the 45 seconds she is a captive audience. Some of these women I've seen more than once this way now.

It's not a big deal or something I spend any real amount of time mulling over, just wanted to point out that "awkwardness" (social uncertainty) can happen to others besides just Kat.

[mountmccabe]

It's not a big deal or something I spend any real amount of time mulling over, just wanted to point out that "awkwardness" (social uncertainty) can happen to others besides just Kat.

"Point out"? Did you not see the posts and posts of people talking about how they have acted awkwardly and/or not known what to do in various normal social situations? There's nothing to point out.

There's a difference between being surprised by something and not being able to recover from it. There's a difference between owning the awkwardness, admitting that it was your internal awkwardness and making blanket generalizations claiming inherent awkwardness.


I am sure many people here would've been taken aback by unexpectedly recognizing a co-worker in the crowd at a small show. Some may duck away, some may go deer in the headlights, some may fumble at meaningless words. Whatever. I would probably even feel the slightest bit of awkwardness when seeing them again, recontextualized. But I'd know that, hey, we both like a thing. That doesn't mean we have to be friends but it does mean we might have something to talk about. And I, awkward as I am, like talking about things I know about.

What's strange is seeing learning that a co-worker likes a thing you like as a bad thing.

[Robin]

I suck at driving. I hit a parked car in my most recent accident.

Me too!... trying to parallel park.


As for the name thing, I've dated a David and a Richard (my brothers' names). I've also dated a couple Roberts. Since I also answer to the name "Rob," it sometimes got confusing when we were with a group of people.

[GuyInTucson]

Robin hit a parked car? Shocking!!

[Robin]

Psssh. Wasn't the first time. Lol.

[fatbastard]

Summary

Loca's beating them off with a stick and Kat's is running from them.

[miscorrections]

Wait, really? Is not being attracted to someone who has the same name as a family member a thing for people?

I would have a terrifically difficult time with trying to take someone with the same name as my brother seriously (as a romantic whatever). Same name as my dad...that could fly, considering I don't call my dad by his name. But I also feel like it would be weird dating someone with the same name as a good friend? I don't know, the closeness of the prior relationship kind of claims the name. No one else has room.

[guedita]

My dad's name is Manfred. Manfred.

I would probably stop to think for a moment before embarking on any sort of penetrating journey with a gentleman also bearing that name.

[Courtney]

Oh wow. Manfred. My dad's name is fairly common and I would have no issue dating a guy with the same name. But I would probably want to use some sort of nickname or shortened version to distinguish the two.

[Courtney]

Also, I practiced my crazy pick up skills tonight and got three phone numbers at a bar. Corinna was witness to my skills. However, for the sake of full disclosure I should probably mention that I was attempting to pick up female friends, not potential dates.

[greghead]

Start wearing low cut tops and "fuck me" pumps. Bonus points if the shirt has an arrow pointing down that reads "insert penis here."

DO NOT encourage this girl to put on heels. Shit gets wild when she breaks out the heels.



Oh wow. Manfred. My dad's name is fairly common and I would have no issue dating a guy with the same name. But I would probably want to use some sort of nickname or shortened version to distinguish the two.

My girlfriend and my sister share the name Jennifer. Luckily, there's Jennifer/Jen and Jennie. So it's not a completely untenable situation.

[chairmenmeow47]

if i really like someone, their name sure as hell ain't stopping me from pursuing the relationship. it might be a little weird at first, but it's not that big a deal.

[locachica73]

My fathers name was Mike (Michael), I have never dated anyone with that name that I can think of. It's not that I wouldn't, but it just hasn't happened, which in itself is a little strange given how common the name is. My sister has dated several people named Mike/Michael though.

The only place I know of in Phoenix where you have to parallel park is downtown, I use to have to go down there all the time for work, the homeless people use to guide me into the spot for a small fee. I doubt I could do it without assistance though.

So the nice guy that I went on a date with 4 years ago, he went on vacation for 10 days and last night he sent me his normal "hey you, how is your day going" text. He has been checking in daily, I thought it was sweet that he was thinking of me on his vacation. Then I got a second text from some number I didn't know saying please stop including me on mass text messages... Apparently I am just a number in a long line of numbers he was checking in with. I let him know one of the many women he was talking to sent me a text and he tried to tell me that he has a new phone and it just sent the mass text out on it's own. Seriously?

[psychic friend]

he tried to tell me that he has a new phone and it just sent the mass text out on it's own. Seriously?

hahah, that's a good one. creative!

[chairmenmeow47]

Then I got a second text from some number I didn't know saying please stop including me on mass text messages... Apparently I am just a number in a long line of numbers he was checking in with.

hahahahhahhaha, oh man, i've made some mass text mistakes. years ago i used to send porn to two-three different guys to see who was available. then i realized that the recipients could see all the sender phone numbers. thank goodness those two-three guys were too clueless to get it.

for all you crazy mother fuckers who insist on ending casual relationships in person, why? why is it so offensive to get a break-up email or text if you're not in a serious relationship? it feels like a giant waste of time to eat up someone's schedule just to dump them. but i want some feedback before i uh, make any moves.

[locachica73]

If it's a casual relationshp then I am perfectly fine with the "hey, this isn't really working for me" text or email. If it goes beyond casual then I expect a face to face discussion.

The guy is still trying to explain away his mass text. I would have more respect for him if he were just honest. It's not like he is the only boy I am talking to, I am just smart enough not to send out mass texts to them.

[HotHamWater]

hahahahhahhaha, oh man, i've made some mass text mistakes. years ago i used to send porn to two-three different guys to see who was available. then i realized that the recipients could see all the sender phone numbers. thank goodness those two-three guys were too clueless to get it.

for all you crazy mother fuckers who insist on ending casual relationships in person, why? why is it so offensive to get a break-up email or text if you're not in a serious relationship? it feels like a giant waste of time to eat up someone's schedule just to dump them. but i want some feedback before i uh, make any moves.

I don't think doing it in person is necessary, but I think a phone call is warranted. An email or text is too impersonal, in my opinion, for that type of conversation.

[chairmenmeow47]

i guess i don't see it as much of a conversation, which is why i don't see the need for a call or in-person visit. this isn't a debate. i'm just not interested. i don't like listing people's "faults", because what i consider a fault may be what someone else considers perfect. plus i never talk to this person on the phone anyway. i feel like getting dumped kinda sucks, no matter what. does this somehow make the dumping less painful or something? personally i'd be in more pain talking about it than texting about it.

[HotHamWater]

Why would you have to list his faults in a phone conversation? I'm not sure what that has to do with anything. If I ever got dumped via text or email, I would probably be pissed and think that the person thought very little of me to not even go through the effort and time of a phone call. It's just such an impersonal way of conducting a personal conversation. Of course I would get over it, but I would still think it's shitty.

[miscorrections]

I don't think texting is impersonal at all - for most of us, that's our major form of daily communication. I think ten years ago, sure, it would've been rude to dump via text. But now? I don't see why not.

[chairmenmeow47]

i would imagine a phone conversation would involve questions like "why don't you like me". wheras a text or an email can state my reasons before they get upset. that's all. i still don't get why someone feels "disrespected", during a break-up, that a text/email was used instead of a phone call or in-person conversation. aren't you disrespected that someone just broke up with you? i guess i don't get it, but i guess it may just be a difference in personality. thanks for the explanation, i'm still just having a hard-time grasping why there would be extra hurt feelings via email or text.

[guedita]

Is it okay to hire someone to end the casual relationship in person for you? Like a singing telegram delivering the message, "I no longer want you inside of me."

[amyzzz]

Ugh, not the texting-vs-phonecall argument again!

[chairmenmeow47]

sorry, i know, i know... i just still can't wrap my brain around this.

[HotHamWater]

I would only feel disrespected about a breakup depending on the reasons. Like if it was because they think my family sucks or something. I realize that sometimes people just aren't compatible, so I wouldn't be all that upset. That hasn't always been the case, but it is at this stage of my life. A text or email just comes across to me as very dismissive and makes it seem like she doesn't think it's very important. Honestly, I would think she's taking the pussy way out of it.

[amyzzz]

Christ.

[HotHamWater]

STFU, A

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

WHY DON'T YOU LIKE ME?!?!?

[Hannahrain]

Can you describe your dream breakup for us, Tommy? Include ambiance, dress, any special meals.

[locachica73]

i don't like listing people's "faults", because what i consider a fault may be what someone else considers perfect.

Don't do this, if you don't want to be with someone it's you, not him. There is no need to tell him what is wrong with him.

Also, I suck at breakups when it comes to casual relationships, I typically just stop responding to their texts and phone calls. They eventually figure it out and stop calling. Which is worse than the text breakup.

[guedita]

Tommy, will you just man up and admit that you favor the in person break up because it gives you one last chance for an under the table handy?

[casey]

Every time I have ever broken up with someone I was casually dating, it was after a date, in person. I'm a terrible person.

[mountmccabe]

I think the method of breaking off a casual relationship should make sense within the context of the communication between the parties during the relationship. If you set up dates by texts or Gchat or whatever and you don't really talk on the phone I don't think there's any need for a phone call when the relationship ends. But if a good amount of your remote communication is over the phone then I'd think a phone call would be warranted.

[Kyliediscope]

"Thanks for dinner. This will be the last we share together. Bye"

[locachica73]

Did you at least pick up the check?

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

'Thank you for the lobster. Unfortunately this time it is not going to get you laid."

[chairmenmeow47]

I think the method of breaking off a casual relationship should make sense within the context of the communication between the parties during the relationship. If you set up dates by texts or Gchat or whatever and you don't really talk on the phone I don't think there's any need for a phone call when the relationship ends. But if a good amount of your remote communication is over the phone then I'd think a phone call would be warranted.

this is true. i mean, i've talked to this guy on the phone like once because he was calling me from the grocery store. plus we aren't exclusive and we've never had sex. it's not like i can even get any good break-up sex out of this, ugh!!!

[amyzzz]

Ohh you brought this up again because of your hesitant guy. Okay. Sorry for grumbling.

[casey]

Did you at least pick up the check?
I offered! They all declined. I offered again after breaking up with them and they all declined again. You would think I would have learned this is not the way to break up with guys, but I even tried to do it with my current boyfriend when we were first dating.

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

If you've never even had sex, that's as "casual" as it gets and I almost don't even consider that dating.

The meeting/call/text thing should all be context-based. There are varying degrees of casualness.

[HotHamWater]

Can you describe your dream breakup for us, Tommy? Include ambiance, dress, any special meals.

I think a scavenger hunt is a fun way to do it. Preferably something that requires active wear, tennis shoes, and Power Bars. The last clue would reveal a key to a hotel room, in which I'd be having sex with another person.

[getbetter]

When i broke up with Emily my last girlfriend I accidently lock my keys in my car and had to deal with her crying and what not til someone brought me a spare key.So i think text or email is fine.

[amyzzz]

When i broke up with Emily my last girlfriend I accidently lock my keys in my car and had to deal with her crying and what not til someone brought me a spare key.So i think text or email is fine.That's awful.

[HotHamWater]

So i think text or email is fine.

I get the feeling that, if this was your usual method, there would be countless women out there who still think you two are together.

[Mugwog]

I like Gueditas singing telegram idea.

Last girl I was dating, I tried many times to call to breakup with her, she never answered her phone or would only respond with text or FB chat. I was trying to call to break it off a few times, never worked, in person meets just led to more sex. I just stopped liking her Facebook posts and stopped texting/calling. Totally worked, strange though, if I like a post of someone I've hooked up and comment with a smile/positive message, chances are we will hook up again... Fucking weirdos

Meow: not even having had sex with the guy yet? Just don't call or respond at all

[Mr. Fuzz]

I say you invite him over for a sex test. You don't want to let him go without ever seeing his wang, right? You never know, this dude might lay the pipe like a motherfucking boss. Tell him that you're not sure about him and that you want to see what he is made of. It could be fun.

[SoulDischarge]

Don't do this, if you don't want to be with someone it's you, not him. There is no need to tell him what is wrong with him.

On the other side of things, if someone gives you a rejection notice, fucking NEVER ask what's wrong with you. If it's something fairly serious that's been going on for awhile, I suppose asking why you're breaking up is acceptable, but never what's wrong with you. Have some dignity.

[xuclarockerx]

If you've never even had sex, that's as "casual" as it gets and I almost don't even consider that dating.

wtf?

[HotHamWater]

On the other side of things, if someone gives you a rejection notice, fucking NEVER ask what's wrong with you. If it's something fairly serious that's been going on for awhile, I suppose asking why you're breaking up is acceptable, but never what's wrong with you. Have some dignity.

Very much agree with this. I've made the mistake of asking before, and it never turns out well. Lesson learned.


I don't think sex has to do with this discussion, honestly. I think the appropriate way to gauge it is the amount of time and effort that was put into it on both sides. There could be more intimacy from spending a lot of time with someone, as opposed to just sleeping with someone (yeah yeah, I know, fuck you).

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

wtf?

if you're grown-ass adults and there isn't some religious thing going on, dating includes sex.

[chairmenmeow47]

if you're grown-ass adults and there isn't some religious thing going on, dating includes sex.

it does. remember i've been ill though. we've done a lot more of what tommy is talking about i suppose. it's just a lot of effort. and i've never met his friends. yet he refers to them by name constantly without any explanation of who these people are. WHO IS PAUL?! really nice otherwise, i just am a grown-ass adult who loves sex in all the technical and non-technical ways.

though i am considerate of schedules when discussing this shit. nothing worse than a break-up telegram in the middle of work.

[HotHamWater]

Yeah, what if you send him a breakup text and he's hanging out with Paul? If your soon-be-to-ex guy starts crying, it will be awkward for him and Paul. Knowing Paul, though, he would crack a joke to break the tension. Oh, that Paul.

[casey]

LA ladies (Kat?), this guy needs a date to the Dark Knight Rises: http://losangeles.craigslist.org/lac/m4w/3149681813.html

[amyzzz]

hahahahaha haaa

What are the $10 gas station boner pills he speaks of...?

[obzen]

:nono

[Robin]

I wish I lived in LA.

[kitt kat]

I had a pretty fun time with Palm Springs / FWB (?) dude last night. So yeah.

[amyzzz]

What about Stupid Hot Guy? Can you get in rotating action with both of them?

[algunz]

Or both at the same time.

[Robin]

Spit roast

[jackstraw94086]

chinese handcuffs

[amma_sol]

LA ladies (Kat?), this guy needs a date to the Dark Knight Rises: http://losangeles.craigslist.org/lac/m4w/3149681813.html
I thought i had given up with men, but no! There is hope! He seems like such a catch.

[chairmenmeow47]

chinese handcuffs

*fingercuffs

[RotationSlimWang]

Ha, I was just about to correct Jack on that too. No wonder we boned so much.

I admit to not being so good at the breaking up thing. At least in that I tend to go the, "rather than have that conversation and feel like I broke this girl's heart, I will get progressively more and more insane and distant until they eventually get weary and do it for me."

It's like hunting for terrorists. Sure, we could go in there and deal with the problem effectively, dealing with the threat directly. Or we could just nuke the shit out of the entire area until eventually the relationship dies of radiation poisoning.

[getbetter]

LA ladies (Kat?), this guy needs a date to the Dark Knight Rises: http://losangeles.craigslist.org/lac/m4w/3149681813.html
We going to have sex.lots of it..sorry

[RotationSlimWang]

Here's the problem with Kat as I see it:

Kat has misunderstood the formulaic character she seems to have based her entire life on becoming. She wants to be Zooey Deschanel in one of Zooey's shitty movies (cue Kat coming in to say, probably in caps, how much she hates Zooey Deschanel because she's too hipster). But there's a part that you're failing to copy about this particular archetype, let's call it the Annie Hall Persona.

Annie Hall was a vivacious woman, quirky and strange, but she (and all the various copies of her since--Zooey, Natalie Portman in Garden State, etc) were acting as a foil to a neurotic protagonist male. The women themselves aren't real people, they're barely well-drawn characters, as they're essentially just plot devices to get the nervous young man too overcome with feelings of awkwardness to be able to make the move--making the move with a girl being symbolic of taking control of their life and ultimately a metaphor for achieving adulthood.

YOU CAN'T BE ANNIE HALL IF YOU'RE A NEUROTIC BAG OF FEAR AND INTROVERSION, YOU SILLY BITCH. If you're really so concerned with people not being able to see you/interact with you, stop dressing like all the self-absorbed assholes in this city who want nothing out of life more than to be gawked at.

[amyzzz]

How much powder heroin are you on today?

[RotationSlimWang]

Absolutely none, sadly, you insufferably bland walking skintent.

[greghead]

How much powder heroin are you on today?

Dammit Amy. Are you certain you know what you're talking about?


EDIT: I like Randy's version better.

[amyzzz]

I've gained some weight. I'm not a skintent anymore. You can make fun of my round belly or something.

[amyzzz]

come on COME ON. I'm feeling bored and victim-y.

[Hannahrain]

Your fanny pack looks like a decapitated muppet frown.

[fatbastard]

insufferably bland round belly :pulse

[ramblinon]

Here's the problem with Kat as I see it:


The problem with Kat is that you guys keep feeding the troll.

[suprefan]

The problem with Kat is that you guys keep feeding the troll.

She wants to be a troll in real life, whats there to feed?

[RedHotSgtPeppers]

I know I'm late to the conversation, as I have been at work all day today, but I think the break-up process (text/FB/phone/in person) thing should be a case-by-case basis.

For me, I've dated 4 girls. The first one was on-and-off for 3 years when I was a young teenager. The first 2 times we broke up was over the phone because she lived 20 miles from me and neither of us could drive. The third time we broke up was after a concert that she invited me to. That sucked really hard to be broken up with then. She was as frigid as an icebox to me the whole night (wouldn't hold my hand, would hardly speak to me) the entire concert. When I confronted her about it, she said "We'll talk later." I wasn't able to enjoy the concert because I knew the breakup was coming. I had to wait for 2 hours knowing I was getting dumped, all the while my girlfriend was refusing to have anything to do with me the whole night. It ended with her saying "I can't do this anymore" and leaving for camp for 2 weeks.

The second girl I dated, we dated for only a week before I found out that she was only 16 (she was graduating high school with me, and I was 18). I got weirded out with the thought of dating someone so young (and I didn't want to go to jail if we did anything sexual), so I just called her and said that the age difference was too much for me to handle. She lived like 40 miles away, so meeting in person wasn't really plausible.

My other long term girlfriend, Alexandra, broke up with me in person, twice. Once at school, and once at my apartment. The first time I just left and skipped the rest of my classes that day and just moped the rest of the day. The second time involved a lot of yelling. She ended up hanging out at my apartment after it was all over because I didn't want to be alone, and I was still so madly in love with her. She was such a stone-cold heartless bitch that she didn't feel bad at all that she basically ripped my heart out and stomped all over it that she stayed and retained the "let's just be friends" angle. Theeeeeeeeeeeeen she started dating one of my friends like 5 days later and that was that. She is a cunt.

My last girlfriend was 100% a rebound for both of us. It mostly consisted of having sex, and watching How I Met Your Mother for 2.5 months. It was what we both needed at the time. She broke up with me in person, and it was a mutual breakup, as I was feeling that we weren't "clicking" as a couple like we thought we should be. It ended on good terms with no hard feelings, and we are better friends now now that we aren't dating.

I'd say that breaking up with someone over Facebook is NEVER acceptable, and text message breakups are highly discouraged unless the other person is being a crazy stalker psycho.

http://wac.450f.edgecastcdn.net/80450F/1025kiss.com/files/2011/01/TwoCents.gif

[HotHamWater]

I have to admit, I've broken up with someone via Facebook IM. The relationship had reached the end, with a 0% chance of being saved. We were in the midst of a fight, and we both knew it was over. The problem was, she was out of the country at the time. I kept asking her to call me, and she didn't want to. I had to go to work, and we weren't going to have a chance to talk for a few days. So many things were already said and done that it made it pointless to continue the relationship past that minute. As much as I didn't want to do it, I told her that it was over. It didn't help with closure, but it probably eased some tension for both of us. The breakup was about as mutual as a breakup could get. It was at the point where one of us just needed to say it so we could move on already. Even after all that, I still wished we had a conversation on the phone. No hurt feelings on either side, it was just rather impersonal for an occurrence like that. But I suppose, ultimately, it didn't matter.

[lehorne]

read that paragraph speeding up the tail end of the sentences and enunciating loudly

[RedHotSgtPeppers]

read that paragraph speeding up the tail end of the sentences and enunciating loudly

lehorne: providing quality contributions to threads since Feb 2012.

[lehorne]

I didn't read yours

[RedHotSgtPeppers]

I didn't read yours

Good. Don't.

[locachica73]

The nice guy I went out on a date with last week is now becoming whiney. I think this is why I tend to avoid nice guys, I don't deal well with whiney men. We went out on Saturday and had tentatively planned to get together sometime this week. On Monday he wanted to meet but I didn't want to leave my room due to being hungover, he had his kids Wednesday, I had plans to hang out with my daughter yesterday and I have plans today with a bunch of friends for happy hour. I agreed to dinner Saturday but he started pushing for Friday. I explained that I have to know someone really well prior to introducing them to my friends which made him whiney. Then he tried to call me and I don't get cell service in my apartment so he whined about not being able to hear my voice. Now I have to be mean and break the date for Saturday because he is setting off my clingy creepo meter, I hate being mean.

[fatbastard]

stone-cold heartless bitch

[locachica73]

Man, I wish that were true. I would get much further in life if I had a little more bitch in me.

[JorgeC]

Man, I wish that were true. I would get much further in life if I had a little more bitch in me.

freudian slip?

[locachica73]

Possibly.

[Mugwog]

Nice.

[kitt kat]

What about Stupid Hot Guy? Can you get in rotating action with both of them?

Seeing him tonight, but I think I've decided he's just nice to look at. The sex with him was subpar.



But there's a part that you're failing to copy about this particular archetype, let's call it the Annie Hall Persona.

I've never based my "persona" off anyone or anything, real or fictional; my persona is me, a sum of every experience and interaction with the world I have stocked up in my memory banks. But, you're not the first person to bring up the "Annie Hall" idea as an explanation for my issues — not that I'm actively trying to BE said character, but that somehow, dudes interpret me as being that kind of manic pixie dream girl type. It was first suggested to me by a friend who thought it was the best explanation to why the last three dudes who tried to get me to date them were all 30ish, balding, neurotic and awkward Jewish men.

[Mugwog]

Show us your tits already Kat.

[algunz]

No, show them your tits, Kat. You will learn a lot about a man when you flash them randomly.

[getbetter]

No, show them your tits, Kat. You will learn a lot about a man when you flash them randomly.

Well she does have a point.I don't remember this girl face at the last beer festival was at.Yet I am damn sure do remember she wasn't wearing bra and they felt nice.

[fatbastard]

Man, I wish that were true. I would get much further in life if I had a little more bitch in me.

It depends what you wre trying to get. You seem fine to me.

[fatbastard]

Tits are haught.

[chairmenmeow47]

I have been seeking a smart-ass chick to quote the Simpsons with, could it be you???? That's pretty impressive that you can quote the Simpsons. I read that women's brains work differently then men's and they are usually retards when it comes to quotes. It did say retards too. Haha!

i want to know more about how my brain works.

[IceyHotshot]

I have a date on Tuesday.


i want to know more about how my brain works.

This guy knows how to flatter.

[greghead]

i want to know more about how my brain works.

What a charmer he is.

[chairmenmeow47]

ps, it's done. break-up text sent. i'm like a bird, i'll only fly away.

[marooko]

How often do you think people find out they're getting divorced via Facebook? Or how long before it becomes a thing.

[IceyHotshot]

Well, my generation is starting to get married. Give it 2-5 years.

[Mugwog]

i want to know more about how my brain works.

I feel like there should be a list of words not to mention upon first contact with an individual and "retard" is definitely a high priority on that list

[thewoodenman]

i ventured into the online realm recently. have been talking to a few girls and there's one i am really interested in. we both are wanting to take our time and not jump right in to a relationship. we have a lot of the same interests. we've got pretty good chemistry through the phone and messages, and hoping it's the same when we meet. never met up with someone i just met online before though, kinda skeptical.. i dunno. how have some of your guys' first dates been/what did you do?

[SoulDischarge]

Just imagine it's like a regular date with a regular person that you met through regular avenues, because it pretty much is just that.

[locachica73]

I typically meet them at a bar or restaurant. I usually arrange to have one of my friends call/text me half an hour in, that way I can fake an emergency if the guy is a loon. Just be yourself and chat her up, it will be fine.

I went on a 2nd date with a guy I knew I wasn't really interested in but he guilted me into a second date. He fixes copy machines for a living, he told me a 20 minute story about a toner spill. Don't do that.

[Robin]

I typically meet them at a bar or restaurant. I usually arrange to have one of my friends call/text me half an hour in, that way I can fake an emergency if the guy is a loon. Just be yourself and chat her up, it will be fine.


I usually drive myself to the first date. If it isn't going well, I just say "This isn't going to work out" and leave. I rather just let him know so he won't bother contacting me afterwards.

[fatbastard]

Liquid or powder?, because I could debate about a liquid spill being quite interesting.

[locachica73]

Oh yeah, I always drive myself to the first date, that is the best way to avoid being buried in the desert.

I wish I was better about telling people it isn't going to work. I even had an out with toner guy, he text me after the date and said he had a feeling I wasn't interested and wanted to know what he did to fuck up... I could have given him a list but instead told him that I was just having a rough day and wasn't feeling well.

[locachica73]

Liquid or powder?, because I could debate about a liquid spill being quite interesting.

Sadly it was a powder spill.

[mountmccabe]

How often do you think people find out they're getting divorced via Facebook? Or how long before it becomes a thing.

The jump from ending a casual relationship via text or chat to ending a marriage via Facebook is gigantic.

That being said when a couple doesn't communicate well there are going to be problems anyway and symptoms may well surface via Facebook. I am sure it has happened at least some and I am sure it will continue. But, again, that is miles away from making a conscious decision to let your long-term partner know that you're done with them via unfriending them or changing your status to Divorced/Looking/Single/etc.

[ThatGirl]

The jump from ending a casual relationship via text or chat to ending a marriage via Facebook is gigantic.

That being said when a couple doesn't communicate well there are going to be problems anyway and symptoms may well surface via Facebook. I am sure it has happened at least some and I am sure it will continue. But, again, that is miles away from making a conscious decision to let your long-term partner know that you're done with them via unfriending them or changing your status to Divorced/Looking/Single/etc.

I know a couple that is divorcing now and the whole thing has pretty much been aired out over Facebook - stating reasons in their status updates as to why it's happening, and making accusations and saying awful things. It's been horrible to witness and I can't believe they are doing it.

[chairmenmeow47]

i do believe in one post stating that things have ended. if it was amicable, a brief "it just wasn't meant to be" would help keep your friends from asking about betrayal or something like that. cause it sucks having to tell everyone you see for months that it ended.

and text went over well yesterday. he sounded bummed, but it wasn't dramatic. i feel a lot better though. it just felt like too much effort to keep things goin and it's way too early for that.

[IceyHotshot]

I usually drive myself to the first date. If it isn't going well, I just say "This isn't going to work out" and leave. I rather just let him know so he won't bother contacting me afterwards.

This should be what everyone does when not interested.

That said, most people are cowards when it comes to this, so, respect.

[Robin]

Interesting read on why men typically fall asleep after sex.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2177158/Sorry-darling-I-just-help-How-scientists-real-reason-men-fall-asleep-sex.html?ITO=socialnet-twitter-mailonline

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

Is talking after sex really a thing? I can't say i've ever been with a woman that expressed any interest in having a conversation after sex.

[locachica73]

I like that the guy falls right to sleep, it means I get the remote. Whoot.

[miscorrections]

I've never understood that shit either. I just want to pee, clean up, and go to bed if it's night time or go about my business if not.

[Robin]

I usually fall asleep after the pee and clean up..... Or eat.

[guedita]

I always hope that the guy falls asleep right after the sex, mostly because it means they won't notice that I'd fallen asleep during the sex.

[jackstraw94086]

Is talking after sex really a thing? I can't say i've ever been with a woman that expressed any interest in having a conversation after sex.

No it's not common. It only seems more common than it is because the few women that do want to talk never fucking shut up about how men don't.

[jackstraw94086]

Interesting read on why men typically fall asleep after sex.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2177158/Sorry-darling-I-just-help-How-scientists-real-reason-men-fall-asleep-sex.html?ITO=socialnet-twitter-mailonline

Is it really that interesting? I couldn't possibly imagine a more useless study. As if we needed scientific proof why we nod off. Or that women would give us shit that biology supports it.

[Mugwog]

Guys fall asleep after sex because they jizzed.

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

i often masturbate as a way to wake up.

[SoulDischarge]

I sometimes wake up masturbating. It makes me paranoid that I might do it while staying at someone's house or some other situation where it would be massively inappropriate.

[casey]

I sometimes wake up masturbating. It makes me paranoid that I might do it while staying at someone's house or some other situation where it would be massively inappropriate.

True story: I dated a guy in the past who would try to hook up with me while he was asleep and I wondered if he masturbated in his sleep. He never masturbated while sleeping next to me, though. That I knew of, anyway.

I think it's called sexsomnia.

[JorgeC]

i like to be woken up via someone giving me a handie or blowsie. does that count?

[locachica73]

Is it normal for guys to masterbate even when in a committed relationship? I have never caught any of my ex's masterbating, I just assumed that was something people only did when single.

[kitt kat]

Is it normal for guys to masterbate even when in a committed relationship? I have never caught any of my ex's masterbating, I just assumed that was something people only did when single.

No, dudes in relationships definitely do it.

[Newro7ic]

Is it normal for guys to masterbate even when in a committed relationship? I have never caught any of my ex's masterbating, I just assumed that was something people only did when single.

Yes. Every guy masturbates, even when in a committed relationship. I speak for every guy.