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locachica73
04-28-2011, 02:02 PM
My parents use to throw each other over furniture. It was a fun place to grow up. :nono

I.F.A.
04-28-2011, 02:04 PM
My brother broke my bedroom door once, after I had barricaded myself in my room to get away from him. We never threw things at each other though - we'd just chase each other around the house. The day that he realized he was bigger than me (I'm 2 years older) was a scary one indeed. He broke a few of my toys and things sometimes, but I never told on him - if I had, we both definitely would have gotten the belt. My mom's line was always "you're older and should know better", so I'd get punished along with him (or, frequently, instead of him).

My dad is definitely an inanimate object punisher. He has a terrible temper, and throws tools and shit when he's trying to fix something.

Come to think of it - I've never met a woman who does it, but along with my dad I've met several guys who will like, beat the steering wheel and curse in traffic, or kick the car if they're pissed, or throw tools when they're trying to fix something. They'd get really angry about the slightest inconveniences. The throwing things phenomenon is definitely not gynocentric.

chairmenmeow47
04-28-2011, 02:13 PM
it's amazing, i had the best family life, but for whatever reason had a lot of these crazy experiences with other people in my childhood. first argument at 6 was over what type of floor a roller skating rink had and i was held down and choked till my mom came out. i've been pushed down the stairs more than once, beaten with drumsticks, etc. i really don't get where all this came from cause it ain't my family. it also makes me not want to bring up any issue at all because most of these things happened over very inane discussions.

chiapet
04-30-2011, 07:10 PM
My hair is so ratty right now that I end up ripping out tangles with a comb when I wash it. Time to make an appointment for a haircut! ...I think it might be time to cut it off. My hair's been past my shoulders for at least 5 years. I am thinking about shoulder length (still barely long enough to put in a ponytail) with choppy short bangs. I can't figure out exactly what I want though.

Hannahrain
04-30-2011, 07:12 PM
That sounds cute, Heidi. Maybe a little longer toward the front? Not a dramatic angle or anything, but just enough to frame your face.

chiapet
04-30-2011, 07:18 PM
Yea, I was thinking bangs that are kind of... side-swept and asymmetrical but in a really choppy way. So part of them would be really short but there'd also be some fringe in the side. I can't find a picture that matches what I'm thinking, but I had bangs like that several years ago and it was cute.

Pixiessp
05-01-2011, 04:26 AM
I've only ever felt the need to throw something at someone out of anger.
This happened once and only once. I chose to throw the pencil that I had in my hand at my sister. The pencil decided to get stuck in her cheek.
My mom got so mad at me that she punched me in the nose and then immediately realized what she had done and started crying. Then I started crying.
I'm pretty sure my sister was crying too. I think I would be too if I had a
pencil sticking out of my face.

Hannahrain
05-01-2011, 09:20 AM
http://hurricanevanessa.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/kobi-levi-1.jpg

JustSteve
05-01-2011, 09:32 AM
I only slam doors once I've already verbally raged, and only then if the verbal raging did not soothe my soul. Which it usually does.

you ever tried to slam the door, but due to air flow it just gently closes once getting to the door jamb? that shit drives me insane. i'm trying to show my anger, dammit. then? poof.

chairmenmeow47
05-01-2011, 03:24 PM
http://hurricanevanessa.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/kobi-levi-1.jpg

WANT

I.F.A.
05-02-2011, 08:33 AM
I second the want of those shoes.

miscorrections
05-02-2011, 08:43 AM
Oddly enough those are not my jam.

chiapet
05-02-2011, 10:20 AM
Hair chopping is scheduled for Wednesday evening. Wooo.

Courtney
05-03-2011, 03:16 PM
I just gave my phone number to a dude with salt and pepper early male pattern baldness and far too much hair gel, a decision based entirely on his lovely accent.

allyjoy
05-03-2011, 03:39 PM
Completely understandable. I forgive my professor every time he's late to class because of his accent.

Courtney
05-03-2011, 03:48 PM
Right?! It's like kryptonite. Darn those accents.

amyzzz
05-03-2011, 03:53 PM
What kind of accent? I like all sorts, but especially all types of British and up-state New York. And lately even Southern accents have become somewhat endearing to me (if not especially sexy).

allyjoy
05-03-2011, 03:57 PM
My prof is from the UK :pulse but married :(

Courtney
05-03-2011, 03:57 PM
Upstate New York?!


And yes, it was British. So British. But I dig Kiwi accents a lot too. And Irish.

chiapet
05-03-2011, 03:59 PM
Scottish accents, here. Doesn't bother me at all that I can't really understand what they're saying.

Courtney
05-03-2011, 04:06 PM
Next time I have Gemma, BritChris, and RageAgainstTheAoki in the same room as me, I am going to force them all to record lovely voicemail messages for me.

Courtney
05-03-2011, 04:08 PM
Or maybe I'll have gel hair guy record it. If he actually calls me.

Kyliediscope
05-03-2011, 04:09 PM
I love pretty much any accent. British, Russian, and Australian are my favorite.

Hannahrain
05-03-2011, 04:14 PM
I really love voices in general.

amyzzz
05-03-2011, 04:15 PM
Courtney, I fell for a guy with that accent years back, and I still like hearing it.

Courtney
05-03-2011, 04:17 PM
I like listening to voices that are deeper than my own. Which makes me glad that I have a relatively high voice. Because there are a whole lot of deeper voices out there.

chairmenmeow47
05-03-2011, 04:22 PM
go get 'em, courtney. make him talk dirty to you :)

accents can be sexy, but australian and south african do nothing for me.

Pixiessp
05-03-2011, 06:45 PM
Scottish accents, here. Doesn't bother me at all that I can't really understand what they're saying.

Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes!!!!

Courtney
05-03-2011, 06:48 PM
go get 'em, courtney. make him talk dirty to you :)

accents can be sexy, but australian and south african do nothing for me.

Ha, thanks Ivy. I appreciate your enthusiasm, but this is more the kind of scenario where he is a complete stranger and we will meet for dinner in a public place and have moderately stimulating conversation over overcooked linguine, followed by a stroll along the beach and maybe an awkward hug and cheek-kiss at the end of the night. Dirty talk will have to wait.

HowToDisappear
05-03-2011, 06:58 PM
Team Scotland here!!! Not just the accent alone... ooohhh such beautiful, beautiful men. (My husband is a Scottish boy --- one generation removed.)

I have a genuine neurosis about Australian accents. Can't stand hearing them. This from working with a batshit crazy Australian woman that made my worklife nearly unbearable. And I have wonderful Australian relatives, too. Sorry, Australia. Just smile and look pretty and never open your mouth.

I.F.A.
05-03-2011, 06:59 PM
Marrying a Scot turned me off of Scottish accents for life.

ivankay
05-03-2011, 07:04 PM
When i was in Paris a few years ago, a girl told me i had a beautiful accent. That was the only time i ever heard that.

chiapet
05-03-2011, 09:55 PM
True story: tonight a fucking scot told me he could not understand my accent.

Drinkey McDrinkerstein
05-03-2011, 11:11 PM
People from Glasgow have the most incomprehensible way of speaking I have ever heard. They might as well be speaking Arabic.

Pixiessp
05-03-2011, 11:29 PM
I've been told I have an accent. I've also been told I look Japanese, Chinese, Fillipino(2 L's?). But the accent is apparently indistinguishable.

allyjoy
05-03-2011, 11:32 PM
that's what makes you sexy, pixie ;)

Pixiessp
05-03-2011, 11:36 PM
that's what makes you sexy, pixie ;)

You always know how to cheer me up. :)

chiapet
05-04-2011, 12:04 AM
Glawgeian accents are the worst. I can understand every third word. still want to fuck them :)

allyjoy
05-04-2011, 12:09 AM
what's a glawgeian?

locachica73
05-04-2011, 07:04 AM
I have been told by people from this country that I speak with an accent... I have to let them in on the fact that it isn't an accent but a lisp... btw, thanks for pointing it out, fucker.

I love NY accents, there was this guy I use to see at the bar all the time, we finally introduced ourselves and he pronounced my name Ordra, which for some reason I found extremely sexy, so after that if I saw him at the bar I would walk up and ask him to say my name.

Nick is from NJ, when he moved here the schools made him take speach therapy to get rid of his accent. Now he has none, which makes me a little sad. I think he would be even cuter with a slight NJ accent.

chiapet
05-04-2011, 08:11 AM
That's the drunk spelling of glaswegian (people from Glasgow).
I don't remember posting that.
Guess I ought to go check the FB 'wall' of all glaswegian friends now.

I.F.A.
05-04-2011, 08:13 AM
Glawgeian accents are the worst. I can understand every third word. still want to fuck them :)

My ex was from Glasgow. I actually used to have to make phone calls for him, because no one could ever understand him.

chairmenmeow47
05-04-2011, 09:37 AM
this is true. i'm practically deaf and at bars it was impossible for me to understand him.

amyzzz
05-04-2011, 09:48 AM
I have been told by people from this country that I speak with an accent... I have to let them in on the fact that it isn't an accent but a lisp... btw, thanks for pointing it out, fucker.

I love NY accents, there was this guy I use to see at the bar all the time, we finally introduced ourselves and he pronounced my name Ordra, which for some reason I found extremely sexy, so after that if I saw him at the bar I would walk up and ask him to say my name.

Nick is from NJ, when he moved here the schools made him take speach therapy to get rid of his accent. Now he has none, which makes me a little sad. I think he would be even cuter with a slight NJ accent.
Everyone has an accent, Audra. ;) I've been told my accent sounds kind of Southern (by someone from NY), although I know it's not really Southern. Also, that is sad and strange that Nick had to take speech therapy to rid him of his NJ accent.

chairmenmeow47
05-04-2011, 09:51 AM
at boarding school, a few korean girls thought i was french. which made no sense to me, until someone said it while i was wearing a beret.

locachica73
05-04-2011, 10:12 AM
Everyone has an accent, Audra. ;) I've been told my accent sounds kind of Southern (by someone from NY), although I know it's not really Southern. Also, that is sad and strange that Nick had to take speech therapy to rid him of his NJ accent.

Yeah, I thought so too. He went to catholic school though, he said the nuns couldn't understand him so he was forced to speak correctly. I have visions of him getting hit with a ruler whenever he tells me about that.

amyzzz
05-04-2011, 10:16 AM
I've heard of Catholic schools forcing left-handed children to be right-handed as well (happened to my grandma in Ireland).

Mr. Dylanja
05-04-2011, 10:17 AM
^ that happened to my grandma and was also referred to in The King's Speech.

chiapet
05-04-2011, 10:30 AM
We moved to the 'country' when I was young, where people speak Appalachian English (actually different enough from standard English to be its own dialect), so I was always accused (when speaking properly) of having a strange accent.

It took me so many years to figure out what people were saying. For example, sometimes I stayed at our neighbor's house, and their mother would tell me to 'worship' before bed. "..." I'd go make like I was praying. Apparently she was telling me to take a bath (wash (warsh) up).

amyzzz
05-04-2011, 11:13 AM
My dad (from rural Illinois) says "warsh" and "squarsh" and calls lunch "dinner." My mom (from South Bend, Indiana) says "woish" and "squoish." I think I've mentioned this before, but I like repeating it. :)

Hannahrain
05-04-2011, 11:26 AM
My mother says most things without accent but the one time in her life it was actually relevant for her to say "Mario Brothers" she said it like "merry-o" and I was completely fucking baffled.

chairmenmeow47
05-04-2011, 11:33 AM
my mom's southern accent comes out when she's bitching about someone or talking to someone else from the south.

my boss is one of those people who says "fleg" instead of "flag".

locachica73
05-04-2011, 11:39 AM
I've heard of Catholic schools forcing left-handed children to be right-handed as well (happened to my grandma in Ireland).

Nick is left handed but can also use his right for many things (shooting pool and playing baseball are two I know of), I will have to ask him if it had to do with the nuns or if it was so he could take his right handed twin brothers math classes.

chairmenmeow47
05-04-2011, 11:53 AM
i actually forced myself to do gymnastics left-handed so i could get more floor rotations. they make a righty go, then a lefty and back and forth because you can get people to do their floor routines more quickly.

locachica73
05-04-2011, 11:54 AM
My left hand is pretty useless to me. I hate when I am driving and trying to smoke a cigarette because I can't even ash my cigarette with my left hand without getting ashes all over myself.

allyjoy
05-04-2011, 12:18 PM
I've heard of Catholic schools forcing left-handed children to be right-handed as well (happened to my grandma in Ireland).

well that's because the left hand belongs to the devil!

Courtney
05-04-2011, 12:40 PM
well that's because the left hand belongs to the devil!

Fun fact: When I lived in Saudi Arabia, I learned that it is improper to point, gesture, touch someone else, eat with, or otherwise utilize your left hand in polite company. Because that's the hand you're supposed to wipe your ass with.

guedita
05-04-2011, 12:42 PM
When/why did you live in Saudi Arabia?

Courtney
05-04-2011, 12:44 PM
I lived there from ages 11 through 14 approximately, because my father was hired to work at a bank there.

MissingPerson
05-04-2011, 01:46 PM
You're a riddle wrapped in an enigma wrapped in Hawaii, Biggs.

amyzzz
05-04-2011, 01:56 PM
I lived there from ages 11 through 14 approximately, because my father was hired to work at a bank there.
This explains a lot about you. (in a good way)

MissingPerson
05-04-2011, 02:06 PM
Re: Left handedness and nuns, nuns are douchebags and tended to get it in their heads that everything has to be done a certain way so the kids will "fit in". My grandpa had to learn to write with his right hand so he wouldn't smudge the ink, and I used to know a deaf guy who learned to speak because nuns would physically force their fingers into his mouth and pinch his tongue. That's last generation or the one before though.

HowToDisappear
05-04-2011, 04:42 PM
I'm very left-handed (inexplicably I use scissors with my right). I have to mount a bike or motorbike from the left or I feel totally discombobulated. I have to hold the phone up to my left ear; if I don't I get distressed and anxious and feel like I can't hear or that the person on the other end can't hear me speak. Totally ridiculous, I know I can and they can, but it feels so wrong I can't stand it.

Oh, and ink won't smudge if you keep your wrist straight and tip your paper to the right, the way righties do to the left.

Pixiessp
05-04-2011, 05:11 PM
I am also a serious lefty.
I do play my guitars(when I actually do play) right handed. It's the only thing I can do comfortably with my right hand.

HowToDisappear
05-04-2011, 05:22 PM
Ah, that's right. I played guitar right-handed, too. I haven't played in many years.

obzen
05-04-2011, 06:21 PM
Same, but also lefty, rock & roll.

chiapet
05-04-2011, 08:30 PM
I cut like 8" of hair off. Feels AWESOME. :)

miscorrections
05-04-2011, 08:45 PM
Oooh, nice!

guedita
05-04-2011, 08:48 PM
I got invited to a Mary Kay party. I kind of want to go and heckle.

Hannahrain
05-04-2011, 08:59 PM
I cut like 8" of hair off. Feels AWESOME. :)

Pictures?

Hannahrain
05-04-2011, 08:59 PM
I got invited to a Mary Kay party. I kind of want to go and heckle.

"Oh, that's adorable. She thinks she's a winter."

chiapet
05-04-2011, 09:12 PM
well, I posted this one leaving the salon, it will look better once it's styled though.

http://a7.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/227186_10150559904700284_624485283_17836373_625422 1_n.jpg

Courtney
05-04-2011, 09:35 PM
This explains a lot about you. (in a good way)

Ha! Thanks?


well, I posted this one leaving the salon, it will look better once it's styled though.

http://a7.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/227186_10150559904700284_624485283_17836373_625422 1_n.jpg

Soooooo cute. Love it.

Pixiessp
05-04-2011, 09:55 PM
Did you post that on FB? I think I saw it but I seriously did not think that was you. I like it!

chiapet
05-04-2011, 09:56 PM
Yup, was posted on FB a few hours ago. Thanks ;)

BROKENDOLL
05-04-2011, 09:56 PM
well, I posted this one leaving the salon, it will look better once it's styled though.

http://a7.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/227186_10150559904700284_624485283_17836373_625422 1_n.jpg
Wow, where did all your curls go? Usually, wavy or semi curly hair will really curl up when you take the extra weight off of it. I love the color a lot, Heidi...Good move on the cut too.

chiapet
05-04-2011, 10:00 PM
My hair is less curly when it's shorter. I think it depends on the type of curl? Mine are ringlets, so when it's short, it waves a little, but really has to be past shoulder length to be very curly.

I just realized I had almost the same haircut and color when I was 20. ;)

BROKENDOLL
05-04-2011, 10:21 PM
My hair is less curly when it's shorter. I think it depends on the type of curl? Mine are ringlets, so when it's short, it waves a little, but really has to be past shoulder length to be very curly.

I just realized I had almost the same haircut and color when I was 20. ;)
Is it a good thing or bad thing that the cut makes you look younger? I'm thinking maybe 20-25...

Pixiessp
05-04-2011, 10:25 PM
I also meant to say you look so much younger. You don't look your age to begin with and now you look to be in your early 20's.

BROKENDOLL
05-04-2011, 10:47 PM
What I wouldn't do to find a haircut that made me look like I was still in my 20's again! :rolleyes Actually, I think that wearing my hair up counteracts the gravity effect that's been taking place over the years. I've been considering cutting it short, but then I know how I am...I'll cut it short and then want to wear it long 3 days later. A few weeks before Coachella, I was doing my "window shopping" via the internet and somehow ended up looking at wigs. All the styles that caught my eye though, were anywhere from say, $60- $400...and I'd have to be bald to consider that expense. After about 43 different sites, I found one that was over in China and the styles were probably the closest to what I had in mind if I were to cut mine. The fact that the prices were insanely low, (low enough to worry that maybe these were wigs for a doll?) I thought I'd take the chance. I was actually pleased when it arrived and thought about making a debut at the fest with it on...well, that is, until the temps jumped up on Friday. Anyway, for those days when I desire shorter hair, I may try it out...I love the color, but wearing it over my already thick head of hair will take getting used to...
http://i172.photobucket.com/albums/w18/1BROKENDOLL/JUST%20ME/535e547a.jpg

allyjoy
05-04-2011, 11:32 PM
Fun fact: When I lived in Saudi Arabia, I learned that it is improper to point, gesture, touch someone else, eat with, or otherwise utilize your left hand in polite company. Because that's the hand you're supposed to wipe your ass with.

Truth! Although I've never lived in the middle east, this is common, and I'm fairly certain it's where the nuns get the whole "don't be left handed" dogma. I'm fairly certain that back in the olden days that's what everyone did (wipe their ass with the left hand). As for writing, I do, on occasion, practice writing with my left hand. It's kind of awesome, but my left hand prefers to write in mirror (from right to left backwards), but it helps my Arabic.

amyzzz
05-05-2011, 07:29 AM
I got invited to a Mary Kay party. I kind of want to go and heckle.
My mom sells Mary Kay.

chiapet
05-05-2011, 07:42 AM
Thanks, ladies. You're too kind. I don't think it makes me look younger, but it definitely feels a lot lighter. It felt wonderful to wake up this morning without being tangled in my hair. ;)

chairmenmeow47
05-05-2011, 08:43 AM
cute hair :)

and i wish i could write left-handed. i've tried, but it never turns out right.

locachica73
05-05-2011, 10:00 AM
My daughters best girlfriend who use to spend most of her time at my house died a few months back from a drug overdose. I was really worried it would send my daughter into a tailspin again but she has been doing remarkably well with everything lately, something that makes me thank the powers that be daily. Today she posted this on facebook:


How can she rest in peace if everyone is crying for her, if you knew her at all you'd know she wouldn't want any one of us crying for her. I know it hurts but all she wants is to see us smiling, ENJOYING life as she did. So please be brave and be strong cause that is what Tess would want.

On the days that I feel like I did everything wrong, she makes me feel like I may have done something right after all.

HowToDisappear
05-05-2011, 10:02 AM
I concur. Cute haircut, Heidi!

Bev, go for it and cut it. Short hair will accentuate your cheekbones.

I've got a hair appointment at 2pm. My very short hair will be going even shorter. I want it nice and choppy and fun with zero maintenance for the trip.

HowToDisappear
05-05-2011, 10:06 AM
On the days that I feel like I did everything wrong, she makes me feel like I may have done something right after all.

Awww, that is wonderful. My daughters make me pretty happy, too.

locachica73
05-05-2011, 10:32 AM
Awww, that is wonderful. My daughters make me pretty happy, too.

It was a pretty rough road but luckily she got it out of her system for the most part, she is in college now, doing well (although a little overwhelmed), doesn't even smoke weed anymore and seems to have a pretty good head on her shoulders.

Now if I could just get my own head straight life would be good.

Pixiessp
05-05-2011, 10:42 AM
I'm doing the exact opposite. I am actually growing my hair out. Pretty sure I'll do it this time and not run frantically to my hairdresser when I have a bad hair day. I've already received many compliments and I think it gives me a more feminine and softer look. For the moment, I am content with my decision.

amyzzz
05-05-2011, 10:43 AM
Whoa. I was just thinking you should grow your hair out this morning, Joann. Don't know why I was thinking that.

chiapet
05-05-2011, 10:45 AM
How long are you planning to grow it, Joann? The growing out phase from hair as short as yours was... is definitely a struggle. Like you've said, I would end up cutting it when it got to that in-between stage. It took a lot of clips, scarves and hats to get me through it ;)

Pixiessp
05-05-2011, 10:51 AM
I was thinking just above the top of my shoulders in terms of length.
Still undecided about the actual style.

Errant
05-05-2011, 10:53 AM
I seriously need to do something with my hair, too. But I'm gun-shy after an awful salon experience. I've not let anyone cut my hair in 20+ years (yes, I'm old) :o

Pixiessp
05-05-2011, 10:56 AM
Whoa. I was just thinking you should grow your hair out this morning, Joann. Don't know why I was thinking that.

I woke up this morning and almost changed my mind. Your thought must have traveled over the state line and hit me smack dab on my bushy head.
Just in time too.

chiapet
05-05-2011, 10:59 AM
Having the right stylist really does help. I trust mine completely but I must have gone to at least 20 different people before finding her. She gets my hair, so I trust her to make drastic changes.

Joann, I definitely think you should try longer hair... worst case, if you aren't into it when it's grown out, you can cut it again ;)

HowToDisappear
05-05-2011, 11:05 AM
I was thinking just above the top of my shoulders in terms of length.
Still undecided about the actual style.

Check out the style gallery (http://www.ukhairdressers.com/) at ukhairdressers.com. It's pretty extensive; I print out pictures that I like and give them to the stylist for reference.

HowToDisappear
05-05-2011, 11:13 AM
It was a pretty rough road but luckily she got it out of her system for the most part, she is in college now, doing well (although a little overwhelmed), doesn't even smoke weed anymore and seems to have a pretty good head on her shoulders.

Now if I could just get my own head straight life would be good.

Life IS good, regardless.

I'm in a really buoyant mood right now. I was chatting with atom heart earlier, and she had just officially passed her DivIII (at noon her time). Her sister also passed her DivIII a few weeks ago, after her final art show. They graduate in two weeks. So very proud of them. And we leave on Sat on our month-long odyssey. Happy as happy can be.

Pixiessp
05-05-2011, 11:15 AM
Check out the style gallery (http://www.ukhairdressers.com/) at ukhairdressers.com. It's pretty extensive; I print out pictures that I like and give them to the stylist for reference.

Wow!! Thank you. I've already found a few really cute cuts. :)

HowToDisappear
05-05-2011, 11:17 AM
Awesome. I love that site.

miscorrections
05-05-2011, 11:19 AM
Hrrk, too many options.

I'm good with my current length and style, but I'm getting another hankering to dye it. My poor hair.

locachica73
05-05-2011, 11:21 AM
Life IS good, regardless.

Very true, I am just having an extremely emotional week prior to girl time. I can't seem to get past it this time around, 3 more days and i might be back to normal. :)

Errant
05-05-2011, 11:29 AM
Check out the style gallery (http://www.ukhairdressers.com/) at ukhairdressers.com. It's pretty extensive; I print out pictures that I like and give them to the stylist for reference.

That looks like a good site to get ideas. Thanx for posting it!

chiapet
05-05-2011, 11:30 AM
omg, that site! I'm finding too many things I like.

Corinna: dye it. If your work allows it, do it. You won't always have jobs that will cooperate. Dyeing doesn't have to be the end of the world for your hair. I dye mine all the time. I don't wash it every day, but I do condition it almost every day. And use essential oil treatments once a week or so.

Joann... what about something like this (a little longer maybe) as it's growing out? It's still cute and edgy but looks like it would be forgiving of having lots of different lengths growing out.

http://www.ukhairdressers.com/style/hairstyles/15679/2.jpg

rskapcat
05-05-2011, 11:44 AM
Getting mine trimmed tomorrow. Probably taking the short side shorter, since I'm still waiting for my bangs to join the longer hair party.

Courtney
05-05-2011, 01:14 PM
Check out the style gallery (http://www.ukhairdressers.com/) at ukhairdressers.com. It's pretty extensive; I print out pictures that I like and give them to the stylist for reference.

Woah this site is dangerous. Now I immediately want to make a hairdresser appointment and do one of these with both color and cut:

http://www.ukhairdressers.com/style/hairstyles/15813/2.jpg

http://www.ukhairdressers.com/style/hairstyles/15774/2.jpg

miscorrections
05-05-2011, 01:17 PM
I've been wanting color no. 2 - but more intense - for a real long time.

Courtney
05-05-2011, 01:19 PM
Now I want it too. And I actually am due to go in and get my hair done. I'll have to think about this.

Hannahrain
05-05-2011, 01:20 PM
Had it. Bright reds are really hard to maintain. They require constant upkeep.

miscorrections
05-05-2011, 01:23 PM
Yeah, I did it in high school and it was constant re-dyeing. That's the only reason I keep not doing it. Ditto with blonde.

chiapet
05-05-2011, 01:29 PM
I've always had very good luck with vivid reds. They did fade a little (into dark pink), but it wasn't too bad. That's the main reason I do mine myself though - I re-dye every 4 weeks or so. I'm not very fussy about my hair, so I took a lot of short cuts, like, bleaching only the roots on the top /front of my head and not worrying about undergrowth.

miscorrections
05-05-2011, 01:31 PM
I just need a real good wig collection.

scenicworld
05-05-2011, 01:45 PM
everyone is talking about getting their hair cut, and here I am considering hair extensions. I'm always behind the curve!

locachica73
05-05-2011, 01:56 PM
everyone is talking about getting their hair cut, and here I am considering hair extensions. I'm always behind the curve!

I am with you, I wish I could grow my hair out but it's super thin and gets too stringy when it's long. I don't even know that I could pull of extensions without looking ridiculous. :(

scenicworld
05-05-2011, 02:05 PM
for me, the length is actually OK, I would just like more volume since I also have really thin hair. I wore some clip-on extensions for a couple weeks last summer and really liked how they looked.

I just don't know if I can properly maintain them or if I want to get a weave or adhesive extensions.

locachica73
05-05-2011, 02:17 PM
Did you get them dyed to your hair color or was it pretty easy to find ones that matched?

scenicworld
05-05-2011, 02:26 PM
the ones I had matched pretty well for just being clip-ons, but usually you color your hair and the extensions at the same time when putting them in. I know a girl who can do it for $80, so it's very tempting :)

Errant
05-05-2011, 02:50 PM
There's a girl near me that does them from her home. I've seen some of her work and it's amazing. She uses real hair, can color to match, can even use your own hair if you bring it in. Even tho my hair is already kinda long, I thought it might be a fun way to change it up without doing anything permanent.

chiapet
05-05-2011, 04:20 PM
Clairol seems to have discontinued my hair color. ;(

BROKENDOLL
05-06-2011, 11:49 AM
Let it be known that I was up until almost 3:30am looking over that hairstyle site and I've decided I want to be a Crissy Doll now.

BROKENDOLL
05-06-2011, 12:08 PM
Aaaand, I just realized that some of you probably haven't a clue as to what doll I'm talking about because Crissy has to be about 30 years old by now.
http://i266.photobucket.com/albums/ii259/originalcrissy/htfbox.jpg
Now I'm picturing Crissy with her sagging belly button that once made her hair grow long and healthy, an the knob on her back can only wind up two turns instead of the 6 turns she could do when she was younger and wanted shorter hair. And while her hair was a beautiful dark auburn color, I guess it's safe to say that by now it's peppered with gray...


Hey, I may have just talked myself out of doing something drastic... :)

Courtney
05-06-2011, 05:12 PM
My boss is currently interviewing a super hot actor dude who wants to teach some of our drama classes for children. He's only 3 years older than me, a Cornell grad, and has the perfect sort of nerdy sense of humor. And did I mention hot?

So voting yes on this one.

rskapcat
05-07-2011, 01:10 PM
I fucking love this haircut.

http://a2.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc6/230663_1887343537914_1071181233_2056962_5324990_n. jpg

chiapet
05-07-2011, 01:30 PM
That's really cute! I love haircuts that just do what they're supposed to, without a lot of work.

miscorrections
05-08-2011, 06:19 PM
Becca, that's a great cut on you. Super fun, and it looks great but seems like it would be low maintenance.

MissingPerson
05-08-2011, 06:26 PM
The moody indie bass player expression totally sells it, too.

rskapcat
05-08-2011, 06:30 PM
All I have to do is kind of smoosh it into place (i.e., get the part where I want it) when it's wet. Don't even have to comb it.

Errant
05-09-2011, 05:50 AM
All I have to do is kind of smoosh it into place (i.e., get the part where I want it) when it's wet. Don't even have to comb it.

That's a great cut :)

amyzzz
05-09-2011, 10:41 AM
Wow, I love your haircut, Becca!

chairmenmeow47
05-09-2011, 10:44 AM
cute, becca!!!

i really wish i could trim my own hair. i've needed a trim for a LONG time now, but i just can't get myself to go out and do it.

Courtney
05-09-2011, 01:05 PM
The moody indie bass player expression totally sells it, too.

Ha. Nailed it.

rskapcat
05-14-2011, 02:03 PM
http://www.tomandlorenzo.com/2011/05/hip-hop-for-w-magazine.html

All of these pieces thrown together is a seizure waiting to happen, but damn if I don't want almost everything from this photo set.

Especially this Dior dress.

http://www.tomandlorenzo.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/BMECW-M+5.jpg

chiapet
05-14-2011, 02:31 PM
Wow, I like practically nothing in that article. I like the lines of most of the pieces, but not the color combinations and prints. It's like the 80's threw up all over mod.

miscorrections
05-14-2011, 05:52 PM
I covet all the outerwear in that editorial. Gorgeous.

chiapet
05-15-2011, 12:28 AM
Yea, the outerwear is not too bad. I like the cape-like things.

chiapet
05-17-2011, 11:41 AM
Arghhhhhhhh... Kate Spade sample sale.
http://www.katespade.com/handbags/sample-sale-handbags,default,sc.html

My will power was non-existent.

amyzzz
05-17-2011, 11:49 AM
I really like the necklaces on that site.

I.F.A.
05-17-2011, 12:15 PM
WANThttp://www.katespade.com/designer-handbags/leather-handbags/head-in-the-sand-melinda/PXRU2083,default,pd.html?dwvar_PXRU2083_color=463&start=1&cgid=sample-sale

Courtney
05-17-2011, 12:22 PM
Arghhhhhhhh... Kate Spade sample sale.
http://www.katespade.com/handbags/sample-sale-handbags,default,sc.html

My will power was non-existent.

Ooooh. Now I want this wallet, but in yellow.

http://s7d5.scene7.com/is/image/Katespade/PWRU1676_823?$s7productgrid$

I have a thing for mom-size massive wallets that will fit euro bills and passports and way way too many credit cards.

Pixiessp
05-17-2011, 12:26 PM
Ooooh. Now I want this wallet, but in yellow.

http://s7d5.scene7.com/is/image/Katespade/PWRU1676_823?$s7productgrid$

I have a thing for mom-size massive wallets that will fit euro bills and passports and way way too many credit cards.

Me too. That looks very enticing.
I'm going in.

chiapet
05-17-2011, 12:28 PM
WANThttp://www.katespade.com/designer-handbags/leather-handbags/head-in-the-sand-melinda/PXRU2083,default,pd.html?dwvar_PXRU2083_color=463&start=1&cgid=sample-sale

I did in fact buy that in the garish yellow color :)

I.F.A.
05-17-2011, 12:36 PM
Nice! I really, really dig the blue.

Pinkie
05-17-2011, 03:55 PM
Dammit! You guys are enablers lol. I just bought something from the Kate Spade sale. Thanks for the heads up.

Courtney
05-19-2011, 01:46 PM
I went red:

http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2386/5737647347_6c89b6e3dd.jpg

chiapet
05-19-2011, 02:24 PM
I LOVE it! So lovely.

Courtney
05-19-2011, 02:49 PM
Thanks! :)

The next step is go back and get it cut. We ran out of time!

chiapet
05-19-2011, 02:52 PM
How are you getting it cut?

locachica73
05-20-2011, 07:30 AM
I went red:

http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2386/5737647347_6c89b6e3dd.jpg

Very nice! I love the color.

I have been getting my hair done professionally again, my daughters boyfriends mom does hair so I get discounts (SWEET). I have been trying to go lighter but have been doing it too gradually, first I went chocolate brown with red highlights and then reddish brown with strawberry blonde highlights. Next time around I want to try to do something a little more drastic. How hard is it to get that deep of a red? do they have to bleach it first and then put the red? Is that pretty hard on hair? Your hair looks pretty undamaged but mine is extremely thin and brittle and I worry about making it worse but want something dramatic.

scenicworld
05-20-2011, 12:00 PM
great color!!

I.F.A.
05-20-2011, 12:16 PM
I spent the entire morning trying to talk myself out of spending $170 on these Fleuvogs. I think I'm losing this battle though.


http://www.fluevog.com/code/images/colour_image/0000004875/composite.jpg

I.F.A.
05-20-2011, 12:56 PM
Aaaaaand, I ordered them. :X

ThatGirl
05-20-2011, 12:59 PM
Aaaaaand, I ordered them. :X

Those are gorgeous. I nearly bought some heeled boots at the Fluevog store in Vancouver a few months ago for 525, couldn't justify it but damn it was close. Their stuff is amazing.

I.F.A.
05-20-2011, 01:00 PM
Yeah, these were a steal for $170. Still the most money I've ever spent on a pair of shoes though...

I.F.A.
05-20-2011, 01:01 PM
If they still had them in my size, I totally would have gone for these:

http://www.fluevog.com/code/images/colour_image/0000004569/composite.jpg

chiapet
05-20-2011, 01:01 PM
I have a credit to spend at Fluevog. You need to stop. :)

locachica73
05-20-2011, 01:02 PM
I love the look of those boots and have always wanted a pair of my own, but they never make them large enough to fit around my big legs. Which is probably a good thing since I can't afford $170 for boots. :)

I.F.A.
05-20-2011, 01:05 PM
Yeah, I have the same problem. I actually called one of their stores, and asked them to measure the shaft for me. It's about 16 in at the widest point, which is damn good considering that most boots are more like 14 - 15". My calves are right around 16.5", so if need be I'll just have them stretched. They're 19" tall, which excites me greatly. Knee high boots that will actually come up to my knees!

I.F.A.
05-20-2011, 01:08 PM
I have a credit to spend at Fluevog. You need to stop. :)

I hope your willpower is stronger than mine...

chiapet
05-20-2011, 01:10 PM
It must be, because I've had the credit for well over a year.

Zappos is a really good site for boots for large calves, btw. All of their boots have measurements of the boot height and calf circumference.

I.F.A.
05-20-2011, 01:12 PM
Yeah, I've ordered a couple of pairs on Zappos that I had to return, because the quality really wasn't as advertised. Plus, based on the comments on a lot of the boots, it seems like the given measurements are frequently wrong.
(I'm not quite sure how many hours I've spent reading boot reviews on Zappos, but I assure you the number is high.)

Plus, I'm really, really picky. Every single year I renew my quest to find the perfect boots, and I've always been disappointed. Ideally, I'd find a pair of lace-ups, but I've more or less given up hope (kind of like these -

http://a2.zassets.com/images/z/1/2/7/1276037-p-2x.jpg

chiapet
05-20-2011, 01:20 PM
Really? I've never had a problem with quality with a pair of shoes I've ordered on Zappos. (I have had to return some that did not fit -- but it wasn't down to calf size). I guess I'm fairly familiar with brands and the qualify of each, and I worked at a shoe store through part of college, so from looking at the zoom-in photos, I am pretty sure what I'm getting in terms of quality.

Lace-up boots are a hard one. I am short AND have big calves. Double whammy. It means that where my calves start to get large is lower than the calf on most boots, so I have to look for ones that are actually a little larger than my calf. If that makes sense. I haven't found that in tall lace-ups.

chiapet
05-20-2011, 01:22 PM
I like these a lot, they might be a good replacement for my angels which are falling apart.
http://www.fluevog.com/code/images/colour_image/0000004924/composite.jpg

locachica73
05-20-2011, 01:23 PM
asked them to measure the shaft for me.

I must spend too much time around guys because this made me giggle.

I.F.A.
05-20-2011, 01:23 PM
Yeah - I mean, they were on the cheaper end of the spectrum anyway, so it's not really surprising, but the construction on them just looked like it wasn't going to last, or there was weird pooching on the seams or something. I've also gotten a couple of pairs that were just really unflattering on me. Alas.

Also, it seems like I'm kind of an in-between size as far as my calves are concerned - regular boots are almost always too small, but I swim in the ones that are specifically made for larger calves.

I.F.A.
05-20-2011, 01:24 PM
I must spend too much time around guys because this made me giggle.

I giggled while I was typing it.

I.F.A.
05-20-2011, 01:25 PM
I like these a lot, they might be a good replacement for my angels which are falling apart.
http://www.fluevog.com/code/images/colour_image/0000004924/composite.jpg

I don't usually like ankle boots, but I dig these.

chiapet
05-20-2011, 01:25 PM
That is tough. My calves are huge (they were even when I was not overweight -- I've always been pretty muscle-y), so the bigger the better. Usually I go for soft leather that will stretch, or boots that have elastic gores in the inner side of the shaft so they only stretch as much as is needed.

locachica73
05-20-2011, 01:29 PM
I use to wear ankle boots all the time in Oregon, but since moving here the only boots I have owned are the steel toe ones I had to have for work. I may have to buy some this year now that I actually thing 70 degree winters are cold.

Courtney
05-20-2011, 01:30 PM
I hate to be an enabler, but this shop (http://www.duoboots.com/) is pretty ace for all sizes of calves.

Courtney
05-20-2011, 01:37 PM
How are you getting it cut?


Very nice! I love the color.

I have been getting my hair done professionally again, my daughters boyfriends mom does hair so I get discounts (SWEET). I have been trying to go lighter but have been doing it too gradually, first I went chocolate brown with red highlights and then reddish brown with strawberry blonde highlights. Next time around I want to try to do something a little more drastic. How hard is it to get that deep of a red? do they have to bleach it first and then put the red? Is that pretty hard on hair? Your hair looks pretty undamaged but mine is extremely thin and brittle and I worry about making it worse but want something dramatic.


great color!!

Thanks and thanks! I'm going to bring the bangs back to a blunt chop, and take off the ends of get it a bit healthier.

They did have to bleach it first, and oh man it made me want to be a blonde. Like, white blonde. Maybe next time. My hair is quite fine, and naturally light, so they literally were taking out the bleach before they had even finished putting it in everywhere. So hopefully it didn't cause too much damage. I guess time will tell, but right now it seems fine.

locachica73
05-20-2011, 01:42 PM
It looks great, you and Chia both pull off the red very well. I want to try to do something adifferent, shake things up, but I am always so nervous to do it. I guess I just need to throw caution to the wind and make a change. :)

I.F.A.
05-20-2011, 01:55 PM
I hate to be an enabler, but this shop (http://www.duoboots.com/) is pretty ace for all sizes of calves.

Their equestrian boots are SO HOT.

I like your new 'do as well, btw. :)

ThatGirl
05-20-2011, 02:25 PM
That is tough. My calves are huge (they were even when I was not overweight -- I've always been pretty muscle-y), so the bigger the better. Usually I go for soft leather that will stretch, or boots that have elastic gores in the inner side of the shaft so they only stretch as much as is needed.

I'm the same way, under 5 ft with very muscular calves, always have trouble with boots that don't fit. Naturalizer carries wide calf boots, lots of great styles too. Most people assume it's granny shoes in there but the selection is really good.

Courtney
05-23-2011, 12:06 AM
Just bought a pair of Moxi Lolly roller skates (http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/urban/catalog/productdetail.jsp?id=20178927&color=001&navAction=jump&itemdescription=true) in teal. They're on sale for $99 in select sizes and colors right now! Thanks to Daxton for originally plugging these :)

http://www.rollergirlskates.com/images/P/Moxi_Fairy_450.jpg

ThatGirl
05-23-2011, 06:32 AM
Those are awesome! I have some old school roller skates in a sneaker style but the wheels are so heavy it hurts the top of my foot to use them. Have you taken them out out for a try yet?

rskapcat
05-23-2011, 09:21 AM
I posted this in the Default thread, but I suspect it will just end up buried there.

http://www.parentcentral.ca/parent/babiespregnancy/babies/article/995112--parents-keep-child-s-gender-a-secret

My short opinion? Interesting concept...questionable execution. And I'm bothered by the fact that the parents don't seem to distinguish between sex and gender. Correct me if I'm wrong, but sex is purely biological. It can be changed later in life through surgery if you feel like you were born with the wrong parts, but you can't choose the parts with which you are born. Gender, on the other hand, is fluid (again, correct me if I'm wrong), and I respect the fact that the parents are trying to not influence the gender of their children. But I worry that the kids will go against gender norms to please their parents, rather than to please themselves.

Drinkey McDrinkerstein
05-23-2011, 09:51 AM
I was reading that article yesterday. I think the concept is genuine, but I don't think blurring gender roles and literally hiding the sex of a child should be the same thing. It's just not as simple as they want it to be.

Courtney
05-23-2011, 09:58 AM
Yes, I agree with both of your comments: sex and gender are NOT the same thing. I think that there's good gender-neutral parenting, and then there's using your child as a platform for your beliefs, and this falls into the latter.

I.F.A.
05-23-2011, 10:02 AM
Becca, I agree with you.

I read a lot of articles on alternative parenting (oddly, since I definitely don't want a kid), and a lot of the time what I see happening is that the parents are just creating a reactionary dogma of their own to follow and instill in their kids instead of whatever societal constraint it is that they're reacting against.

In the instances that I think, yeah, this parent is doing it right (regarding gender norms specifically), it's generally a Ma Vie En Rose (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0119590/) type situation where an older child (i.e. non-infant) begins to exhibit non-conforming behavior - boys who want to paint their nails and wear a tutu, girls who want to cut their hair off and play with army men, etc., and the parent goes a long with it and lets the kid do its thing. What this article smacks of, however, is that these people are making the choice and imposing it on their kids. I think they're probably going over board on instilling their contrarian gender politics in to their youngest child, at least, and possibly the older ones as well (I use the word contrarian not because they have inherently different views than the "norm" - and because raising kids with an awareness of gender fluidity is something that I strongly support - but because... I dunno, the delivery kind of strikes me as creepy? It sounds like these parents are the kind of incredibly overbearing parents who genuinely think that they're giving their kids the utmost freedom, while all along kind of subversively manipulating the choices that the kids make - I mean, titling the kids' diary "The Gender Explorer"? I know that this is just a very small picture of what their lives are like, but that's pretty heavy handed).

Obviously it is impossible to parent a child with out instilling one's values in to it. That's just the way it is. But, yeah, definitely questionable execution.

One further thought - I do think it's pretty cool when parents make a conscious choice not to like, paint a little girl's room pink just because it's a girl, or refuse to buy a boy dolls or whatever. To me, a choice to raise a child in a manner that is genuinely more sensitive to the child's needs and identity should be all about the kid, and what the kid wants (with certain constraints, obviously, because I'm also of the school of thought that kids don't need their parents to be their buddies - they need their parents to be their parents). This sounds way too much like it's all about what the parents want. Also, these kids will probably grow up and decide to be Republican. Because they're going to have to find some way to rebel.

amyzzz
05-23-2011, 10:04 AM
Future therapy for that child I see.

obzen
05-23-2011, 10:05 AM
Yoda?

rskapcat
05-23-2011, 10:16 AM
What this article smacks of, however, is that these people are making the choice and imposing it on their kids.

Exactly. And I admit that your opinion was the one about which I was the most curious. :)

chairmenmeow47
05-23-2011, 10:18 AM
how long did they really expect this to last? i mean, schools are going to want to know which bathroom the kid needs to go to.

i just think this is odd. i think you can be a girl who isn't into pink & likes to build mechanical toys. it doesn't make you "genderless". it makes you you. how the fuck do you ignore biology? are they going to hide the child's race too? what about their hair colour? their sensory perception?

ps, i finally got see courtney's hair outside of a work computer and LOVE IT! the skates are cute too, though i wonder how they actually skate. i would like some speed skates, but i don't get out skating enough. RIEDELL'S FOR LIFE!

I.F.A.
05-23-2011, 10:25 AM
Exactly. And I admit that your opinion was the one about which I was the most curious. :)

I'm flattered. :)

And, yeah, the whole thing just seems a little weird, and not in the weird-is-good kind of way.

I kind of hate spouting off my opinions about parenting, because invariably the reaction that I get is "well you don't have/don't want kids, what do you know?"... the main reason that I don't want kids is that I know I just couldn't handle the responsibility. That doesn't mean I'm not allowed opinions on the matter.

chairmenmeow47
05-23-2011, 10:25 AM
as i keep reading, i really hate these people.


“I regret that (Jazz) has to discuss his gender before people ask him meaningful questions about what he does and sees in this world, but I don't think I am responsible for that — the culture that narrowly defines what he should do, wear and look like is.”

i bet jazz wouldn't have to discuss his gender if y'all hadn't made such a production out of it!!! and what "meaningful questions" are there to ask a child? "do you feel that your favourite pokemon teaches women to act submissive in a male-dominated society?"

I.F.A.
05-23-2011, 10:27 AM
"do you feel that your favourite pokemon teaches women to act submissive in a male-dominated society?"

I'm so changing my signature.

chiapet
05-23-2011, 10:48 AM
I can kind of see where the parents are coming from, in the sense that, from the moment people know what sex the child is, they expect gender conforming behavior and -- perhaps unintentionally -- put gender roles on the child. It's in the simplest and most innocent forms -- color of clothing, prints on clothing (sports, trucks, cars for boys; kittens, ponies, I don't know what for girls), the toys selected. I do think that unless parents are vigilant this morphs in only a few years into an idea of "these things are for boys" and "these things are for girls," and makes kids take gender normative choices when they feel that's what will make their parents or teacher happy.

Going so far as to refuse to say the baby's sex? Yea, I think that's taking it too far. But I can definitely can see their point that as soon as they say it's a boy (for example), relatives will start treating him like a baby boy, buying him "male" gender clothes and toys, etc.

FWIW, this is a topic I hear trans friends harp on a LOT. The overwhelming gender designation of baby items is a very new thing, motivated by marketing. Why have baby clothes and toys that are the same regardless of gender, when you can sell double the goods? Now parents that have children of opposite sexes will buy new stuff instead of recycling it.

I found this interesting, this was an article heavily posted last month by some of my trans and gay friends. Of course my response was "When I was a baby, everything was yellow and brown and orange." Thank god for the relatively gender neutral 70's, eh?

http://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/When-Did-Girls-Start-Wearing-Pink.html

rskapcat
05-23-2011, 11:15 AM
There has to be some middle ground between everything about your child being determined by its biological sex and avoiding the issue of your child's biological sex all together.

chairmenmeow47
05-23-2011, 12:36 PM
there really isn't much else to ask about a newborn except whether it's healthy, the size/weight and the sex. i mean really, you can't ask what the baby's thoughts are on the current political climate in the middle-east. so what else do you ask?

i'm sure there is some influence on the baby from it's toys/clothes, but really all those articles of clothing with baseball bats are for the family, not the baby. the baby doesn't know what any of that means. so really, if you have specific desires for gifts for your children, it is perfectly acceptable to either let people know what you want or do not want in a gift or just not use the gift. for instance, if having a baby shower, say you want gender-neutral clothing. or that you want sports specific clothing or whatever. you can buy band & coachella onesies for your children these days, is a parent going to be deeply offended that you're trying to make the child a cure fan when you want the child listening to taylor swift?

and i do get that there is still some gender prejudice. i was pretty much always the only girl on my soccer teams for example. i won the "best girl" award even though i was the only one. so i think it's perfectly acceptable to expose your children to a variety of activities. ultimately though, the child will eventually determine what they do and do not like. i loved baseball, theatre & playing with computers as a kid. but no matter how much my dad tried to push me to become successful at these things, none of them were ultimately my career goal. and he accepted that. which is the most important thing of all. you can't control whether the entire world accepts your child, but you CAN control if YOU do.

I.F.A.
05-23-2011, 03:04 PM
My day has officially been ruined by a terrible, overpriced haircut. (Dear Supercuts: If I wanted to spend $40 I'd go to a real fucking salon. Also, thank you for doing the EXACT AND POLAR OPPOSITE of what I asked you to do, and for fucking my bangs up while you were at it. If grades were given out for sucking, you'd be on the honor roll.)

I should just go back and get it fixed and ask for a refund (except the only option to fix it at this point would be to get another bob, which IS WHAT I HAVE SPENT THE LAST 12 MONTHS GROWING OUT FUCKYOUSUPERCUTSFUCKYOUFUCKYOUFUCKYOU), except I hate confrontation enough that the thought of going back stresses me out even more than I'm stressed out about my shitty haircut.

Every time I get in the elevator and have to look at myself (our elevators have mirrored doors), I just want to cry.

/firstworldproblems

amyzzz
05-23-2011, 03:08 PM
I'm sorry to hear about your haircut woes, Amy, but you do look really good in a bob.

I.F.A.
05-23-2011, 03:16 PM
Thanks amyzzz. It's mainly the whole year worth of growth now wasted thing that pisses me off. That and the $40. I hate it when it comes time to pay for a haircut - it's like trying to count the number of beans in a jar. How much this time? $20? $40? $60? It's a fucking surprise!!!

It's a good thing I'm slightly more mature than I was at 20, because if that were the case I would have seriously considered coming back to work and pulling an Empire Records angst moment in the bathroom with my scissors.

I also feel more than slightly ridiculous for getting so upset about my hair.

chiapet
05-23-2011, 03:16 PM
I think you should confront the stylist about it. Even if it makes you nervous to do it, they should know they fucked up. Would you want them to fix it?

After getting my haircut, I realized that my stylist that I absolutely love really fucked up my bangs. She cut them so much deeper/thicker than I asked for, I even asked her when she was cutting them and she was kind of dismissive. It's unlike her, but she fit me in while she was dyeing someone else's hair and I think she didn't really listen to me. And there is nothing I can do to fit it now except wait and wear some of them clipped up every day.

Oh well. I went on a scarf buying spree and will just cover my bangs with scarves for the next 6 months.

chairmenmeow47
05-23-2011, 03:19 PM
that sucks so much, amy. while i generally like supercuts for just a "trim", i've noticed a lot of hair stylists like to force their desires on you. i only ever want a straight trim across the bottom. nothing more, but they always seem to want to do SOME sort of layering because i guess that's just an odd request to them. and it's hard to talk about it at the time of the cut, because sometimes you just need a day to get adjusted to it, though that's obviously not the case here.

and i have a gazillion scarves i rarely ever wear. granted, i don't have much reason to wear them here, i just think it's funny i buy them in the first place.

i also bought a new dress this weekend in flagstaff.

I.F.A.
05-23-2011, 03:25 PM
Yeah, waiting to fix a bang fuck-up is the worst. Luckily with mine she just didn't bother to actually comb them all out when she was cutting - so there are a bunch of strands that got missed. I can fix that at home at least.

I should have said something in the chair - I thought that she missed some bangs, but didn't say anything. There's nothing that I can do about the back though - I asked for it longer in front and shorter in the back so it would have a slight a-line, and she did the opposite. So now the back is below my shoulders, and the front is like, almost right under my ears. It seriously makes me look like 10 years older. And not in the hot cougar way. It's just... frumpy. Ugh.

chiapet
05-23-2011, 03:34 PM
Ugh, that's awful. You should definitely tell them and make them change it (since there's no 'fixing' it) and/or refund you. That's too far from what you asked for to be an honest mistake. Sounds like they just didn't even listen to what you asked for.

I.F.A.
05-23-2011, 03:40 PM
Part of the reason I don't want to go back is that the girl who did the cut was also the store manager, and apparently she's there open to close during the week (the things you learn about people while they're cutting your hair...) so I'd have to complain about the cut directly to her. It's so much easier when you actually have someone else to complain to... yeah, I'm a coward.

rskapcat
05-23-2011, 04:30 PM
This is why I pay way too much money for my friend Anthony to cut my hair. It's worth it to know he won't fuck it up.

I also avoid confrontation at all costs.

Pixiessp
05-23-2011, 04:43 PM
I always come in here too late to discuss the real meaty issues. :(
Gonna do it anyway.
My own personal experience with gender roles.
My mom and dad never objected to buying me toy soldiers or toy guns or allowing me to wear my hair super short as a small child. My sister was the feminine one and I was the little tomboy. I do recall having to wear dresses to school on occasion and hating it. Mostly because the dresses were so ugly.
Little girl dresses in the 60's were hideous anyway so there was no other option fashion-wise. I went through many phases growing up. Tomboy, Girly, Androgynous, Militant femme. If my parents had objections, they certainly never held me back. I did know I was a girl and expected to do girly things but I came to that of my own accord.

As far as that article:
It's hard to say what is really going in these kids heads and what exactly they are being told and how they are being told. Let me rephrase that.
The parents say they are not encouraging or discouraging any type of gender behaviour but how can they not.
Here is a possible scenario:
Parents and kids in a clothing store. Child is told to pick out an outfit of their choosing. Male child picks out a pair of jeans and a neutral colored shirt.
Parent not wanting the child to think that because he is a boy that he must choose boy type attire tells the child "you can have anything you want. You have the freedom to choose whatever you want. Even this pink shirt and hair bows". A stretch for sure but I think you all get my meaning.
Kids, at that young age, look to their parents for answers and affirmation and if a parent is questioning the childs choice then that child will question themselves.


Edit: IFA, your hair debacle is meaty as well. Here's to fast hair growth. :)
I am growing my hair out and am dreading my hair appt. Not sure my hairdresser is on board with my decision. Yikes!

chiapet
05-23-2011, 04:52 PM
Right, but what if they just tell the kid to pick out whatever he wants, he picks the 'boy' clothes or neutral clothes, and they buy them without further commentary? I don't think we should assume the male child is being prompted to buy pink clothes and bows.

My parents let me pick out my own things. I gravitated towards pink and purple stuff. When I was older and wanted to dress punk or goth or any of the other phases, and wanted to wear something awful, my parents handled it so cleverly. As long as it wasn't extremely revealing, they'd just say "It's not very flattering and doesn't make you look good, but if you want to wear it, that's OK." Sometimes I'd yell at them and say I DO AND I WILL. But eventually I took that as a sign that I really did look ridiculous. This scenario played out a lot during my 'dress like a Fly Girl' (from In Living Color) phase. :/

Pixiessp
05-23-2011, 05:07 PM
I'm really not assuming that is actually what takes place with the family in the article. Merely stating that for all their good intentions it is possible that in pointing out other options and not accepting without further commentary that the child will begin to question their decision. It's a slippery slope.


Chia, I think you have great style. :thu

I.F.A.
05-24-2011, 08:29 AM
Well, I wo/manned up (look at me being gender inclusive!) and went back and had it fixed. It actually wasn't quite as bad as it looked at first - she had blow dried it very strangely, so the back layers were somehow combed over to the front, which is what made it look so short. I dunno. It was weird. So, I had her trim up the back a bit so it's more even, though it's still slightly longer, and fix my bangs. I still don't like it, but I can live with it until my next hair cut, at least.

Something weird must have been going on hormonally yesterday, because I got way more upset about that than I should have. Anyway, hair disaster semi-averted!

locachica73
05-24-2011, 08:53 AM
I tend to have highly emotional reactions to things on Mondays too. I think it is a mixture of it being Monday and coming down from having a good weekend.

Glad the hair worked out, it sucks to try to live through the grow out of a bad haircut.

amyzzz
05-24-2011, 09:36 AM
Good news, Amy! I'm glad it didn't turn out to be the end of the world. heh.

chiapet
05-24-2011, 10:09 AM
I'm glad it worked out, Amy, and I'm proud of you for going back. It's so hard to confront people in those situations (especially if you then want to put your hair back in their hands!) I try to look at it like... stylists are in a service industry, they SHOULD want to know when a customer is unhappy and be given a chance to fix it. Otherwise, you just never go back, and they lose business.

I.F.A.
05-24-2011, 10:14 AM
Yeah, saying something is a policy that I've been working on trying to adopt for several years now. Baby steps, lol. I've at least finally gotten to the point that I don't hyperventilate if I have to call customer service and complain about something, and I'll send food back if it really sucks. I'm glad I went back too.

Also, speaking of customer service, Fluevog has the best (and most adorable) ever. I just got this e-mail:



Your awesome Fluevogs will be arriving to you from the store listed below (which is one of our best ones). If you have any quizzical questions, additional additions, or ch-ch-changes, please contact that store directly (contact details below) and one of its highly trained Fluevogologists will give you the quickest and best service possible.

It should be noted that when your order came in earlier, a few of us sat around at break and talked about how awesome your taste and decision-making ability was. We hope you had a wonderful time on the site, we enjoyed cyber-hanging out with you.


It really makes one feel like their automated messaging system actually cares. I'd like to buy whoever wrote that a drink.

chiapet
05-24-2011, 10:17 AM
Yes, that is the automated message, and isn't it fab?

Drinkey McDrinkerstein
05-25-2011, 06:48 PM
It's always hilarious when Yahoo News grabs onto a story a week later and distills it to its most simplistic core and presents it form the point of view of a complete idiot
http://news.yahoo.com/s/yblog_thelookout/20110524/ts_yblog_thelookout/parents-keep-childs-gender-under-wraps

chairmenmeow47
05-25-2011, 08:14 PM
i am having an extremely fun night trying to find 80s costume ideas for my 80s rock band birthday party.

if only i could realistically get my hair to look like cyndi lauper's in the "we are the world" video...

http://www.multinet.no/~jonarne/Hjemmesia/Favorittartister/billy_joel/billy_joel_cyndi_lauper_bruce_springsteen_usa_for_ africa.jpg

also debating on several iterations of madonna in one, lucky star, like a virgin, heathers, robert palmer band member, pet benatar "love is a battlefield" and michael jackson.

chiapet
05-25-2011, 08:24 PM
Heathers? Are movies OK? If so, what about Jules (Demi Moore) from St Elmo's Fire? I'm thinking mostly because of your hair. Crimped hair, a thrift store men's jacket, bustier or corset, a bunch of fake pearls, lacy tights... ?

http://entertainment-pr.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/picture-1.png
http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_LCUS41SFP3c/TL2pUVH3IaI/AAAAAAAAAP4/bK3wm_o9MDI/s1600/st-elmos-fire1.jpg

chiapet
05-25-2011, 08:26 PM
Also, I feel like it's very easy to do Cyndi Lauper in spirit, even it it's not exactly right. A crimper, temporary hair color spray, colorful makeup, a puffy dress, ripped up fishnets?

chairmenmeow47
05-25-2011, 08:29 PM
movies are fine, anything 80s :)

good choice there too, though i haven't seen the movie. i think both madonna and cyndi lauper would be fairly easy. i'm going to bring a few ideas to the thrift stores and see what i can muster up. like if i can find a perfect palmer or heathers dress for $1 or something, then it's fate i guess.

either way, i'd never seen the she-bop video and loved it.

locachica73
05-26-2011, 06:34 AM
Thanks Chia, I might try to pull that one off if no one else does. :)

chairmenmeow47
05-26-2011, 08:24 AM
DO IT! having never seen the movie (only played the theme on the trumpet), i probably shouldn't.

Drinkey McDrinkerstein
05-26-2011, 09:42 AM
Well, Demi is basically doing Cyndi Lauper with that outfit hahaha. I suggest seeing the movie as well - it's fine '80s melodrama.

chairmenmeow47
05-26-2011, 09:51 AM
no worries, everyone in the 80s practically looked the same ;)

locachica73
05-26-2011, 09:52 AM
I just wanted an excuse to wear a corset. I have never worn one. Do they make them for the flat chested girls of the world?

chairmenmeow47
05-26-2011, 09:55 AM
ha, they make corsets in all sizes. i have several.

Drinkey McDrinkerstein
05-26-2011, 09:57 AM
When i used to frequent the goth clubs, i saw myriad flat-chested women that pulled off corsets very well.

I.F.A.
05-26-2011, 01:57 PM
Corsets are great for producing cleavage where once there was none.

miscorrections
05-26-2011, 01:59 PM
I'm afraid of wearing a corset, I think it would end up pushing my boobs up past my eyes.

amyzzz
05-26-2011, 02:01 PM
Corsets never worked for me either. Except when I was lactating (sorry if that is tmi).

chiapet
05-26-2011, 02:26 PM
I'm afraid of wearing a corset, I think it would end up pushing my boobs up past my eyes.

That wouldn't happen. But you might suffocate in it. The cleavage ends up on your neck.

locachica73
05-27-2011, 06:27 AM
Corsets are great for producing cleavage where once there was none.

YAY!!!! I have always wanted cleavage. :)

amyzzz
05-27-2011, 09:01 AM
Duct tape, loca.

locachica73
05-27-2011, 09:38 AM
That sounds entirely way too painful... and not in the good way.

I.F.A.
05-27-2011, 09:44 AM
I played the Fiddler in The Fiddler on the Roof my freshman year in HS, and that required duct taping (and also wearing a fake beard). What I didn't realize at the time is that it's a very, very good idea to put some kind of protective layer over your nipples. The pain.... it was serious. After opening night I just used an ace bandage. I'm still not sure why I though the duct tape would be a good idea.

chairmenmeow47
05-27-2011, 09:45 AM
OUCH! i usually wear a corset to some vent where i'm dancing, so sometimes i'll buy those sticky bras to wear underneath so i don't show nipple. i tend to pop out. corsets are so hot, but best worn if you know you're not sitting down.

locachica73
05-27-2011, 09:55 AM
When I had my babies and my chest grew considerably I wasn't able to fit into any bras I owned, but I had to wear those stupid leak pads. I thought it would be a bright idea to tape them to my breasts. Not a bright idea. I used masking tape, I can't imagine how painful duct tape would be.

I.F.A.
05-27-2011, 09:58 AM
I'm in the market for a real corset with steel boning (not a "fashion" corset like the ones you find at Victoria's Secret or whatever. Something like this (only in a different fabric):

http://ny-image0.etsy.com/il_570xN.189721396.jpg

(Of course, custom corsets are so expensive that I will probably be in the market for a very long time before I can actually afford one.)

Hannahrain
05-27-2011, 10:39 AM
Eugh.

http://globetoppers.com/

Made infinitely worse by the quality of the site itself.

amyzzz
05-27-2011, 10:40 AM
Skanky.

Hannahrain
05-27-2011, 10:40 AM
Order via e-amil.

amyzzz
05-27-2011, 10:41 AM
When I clicked on it, I thought it was going to be some kind of bejeweled pasties. So at least it surprised me.

Hannahrain
05-27-2011, 10:42 AM
Beverly?

http://globetoppers.com/8.html

Courtney
05-29-2011, 10:12 PM
Ha!

In other news, I recently purchased a bottle of sort of pastel aqua nail polish, and I'm pretty obsessed. Usually I stick to pale pink or classic red, so this is like a revelation for me.

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3285/5775024990_0311a14454_z.jpg

miscorrections
05-30-2011, 10:54 AM
I like aqua polish, I have some although it's tending more towards spearmint and isn't really pastel. I think once summer comes for reals I'm going to redo mine bright orangey coral, though.

locachica73
05-31-2011, 07:56 AM
http://www.morfurniture.com/images/furniture/large/178708310.jpg

I did some furniture shopping this weekend. This is what I think I am going to buy, you can't really tell from the picture but it's a brown corduroy material. The turquoise pillows come with it but I am not that big of a fan of that color. So I am thinking I will recover them in a rusty orange fabric (my favorite color). I am also looking for a papasan (sp?) chair that I can recover in the same fabric as what I get for the accent pillows for the sofa. Thoughts? I am new to this decorating thing and need as much advice as possible.

miscorrections
05-31-2011, 08:26 AM
Decorating isn't really something you need advice on. It's more about doing what makes sense to you (in terms of what furniture you buy) and what looks good to you (shapes, fabric choices, cohesion in a room or not). Everyone has different aesthetics! Except I suspect if I had more money my furniture would be remarkably similar to Courtney's.

samiksha
05-31-2011, 08:28 AM
I want a new couch so bad! I've had the same futon for 8 years now. I saw recently on apartment therapy a woman who painted her couch. I would love to try that.

Anyway, I'm a fan of that color too - I say go for it. I would say maybe get another fabric too. Something with a pattern maybe that's sort of neutral. Just to break up the orange a little.

Papasan chairs I'm not a fan of. They slide around too much under my butt. Papasan couches however - so comfortable. My parents had one when I was growing up.

locachica73
05-31-2011, 08:41 AM
Decorating isn't really something you need advice on. It's more about doing what makes sense to you (in terms of what furniture you buy) and what looks good to you (shapes, fabric choices, cohesion in a room or not). Everyone has different aesthetics! Except I suspect if I had more money my furniture would be remarkably similar to Courtney's.

This is true, but I have never really been in a position of being able to afford to decorate, everything I have owned have been hand offs from others, so I don't even really know what my tastes are. So the advice is more along the lines of what colors would go well together, is it too dark? will it show every piece of dirt, etc. Also, my sister bought me a dining room table that is kind of a rusty iron base with a glass top. I was just going to buy some wood chairs to go with it. My boyfriend told me I would have to get metal type chairs to match the table instead of wood. I would have never thought of that. It's pretty bad when the boy is giving me decorating advice, I am just pretty clueless in this.


I want a new couch so bad! I've had the same futon for 8 years now. I saw recently on apartment therapy a woman who painted her couch. I would love to try that.

Anyway, I'm a fan of that color too - I say go for it. I would say maybe get another fabric too. Something with a pattern maybe that's sort of neutral. Just to break up the orange a little.

Papasan chairs I'm not a fan of. They slide around too much under my butt. Papasan couches however - so comfortable. My parents had one when I was growing up.

A friend of mine had a papasan chair when I was younger and I loved curling up in it to watch movies when I was hungover. I have wanted one ever since. This couch also comes with a large overstuffed chair in the same material that I was thinking of getting instead but the chair is as expensive as the couch so I am talking myself out of it.

The pattern is a good idea, thanks. :)

I.F.A.
05-31-2011, 08:46 AM
I've seen a painted couch in person, and it neither looks nor feels fabulous. Like, it didn't look like it was actually meant to be sat on. I'd wait on the couch painting until couch paint technology has advanced a little bit...

And, Audra. Brown and orange is a fab combination! Also, don't worry about mixing materials. Metal and wood can go together - I actually prefer furniture that isn't perfectly matched, but that's just me.

locachica73
05-31-2011, 09:03 AM
And, Audra. Brown and orange is a fab combination! Also, don't worry about mixing materials. Metal and wood can go together - I actually prefer furniture that isn't perfectly matched, but that's just me.

That is how I was feeling. I am not a big fan of a room looking like it came straight from the showroom. I want it to be a little more laid back and homey, if that makes sense.

I am going to have to find a friend with a sewing machine so I can recover the pillows when I find the right material. Or I might have to find someone to do it for me. I haven't sewn anything since I was pregnant with my daughter.

I.F.A.
05-31-2011, 09:07 AM
I've got a sewing machine. And while I'm not very good with anything else these days, I can still sew the shit out of a straight line. I'll be happy to help out with the pillow recovering. :)

Also, I can't remember where it is, but there's this fabric warehouse that I used to get materials at when I did costumes in HS. I know it's still open, because my brother goes there for material for his drag costumes. I'll ask and let you know where it is - they've got an amazing selection, and they're way cheaper than most other places.

locachica73
05-31-2011, 09:11 AM
I have never been good at straight lines... :)

I actually sewed all my maternity clothes when I was prego but they were these easy peasy jumpers that were just thrown together. That was almost 20 years ago. EEK!!!

amyzzz
05-31-2011, 09:16 AM
Hey..both of you can sew better than I can. We should have a sewing party and help you with your new furniture/furnishings. :)

locachica73
05-31-2011, 09:23 AM
As soon as I get the sofa and dining room chairs I am going to be inviting you all over for dinner/decorating advice. There will also be drinking. :)

Hannahrain
05-31-2011, 09:31 AM
My only valuable suggestion is to get a decent amount of extra fabric so you have it on hand for other little home accents like table runners/curtain ties/etc. I've been using my main couch accent fabric wherever I can fit it and it really helps pull things together while not actually requiring other big things (like curtains) to match.

chairmenmeow47
05-31-2011, 09:41 AM
personally, i'd wait to do the accent colours until i had an idea of what i want the rest of the room to look like. if you want to do other things in those colours though, then go for it. like hannah said, it would help to have extra fabric for later projects. also, you can buy already made throw pillows easily, cost plus, pier one, etc.

Hannahrain
05-31-2011, 09:43 AM
Might as well recover the ones that already come with it if you don't like them, though.

chairmenmeow47
05-31-2011, 09:46 AM
well yeah, but if audra's not all that into sewing or the pillows suck, she may just prefer to buy.