The Girls Only Thread

[HowToDisappear]

Some people don't. For some it's all or nothing. They love you or they don't; they're interested or they're not. Much simpler and direct that way. No transitioning for me.

[M Sparks]

I don't understand why that's confusing. There's the friends zone, the friends with benefits zone, and the date zone. People may transition from one zone to another as the relationships progress.

That's how I feel, but most women think that the friend zone is a one way, one lane, dead end street. Hence the advice not to get in it.

[M Sparks]

Try not to think. Shut off your mind. Guys are suppose to be stupid.

Well, considering the all the retards I've been rejected in favor of, that's probably good advice. I'm just going to get a lobotomy and a big club.

[amyzzz]

Maybe the chicks you liked had chemistry with the retards.

[J~$$$$]

Well, considering the all the retards I've been rejected in favor of, that's probably good advice. I'm just going to get a lobotomy and a big club.

Be David Caruso in Jade.

[captncrzy]

Hey, have any of you ever used those clip in hair extensions?

[M Sparks]

Maybe the chicks you liked had chemistry with the retards.

Yes, that's my point. It all goes back to the caveman days when you needed the biggest man to protect the village. Genetic predisposition makes women have chemistry with idiots.

I'm sorry I keep hijacking. I'm just going to go over here and be bitter.

[amyzzz]

That's ok. I kinda hate the chemistry thing myself.

[miscorrections]

Wow, thanks for insulting us all and the guys we date/are interested in by saying we have chemistry with idiots.

[amyzzz]

I'm sure he is talking about the women he has dated and not you in particular, Corinna.

but it made me lol anyway.

[M Sparks]

Wow, thanks for insulting us all and the guys we date/are interested in by saying we have chemistry with idiots.

Look, my wife is fucking an ogre, OK? Sorry.

[chairmenmeow47]

my best dates were with people i really connected with. it had nothing to do with the activity, kinda like matt said. i've had great dates that range from picnics in the park to expensive dinners. it just depends on the company and the conversation. the right girl will enjoy being with you doing most anything. that being said, i think whatever you choose to do on a first date, it should not be expensive (as that sets up expectations) and it should be something YOU enjoy. if you have no interest in fish for example, don't take the girl to the aquarium because a friend told you it would be romantic.

[captncrzy]

Wow, thanks for insulting us all and the guys we date/are interested in by saying we have chemistry with idiots.

You need to take into consideration that most men ARE idiots. I mean, there are so few decent ones to choose from that it would be mathematically probable we would be attracted to at least one idiot.

[Courtney]

Wow, this thread moves quickly when I forget to check the internet for a day.

1. I'm pretty much the opposite of you all in that I would love a private movie screening and hate a zoo trip. Seeing captive animals is just depressing and DOES NOT put me in a romantic mood. But a private movie screening? Hells yeah.

2. I am beginning to think you all suffer from low self esteem issues. Dale Gribble clearly does not think he is awesome enough to be the one-in-a-million guy who makes some girl want to sleep with him on the first date, despite that she normally waits. Likewise, Brandon's private movie idea is too special for a first date? Way to reach for mediocrity, folks.

3. Asking people out at their place of employment sucks. Much better to flirt, slip them your phone number covertly, and then wait for them to make the first move. It puts the ball in their court so they can act if the want to, but don't feel harassed.

4. Amy, MAC's Mineralize liquid foundation and also Mineralize powder foundation are both ace. They feel clean and don't look cakey, stay on forever, and both contain SPF 15.

[kitt kat]

Courtney, I love you. Way to summarize effectively.


Generally, any kind of nice outdoor thing. Like, I would love a date that only consisted of wandering around neighborhoods and scoping out yard sales and maybe grabbing a sandwich somewhere. Low-key things.

Wait, this is a date? I do this every weekend with Chris. I call it "hanging out and doing shit."

Well, now I feel better.

[miscorrections]

I meant as a first date that would be awesome and would tell me a lot of things about the person who asked me out. Namely, that we should be pretty dang compatible. I would enjoy doing this at any point in a relationship, though.

[Hannahrain]

I agree with Corinna. I also support a trip to Powell's or the science museum or something of that nature.

[miscorrections]

Let's date.

[Hannahrain]

You're going to look beautiful with the dim glow of the preserved fetus display softly illuminating your alabaster skin. I can't wait.

[miscorrections]

You know, my most recent fortune cookie said that a fetus would herald a new age of happiness in my personal life. Let's do this.

[miscorrections]

This morning I had a dream that I'd just seen Liars play at ATP (make it happen, Jarmusch?) and was talking to Angus after the show and then we went to his room and made out. Unfortunately I woke up at that point, but what a good dream.

[captncrzy]

So, nobody with the hair extensions? I don't want to drop $90 on them for the wedding if they're crap.

[miscorrections]

No experience with clip-ins. Generally I find them to look cheap, though.

[rskapcat]

Jenn, how are you planning on wearing your hair/using the clip-ins?

[locachica73]

I had a friend get the clip in extensions and then had them dyed with her hair so it was the same color and they didn't look cheap. I think the problem is people buy them off the rack and then the color isn't really a match.

[miscorrections]

And Jen do you really need extensions? Your hair seems long enough to do pretty much anything with. It's actually much harder to style longer, thicker hair than it is to style shorter, normal thickness hair.

[amyzzz]

Dumb aside, but when I was getting my hair done on the fly for my wedding, the stylist told me my hair was too long to do an updo. I think he was an asshole though. My hair was as long as it was at the last Coachella (whoever saw me there).

[captncrzy]

I just want longer hair. It's not that long and I'm planning on wearing my hair down. I'm going for a "Jennifer Aniston on her wedding day to Brad Pitt" look with the big long veil.

http://www.pricescope.com/idealbb/files/200931311856_pitt_aniston_wedding.jpg

I dunno. I'm going to get my hair cut this weekend. I'll talk to the stylist about it. The hair extensions are real hair and you can dye them to match your regular hair and stuff. I'm more worried about a track falling out or something during dinner.

[locachica73]

They fit in pretty snug, the ones my friend had anyway. They even survived through a night of hair pulling (or so she told me, I wasn't watching).

[captncrzy]

I'm also hoping they actually make me LOOK like Jennifer Aniston.

[chairmenmeow47]

you're going to have to practice that whole insecurity thing then.

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

I'm not a girl, but I would think that looking at your own wedding photos with fake hair down the line would be strange. The day and the memory is all about you guys, and having that artificiality thrown in there kind of devalues it.

[kitt kat]

My sister used those "real hair" extensions for prom. I couldn't tell the difference between her hair and the extensions. Just a thought.

[Courtney]

I agree with Drinkey here, but I also think someone could play devil's advocate and ask exactly where to draw the "artificiality" line -- are highlights or hair coloring ok? What about a push-up bra? Makeup and high heels? Women do lots of things to alter their appearance, and it seems sort of arbitrary to draw the line at hair extensions.

[captncrzy]

Yeah, I mean, I'm not talking about mermaid length here. I just want it to be a little fuller and a little longer. I've been trying to grow it out for a couple of years now; my hair just doesn't grow that fast.

My dress has a built in bra, but I'm going to buy some of those silicone cup things to put in it to push them up a bit. I want the relatives to be uncomfortable.

[HowToDisappear]

you're going to have to practice that whole insecurity thing then.

Yeah, that poor little me, Brad left me for Angie a gazillion years ago thing grates on my nerves. Get over it already.

[rskapcat]

To be fair, I think the entertainment news media people portray Miss Aniston that way. Not to say she isn't insecure...but I don't think E! and Perez Hilton are doing her any favors.

[chairmenmeow47]

well besides that, she constantly dresses & seeks out roles that make her look like she's 20 still. plus i read one of my mom's US magazines while staying at my parent's for father's day and it said something about how she's asking studios to touch her up EVEN MORE than they already do to make her look younger. i know those are just trash mags, but she's a pretty woman and should stop obsessing.

[locachica73]

I went to the doctor yesterday, I have lost another 20lbs since I had surgery mid March. The plus side to being too sick to eat. WHOOT.

I was kinda worried though because of the weight loss and the fact that I get dizzy whenever I stand up. I thought maybe there was something else going on with me other than the CVS. But they ran my blood work and it came back normal so that is good. And now that I have a job I am looking forward to buying some new clothes that actually fit. Whoot.

[chairmenmeow47]

it shows, i meant to mention it when i saw you, but we were at a table with boys :p

[locachica73]

Awww, thanks. Yeah, one of my girlfriends is forcing me to let her buy me a pair of pants because she said that my baggy jeans make me look like I shit myself. I am just glad there isn't something else wrong with me, now I will enjoy it more. :)

[amyzzz]

This morning I had a dream that I'd just seen Liars play at ATP (make it happen, Jarmusch?) and was talking to Angus after the show and then we went to his room and made out. Unfortunately I woke up at that point, but what a good dream.

I had a dream I had a stalker-like crush on Robert del Naja from Massive Attack, and I was following him around, which is odd because other than his sexy voice, I'm not really attracted to him.

[chairmenmeow47]

nothing like an excuse to go clothes shopping!

awww, i'm so excited. last night one of my recently divorced girlfriends was fretting about whether or not she should ask a boy out, so she asked me what to do since i used to be the big player in our group of friends. i told her to go for it and this morning she said it worked! i get so happy when i hear about a girl asking a guy out and it being a success :)

[locachica73]

That is awesome, I was only brave enough to leave my phone number for a guy at a bar once before he asked. He did end up calling me though. But I was never good at the first move. Although with Nick I did kinda... Or so he says. I kept staring at his mouth when he was talking one night. He said "you wanna make out huh". I said yes and the rest is history. :p

[captncrzy]

nothing like an excuse to go clothes shopping!

awww, i'm so excited. last night one of my recently divorced girlfriends was fretting about whether or not she should ask a boy out, so she asked me what to do since i used to be the big player in our group of friends. i told her to go for it and this morning she said it worked! i get so happy when i hear about a girl asking a guy out and it being a success :)

Set her up with Marc, you traitor.

[amyzzz]

I've gotten some good results with intense stares, but that's about as much of a first move I've ever made.

[BROKENDOLL]

Damn, I spent the last 2 days thoroughly enjoying the ask a girl thread, that I forgot we had a girl's only thread. (This 1/2 brain capacity shit sucks!)< We'll touch back on this in abit...:rolleyes

Hey, have any of you ever used those clip in hair extensions?
Are you talking about the professionally installed ones, or those you can clip in yourself? I picked some up at the beauty supply last year, but they were for fun. Fun, meaning Hot Pink and synthetic, and very very straight. I have wave to my hair and thought touching them with a curling iron would help. HELLO, STUPID... What part of synthetic do you not understand? Those that I didn't manage to melt onto the iron, I clipped in underneath my own hair, and off I went, thinking I was like Lady Gaga or some shit. Now, I have thick hair already and it's coarse, so they held pretty good. Unfortunately, I started thinking I was Cher as the night wore on, flipping my hair and doublechecking the little clippies,that by the time I got home, my own hair was fine, but I now had these mangy looking pink things hanging 2" past my own length. (Plus a curling iron that was now plastically sealed shut and unable to use.)

The next trip to get hair supplies, I thought I'd try the ones the pros use in the natural colors, that are made from real hair. Granted, I've been a pro, but extensions hadn't been thought of at that time. And these you had to actually sew the clips onto the hair yourself before clipping on, or in. Or, clipping to your earlobe, whatever. I think you'll get the idea here. And being the hoarder type that I am, I am now the proud owner of what could be constructively called a pet in a box, that's been taking up space in the bathroom cabinet. I used the when we went to the Prodigy show, and while they made my hair look thick, they felt like tumors here and there on my head, and I probably yanked 1/2 of them out before we even got to L.A.

On a funny note, I remember going to get something out of that cabinet once, and without really looking, reached up and grabbed "the pet," and about shit myself thinking it was a rat or something!

I'll assume that for $90, someone who knows what they're doing will be installing them, right? Just keep in mind that there may be a lot of ill-na-na on your wedding night, and you might want to let Rick know just in case he goes to run his hands through your hair.

[locachica73]

I am just going to hang out in here since there is some argumentative person in the other thread I was enjoying. Damn the luck.

[motionnn77]

So, nobody with the hair extensions? I don't want to drop $90 on them for the wedding if they're crap.

I had woven extensions for almost a year (this was over 10 years ago). I had real hair, and they were curly like my hair. They looked good, but the upkeep got a bit overwhelming.

But it sounds to me that you want to use clip ons. I have some that are human hair. When I bought them two summers ago, they were the same length as my hair. I was able to curl them and it did create a fuller look. Nobody could tell. I even told some people and they thought I was just having a good hair day.

They did feel a bit loose at the end of the day, but never came out. I hope this helps.

[miscorrections]

Anyone got a good tip for getting hair dye out of carpet? I dyed my hair last night and a few drops got on the floor and I didn't notice until it was already set in. I've got some bleach and I am prepared to use it, since my carpet is light tan, but if there's something better I would like to try it.

[J~$$$$]

Anyone got a good tip for getting hair dye out of carpet? I dyed my hair last night and a few drops got on the floor and I didn't notice until it was already set in. I've got some bleach and I am prepared to use it, since my carpet is light tan, but if there's something better I would like to try it.

Scissors.

[JustSteve]

oxyclean?

[chairmenmeow47]

i have this spray upholstery cleaner with a plastic brush that works wonders. make sure whatever you use that you scrub.

[miscorrections]

I thought perhaps peroxide could work? I don't know. I'll probably just bleach it and say whatever. Light spots are way less noticeable than almost black spots.

[miscorrections]

Bleach didn't work. Ah well.

Talked to the cashier today, apparently he is a Top Pot barista at Qwest. Was considering asking him if he wanted to see a Sounders game sometime when he wasn't working, because we talk about soccer a fair bit, but I guess he works most of them. (It would've been more in a friend vein than anything, though, because I would very much like to go to a game but have no one to go with.)

[amyzzz]

Jesus, I was hoping a girl would bump a girly thread after all those sports bumps....but then I just read your post and there's sports in it too. :nono

[miscorrections]

Sorry, but the World Cup only happens every four years. It's kind of a big deal and it's got me on a soccer kick.

[I.F.A.]

I need a shoe intervention. Convince me that I have better things to spend $79 on than these....

http://www.cynthiarowley.com/media/catalog/product/cache/1/image/350x520/5e06319eda06f020e43594a9c230972d/e/_/e_457k65pk_pier_mul_cw_1_1.jpg

Waaaaaaaaaaant....

Ha, they're out of stock anyway. Saved!

:(

[amyzzz]

Those are so awesome. Sorry I can't help.

[amyzzz]

Corinna, I really hope you ask the barrista out someday btw. :)

[Courtney]

I can happily say that those heels are not my taste.

Unhappily, and completely unrelatedly, I can also say that my dentist thinks that I should start sleeping with a mouthguard because apparently I clench my jaw when I sleep from stress. BUT I DON'T WANT TO WEAR A MOUTHGUARD TO BED. EW.

[miscorrections]

I think the pattern is fun but the style is not working for me. Those aren't something I'd be tempted to buy.

Amy, I don't think I really want to ask him out on a date. Honestly I think I'd rather have a friend to make me coffee and go to soccer games!

Courtney, that is AWFUL. Yuck. You should ask him to prescribe you muscle relaxants instead.

[Alligator Bogaloo]

I need a shoe intervention. Convince me that I have better things to spend $79 on than these....

http://www.cynthiarowley.com/media/catalog/product/cache/1/image/350x520/5e06319eda06f020e43594a9c230972d/e/_/e_457k65pk_pier_mul_cw_1_1.jpg

Waaaaaaaaaaant....

Ha, they're out of stock anyway. Saved!

:(

Do not buy those shoes, unless you have a nice outfit that will go with them.

[Courtney]

You should ask him to prescribe you muscle relaxants instead.

YES. This is why I should always consult the board for medical advice first.

[miscorrections]

So back in January I met a guy at a bar and we bonded over Gorillaz. I made an effort to hang out with him after (in a friends capacity, he had a girlfriend) but he was always busy with her or work or whatever so I figured he just didn't want to. Anyway, he texted me a few minutes ago to see if I still live in the neighborhood and if I wanted to do something. I said yes but that I was going to bed early so I can get my ass out to a cafe early tomorrow for the Argentina/Germany game. He said, "We might be there, maybe we'll see you" and then asked me out for drinks (at some undetermined point in the future, "soon").

Question 1: why is he texting me out of the blue months later? That's generally something you do when you break up and want to bone acquaintances. Question 2: who is "we"?

I am perplexed.

[herro kitty]

Question 1: why is he texting me out of the blue months later? That's generally something you do when you break up and want to bone acquaintances. Question 2: who is "we"?

I am perplexed.

He probably broke up and wants to bone. This has happened to me about 6 times. It's pretty ridiculous. If I haven't heard from a guy in a while and he wants to hang out, it's definitely to bang. So it's up to you if you're interested or not :)

[captncrzy]

So back in January I met a guy at a bar and we bonded over Gorillaz. I made an effort to hang out with him after (in a friends capacity, he had a girlfriend) but he was always busy with her or work or whatever so I figured he just didn't want to. Anyway, he texted me a few minutes ago to see if I still live in the neighborhood and if I wanted to do something. I said yes but that I was going to bed early so I can get my ass out to a cafe early tomorrow for the Argentina/Germany game. He said, "We might be there, maybe we'll see you" and then asked me out for drinks (at some undetermined point in the future, "soon").

Question 1: why is he texting me out of the blue months later? That's generally something you do when you break up and want to bone acquaintances. Question 2: who is "we"?

I am perplexed.

He wants to pork you. It's really that simple.

Men arent complicated-especially the younger ones. THey want food, beer, ESPN, and boning.

[miscorrections]

That sounds remarkably like what I want.

[J~$$$$]

"We'll"= him and girlfriend want to bone you, or seeing if he convince his girl into something.

[amyzzz]

That sounds like a fantastic opportunity.

[meowlouder]

I need a shoe intervention. Convince me that I have better things to spend $79 on than these....

http://www.cynthiarowley.com/media/catalog/product/cache/1/image/350x520/5e06319eda06f020e43594a9c230972d/e/_/e_457k65pk_pier_mul_cw_1_1.jpg

Waaaaaaaaaaant....

Ha, they're out of stock anyway. Saved!

:(

not worth it. you could buy 27 crunchwrap supremes with that money.

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

Those shoes are awesome. Buy them.

EDIT: I have 5 pairs of the identical Nike shoes in different colors, so i'm a bad male for convincing people not to buy shoes.

[chiapet]

Is it too late for me to intervene? I think those are ugly. I love shoes but damn, I never like the heels you ladies post.


Have I mentioned how fucking amazing shopping was in Copenhagen? Far far better than London. Everything was monochromatic, asymmetrical, and reminiscent of Japanese avant garde from the 80s.

I just noticed one of the brands I really liked as a site! And apparently opening a store in SF soon. My pocket book is doomed.

http://www.us.allsaints.com/womens/knitwear/

Asymmetrical deconstructed kind of stuff that looks amazing on. It's the sort of style that could look completely sloppy and tragic, but everything drapes really amazingly.

[JustSteve]

he approves
http://mikedoe.net/storage/main/Zoolander_Mugatu_Derelicte.jpg

[chiapet]

Actually that character (at least his design aesthetic) is ripping on Galliano. I'd love some Galliano clothes but I don't have that much money :)

[miscorrections]

Amy - what happened to the main discussion thread in the girl group?

[amyzzz]

It should still be in there somewhere. At least I see it. I tried to delete the first post, and I think it deleted the discussion, but again, I can still get to it.

[minogueCOMMAk]

It's gone.

[amyzzz]

Ok, I am enlisting Dani's help. If I can still see it, it shouldn't be irretrievably lost.

[miscorrections]

I wonder if you can still see it if you clear your cache.

[amyzzz]

Well I can still post in it.

[chairmenmeow47]

i totally put my foot in my mouth this weekend. a bunch of girls & i were at a decent restaraunt for one of my best-friends 30th birthday. most of the hostesses were dressed well, but there was this one hostess whose dress was red and WAY too tight. the fabric was stretchy also looked really cheap, like something from charlotte russe. we all commented on the tightness. i then said something about how bebe's clothes are too tight and how i am an extra-large there. we talked about bebe's for a second, and then i said something my mother once told me, which is that their #1 clientele are call girls.

two of the girls at the table got quiet. then they blurted out "ok, you have to open your present now, because it's a dress from bebe's". i felt MORTIFIED. i mean, i have no way of knowing, and it's fucking true, their shit is skanky, but some of it is cute and better made than charlotte russe. for example the dress they got here was really cute & fun for going to the clubs. i think bebe's is fine for club wear, i just mean that their suits and shit are not something you could ever actually wear to work. i'm also probably just bitter that i'm not tiny & able to fit into their clothes like some of the other girls can.

that's not very entertaining, i know, but man, i have felt fucking awful about it ever since.

[Courtney]

Hahaa. I did that to my mother once at Christmas.

Me: "You always get me the best gifts! I feel bad for friends whose parents give them, like, socks."

Mom: "Um, you should probably open that box now."

[rskapcat]

I do that sort of thing aaaaaaaall the time. Husband says I have no filter, and it's totally true.

[chiapet]

I've never thought of bebe as being exceptionally skanky. Most of the clothes are a bit skimpy and/or close-fitting, but no worse than most stores for a similar age and market. ... But it blows my mind that there are Bebe stores in the middle east and makes me wonder what exactly they sell style wise.

[amyzzz]

I haven't really shopped at bebe's much; their clothes seemed too expensive for me the last time I looked in there (10-15 years ago).

[algunz]

The fact that they sell bebe gift cards at Albertson's says everything.

[Courtney]

... But it blows my mind that there are Bebe stores in the middle east and makes me wonder what exactly they sell style wise.

From my experience living in Saudi Arabia, those women like to slut it up as much as the as the rest of us under their abayat.

[chairmenmeow47]

I've never thought of bebe as being exceptionally skanky. Most of the clothes are a bit skimpy and/or close-fitting, but no worse than most stores for a similar age and market. ... But it blows my mind that there are Bebe stores in the middle east and makes me wonder what exactly they sell style wise.

their suits are what are skanky to me. plus, anytime i've gone there, i've seen 40+ year old woman with fried hair in the dressing rooms and the clothes seem to show off every ripple of fat in their body, even if they are not fat. that is skanky looking to me.

i see that one of those awful kardashian people has a clothing line there, so that says everything lol. eww, who the fuck could wear this without showing some ripples/bumps?!?

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41wzRMYDkTL._SL217_.jpg

in the suit section for example, i found these:

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/415fcfZ8bFL._SL217_.jpg

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41o3d7Vn2-L._SL217_.jpg

i guess if you layer a lot of their stuff though, it would be less skanky. i just know i always have a tank-top under any work shirt that would show cleavage.

[miscorrections]

Oh Bebe. I used to like it when I was in the tail end of junior high through a bit of high school. I also used to shop at Express, though.

[chiapet]

I actually really like the skirt and the jacket to match, obviously not for normal office wear :)

[Courtney]

eww, who the fuck could wear this without showing some ripples/bumps?!?

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41wzRMYDkTL._SL217_.jpg

I'd imagine most people could wear it. It would just require one of those crazy Spanx full torso suit things. I had to wear one once for a bridesmaid dress, and those things work miracles. They're also about the least sexy thing ever.

[chairmenmeow47]

I actually really like the skirt and the jacket to match, obviously not for normal office wear :)

i would definitely wear some of it too if i were going to fuck the shit outta someone ;) ya know, if i actually fit into anything they made.

[amyzzz]

I could wear that if I had a seamless thong and a t-shirt bra.

[I.F.A.]

I'd like to work in an office where I could actually get away with the whole slutty business suit look, because I would rock the shit out of that...

[Alligator Bogaloo]

I'd like to work in an office where I could actually get away with the whole slutty business suit look, because I would rock the shit out of that...

You should practice that on your off days and the evenings...

[Courtney]

I work in an arts organization. Except for on the days I'm meeting with corporate donors or DOE folks, I can wear whatever batshit crazy outfits I choose. It's a good bonus.

[amyzzz]

I can pretty much whatever to work too. The problem with that is, I just wear jeans all the time, so I've phased myself out of having anything nice to wear. All I've got are casual or trampy outfits.

[hawkingvsreeve]

My stuff is usually pretty trampy as well.

[miscorrections]

I can also wear more or less whatever I want. High five, science.

[I.F.A.]

I work in a law firm, so I have to keep it pretty conservative. It's business-casual, so I don't have to really dress up, but I certainly couldn't get away with anything too weird. Though I have been known to loosely interpret the rules now and then. Like, technically I'm not supposed to wear capri pants, but, srsly, this is AZ.

[chairmenmeow47]

i almost never wear any sort of capri, but my mom had bought me this suit with capri pants. only, they went just below the knee. the handbook says it has to be mid-calf. but other girls would wear those spandex fucking coolats (gouchos, whatever), so i figured i would be fine. i wore the pants ONCE and was warned my boss that someone complained. retarded.

[I.F.A.]

No one has ever said anything to me about it here, but I did get told off for it when I worked at the public library. Which was retarded - I sat behind a freaking desk, so it's not like the public could actually see how long my pants were.

[miscorrections]

Culottes used to be the bane of my existence. Like, seriously? Clingy weird wide-leg cut-off things as pants? They're not pants. They don't belong anywhere out of a yoga studio, and probably not even in one. They're horrendous. Fuck.

I think I developed culotte-blinders though because I haven't gotten properly enraged in a long time.

[chiapet]

Hah. My first corporate job had a dress code that required us to wear hosiery if any skin was showing. I'm sure it was intended to avoid bare legs with dresses and skirts. But our office manager was a cunt and would complain when I wore pants and flats without hosiery. And she complained that flats are not professional. To piss her off, I wore white socks with heels for a few weeks until she flipped out and wrote me up over it.

After that, I found an awful mall store that had hosiery in the form of.... butterfly patterned trouser socks and flag printed tights and so on. :D

[Courtney]

Ha, I would freak out if someone tried to force me to wear hosiery. I am so not cut out for the corporate world. I don't even own pantyhose. I think I own like one really old pair of thigh highs, but I doubt they fit anymore.

[I.F.A.]

Was she fairly old? A lot of the older librarians that I've worked with still wear hose with everything (and think everyone else should too). My post-lib sense of entitlement says nay.

Maybe when my bare legs no longer look nice in a skirt, I'll consider them (or, more likely, I'll just stop wearing skirts), but they're just so uncomfortable. On the rare occasion that I do feel the need to wear them, I go with thigh highs.

[miscorrections]

I like tights a lot, although right now I am seriously preaching the gospel of the bike shorts. You can sit down wherever, not worry about wind, walk any amount of distance comfortably, and just generally have a better time.

[chiapet]

Same here, though usually not 'bike shorts' in the normal sense but just plain shorts. My sense of style is a bit raggedy, so I have been wearing cut-off yoga pants under dresses.

[algunz]

tap pants, ladies . . . they're the best way to go under a skirt and still give you the freedom to not give a shit

[unknown]

Culottes used to be the bane of my existence. Like, seriously? Clingy weird wide-leg cut-off things as pants? They're not pants. They don't belong anywhere out of a yoga studio, and probably not even in one. They're horrendous. Fuck.

I think I developed culotte-blinders though because I haven't gotten properly enraged in a long time.

Yes. Those things are extremely ugly. There was a time a couple years back where far too many women and little girls were wearing them. I think they went out of "style" because I haven't seen them much either.

[Astrid]

Hah. My first corporate job had a dress code that required us to wear hosiery if any skin was showing. I'm sure it was intended to avoid bare legs with dresses and skirts. But our office manager was a cunt and would complain when I wore pants and flats without hosiery. And she complained that flats are not professional. To piss her off, I wore white socks with heels for a few weeks until she flipped out and wrote me up over it.

After that, I found an awful mall store that had hosiery in the form of.... butterfly patterned trouser socks and flag printed tights and so on. :D

this is why you are the best.

[MissingPerson]

You know the way sometimes you just... forget a thing had ever existed? Just... forget that there was any such thing?

Culottes. I had forgotten culottes had ever existed.


I think I own like one really old pair of thigh highs

Go on.

[chairmenmeow47]

i wish i could wear thigh highs. i also love tights, especially interesting tights. i've always hated my legs though. i used to wear shorts like corinna under my skirts. thigh highs tend to roll down my thighs whenever i wear them.

[miscorrections]

Thigh highs NEVER stay up. Plus they're for people with nice legs, and I do not fall into that category.

[locachica73]

Yeah, I tried them once when I did the whole dressing up for a dude thing. So uncomfortable. The are made for girls who have calves the same size as their thighs.

[amyzzz]

Who do thigh highs work for? Women with muscular legs maybe? I've never had luck with them because they dig into my thigh fat. :) I prefer (non-elastic) stockings with a garter belt.

[guedita]

You are all nuts. Culottes were the perfect items of clothing to rock the monkey bars in.

[chairmenmeow47]

culottes (i always wondered the correct spelling), always make me think of kirstie alley's character in drop dead gorgeous. "she had a big ass then, she has a big ass now". i fucking love that movie :x

[Pixiessp]

Dittos were the bomb.

[miscorrections]

That is THE BEST MOVIE. Jesus fuck I love it.

[guedita]

Drop Dead Gorgeous is absolutely one of my favorite movies.

[miscorrections]

I might have to watch it tonight. I've seen it so many times that I can pretty much do all of the lines along with the movie.

[chairmenmeow47]

same here. i own it. it's too bad we can't all get girly & watch together tonight lol.

[locachica73]

I've never seen it... (I say that a lot)

[miscorrections]

AUDRA YOU MUST WATCH IT. It is so fucking hilarious.

[locachica73]

I am actually surprised I haven't seen it. I use to love any movie Kirsten Dunst was in.

[miscorrections]

Oh god she's so good in it. Ditto Denise Richards. Ditto Kirstie Alley. Ditto everyone else.

[chairmenmeow47]

<3 allisonn janney <3

[Pixiessp]

Oh god she's so good in it. Ditto Denise Richards. Ditto Kirstie Alley. Ditto everyone else.

Those are not the kind of dittos I was talking about.

[miscorrections]

I know.

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

Drop Dead Gorgeous is indeed a fucking hilarious movie. I haven't seen it in 10 years though. I should rewatch that.

[amyzzz]

I haven't seen it either, Audra.

[Pixiessp]

Same here, Amy

[amyzzz]

Did you decide to come to AZ for Pixies, Joann? Potential girls night in the making here. :)

[chiapet]

Maybe muscular thighs really is the key. I had no problem with thigh highs at all when I was in HS & college. At some point I realized stockings are way more comfortable though.

I used to wear thigh high socks, a la Clueless, a lot :/ Usually with spandex mini skirts. Thank god not many people in my HS had cameras, if digital cameras and camera phones had been prevalent then, I would be ridiculed and shamed. I had some really, uhm, interesting, fashion sense in HS. (Amazingly, I think I pulled most of it off pretty well).

[Pixiessp]

Can't make it Amy. I am crushed.

[miscorrections]

I dressed very uniquely in junior high, and very questionably throughout most of high school. In college I finally realized that jeans/tshirts/flip flops or chucks was the most comfortable and low maintenance. Now I pretty much stick to jeans/shirts/cardigans/flats for the same reason.

[chairmenmeow47]

i think being taller also makes it difficult to wear thigh-highs. also where you get them from and how much elastic is in the top. i also used to do the thigh highs with short skirts ala clueless, only they were more rainbow stripped than clueless. i'm also glad i got my crazy dress out of the way in jr. high and high school. it's all about comfort these days, though i do still enjoy dressing up for events.

[miscorrections]

I love to dress up (both for nice events and for costume events) and I never get the opportunity. It sucks.

[rskapcat]

Thigh highs = chub rub. No bueno. Even at my thinnest, my thighs always touched. Thunder thighs 4 lyfe.

[chiapet]

I actually had a lot of fun with the way I dressed in HS, I made a lot of my clothes and "doctored" the stuff I bought in stores. It couldn't be that bad since people were always going "shopping" in my closet.

... Now I am just lazy and wear jeans and tshirts every day.

I think to some degree, though, I was more comfortable making a spectacle of myself when I was really fit.

[Pixiessp]

I dressed like a glam rocker in HS.

[locachica73]

I have always dressed pretty modestly, was always into comfort over flair and I have always been too shy to draw attention to myself by dressing crazy. I do love the halloween parties though when I can get a little wild... Not naked wild though, I still like to have all my parts covered.

[guedita]

I was made fun of in elementary school for having a "uniform" - plain color top, jeans, matching socks, shoes. I've stuck to this pattern my whole life (excepting the socks) and I've never gone out of style.

[I.F.A.]

I wore the craziest shit in HS. I dyed my hair pink, and usually had on some kind of weird thrift store ensemble with combat boots (I wore nothing but for like 3 years - one of my aunts decided that meant I must have been a secret lesbian, and would buy me "girly" shoes for Christmas... because she thought they would make me straight? I dunno. She was visibly relieved when I brought a boy to Christmas one year. It kind of pissed me off - like, so what if I was a lesbian?). My favorite was this neon orange puffy ADOT jacket (complete with reflector tape) that I used to wear to assemblies. People always knew where I was sitting.

I actually kind of wish that there were more pictures of me from that time period.

[amyzzz]

My uniform from 17 on has been concert t-shirts and jeans. Before that I wore horrible outfits from the Limited and Guess for a while.

[miscorrections]

Oh god I had this red furry jacket that I LOVED.

[I.F.A.]

I still have a large collection of crazy jackets.

[amyzzz]

OH, Corinna's post reminds me that I did have a long love affair with velvet -- I had a dark green velvet jacket that I loved (with shoulder pads even, UGH). I might still have that in the garage. I also had a matching green velvet dress and this beautiful red velvet dress. Unfortunately the elastic on the collar of the red velvet dress has deteriorated so much that I cannot wear the dress anymore. And of course I've always loved various sorts of stockings and tights and hosiery in general.

[algunz]

I've made a lot of my clothes through out the years and since junior high I have readily heard the comment, "Did you make that?" and still can't figure out if it's a compliment or not.

I.F.A, I still wear my combat boots regularly. :thu

[I.F.A.]

I've been considering getting another pair lately. But man, Docs are still so damn expensive. I would totally rock these though....


http://www.drmartens.com/images/products/lg/13267601.png

[locachica73]

Those are kinda hot... and I am not a shoe person.

[amyzzz]

I wear more Docs in the Gibson style shoe version than boots, but I wear the boots on the rare occasion it gets cold or wet.

[I.F.A.]

OMG, these.... want.

http://www.dmusastore.com/images/Product/medium/11820101.jpg

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

Those plaid ones are awesome. it like a combination of knee high socks and hard ass boots. I would totally rock a boner if i saw a girl wear those.

The black and white ones are a bit too busy imo.

[locachica73]

I am going to get to go shopping in a couple weeks, I have always shopped for my weight, wearing baggy shirts and jeans. I don't even know that I have a style. I am kind of excited to figure that out.

[I.F.A.]

I'm all about the busy. ;) I seriously want the tartans though... but the 20 eyelet boots never fit me very well since I have muscular calves, and they only have them in those or the ankle boots, and I HATE ankle boots.

[miscorrections]

I really, really don't like Doc Martens. I hate chunky soles.

[chairmenmeow47]

I really, really don't like Doc Martens. I hate chunky soles.

i've never been a big fan either. i had some, but they just weren't me. i also never tied them.

i really need to do some clothes shopping. other than coachella sun dresses and a few tee-shirts, i haven't bought anything nice for myself in FOREVER.

also, a cute guy just asked me out on facebook... who has been kinda hanging out with a girlfriend of mein. uhh, awkward! if you're going to play the field, don't do it with chicks who are friends!

[miscorrections]

And definitely don't do it via facebook.

[I.F.A.]

Pounce Pounce Pounce...

Dude, Ivy, you just need to get a t-shirt made that says "no, I will not date you".

[locachica73]

I am kinda thinking I might hit up Kohl's when I can finally do my shopping. Have you all had good luck there? Friends of mine swear by it.

Why do guys try to hit on girlfriends? Do they think we don't talk to each other? It happens all the time.

[chairmenmeow47]

i do not have good luck there. everything almost fits. i do like getting work jewelry there though.

[algunz]

I just spent $200 at Loehman's. I haven't gone shopping in literally years.

[miscorrections]

Kohl's is alright, their prices are certainly good.

I really need some new black jeans/pants. My old faithful Hudsons finally gave up the ghost, and my other black jeans shrunk to an awkward length and they're just kind of a weird shape and I hate them. I wish I could find the Hudsons again, they were perfect.

[Drinkey McDrinkerstein]

Pounce Pounce Pounce...

Dude, Ivy, you just need to get a t-shirt made that says "no, I will not date you".

That just draws attention to the tits and continues to complicate things.

[amyzzz]

I hate Kohl's for women's clothes. the men's and kid's section are ok.

[guedita]

I always thought Kohls was a hard ware store. What the hell am I thinking of?

[Bud Luster]

Kohls is the new Mervyns.

[amyzzz]

it put Mervyn's out of business in any case. I liked Mervyn's better actually.

[locachica73]

OK Kohls is out then. I just have shopped in the fat girl stores for so long I don't even know where to start. Old Navy and Target works for sun dresses and casual clothes but I am kinda thinking I want something a little more dressy. I hate the mall so after that there isn't much left.

[algunz]

Loehman's . . . I found a lot of great stuff there. It took some searching, but that was kind of the fun part.

[locachica73]

Loehman's . . . I found a lot of great stuff there. It took some searching, but that was kind of the fun part.

I have never heard of it but I just googled it and we have one here. I might have to check it out. Thanks gunz. :)

[amyzzz]

I did a search too and it looks like it's at Fashion Sqaure Mall -- doesn't that usually mean expensive?

[locachica73]

When I did it it showed up at 32nd Street and Lincoln (Glendale). If it is at fashion square I am not going, I don't have enough plastic body parts to shop there.

[algunz]

The Loehman's near me is in a fashion square. The store is "marshall's" like but with "designer" labels. According to my receipt I saved $400+.

[amyzzz]

Oh no, nevermind. That's not Fashion Square area. Whoops. Sorry, loca.

[Courtney]

Loehman's . . . I found a lot of great stuff there. It took some searching, but that was kind of the fun part.

Loehman's is my kryptonite. I seriously cannot shop there anymore, because I never get out of the store under $200. It's a good thing they don't have any Hawaii locations.

But the Phoenix Loehman's isn't nearly as good as Los Angeles Loehman's.

[amyzzz]

Is it like Last Chance I wonder...? (Nordstrom's clearance center).

[Courtney]

Yes, it's like Filene's Basement or Nordstrom Rack or Saks Off 5th outlets.

[guedita]

My mom never stops yapping about how much she saved by shopping at TJ Maxx.

[chiapet]

I always thought Kohls was a hard ware store. What the hell am I thinking of?

Cole's is a hardware store :)

I love that the SF Loehmann's has a separate store for women's shoes... in case I'm trying to limit the damage to my checkbook. Actually, I just don't go there at all anymore.

[chiapet]

The Tartan docs look like they're fabric... my fabric docs all started to fray very quickly (though I didn't necessarily mind that ... until they started getting hole-y).

About 8-10 years back, I moved my loyalties over to Fluevog ( http://www.fluevog.com/ ) though i'll still buy docs once in a while when I find a weird pair on sale. And I have about 40 pairs of them stockpiled. (Mostly bright colors, weird textures, velvet, patterned...).

[chiapet]

I adore these

http://www.fluevog.com/code/images/colour/0000002809/composite.jpg


I almost bought these last time but I already have silver metallic boots (....) Still, these are way cuter than mine and I have a store credit I need to use.

http://www.fluevog.com/code/images/colour/0000002647/composite.jpg

(I've worn a black matte leather version of those almost every day for the last decade).

[I.F.A.]

I LOVE Fluevogs... but yeah, haven't had the funds to buy any.

Swooooooon.

http://www.fluevog.com/code/images/colour/0000002803/composite.jpg


http://www.fluevog.com/code/images/colour/0000000327/composite.jpg

[amyzzz]

I have not delved into fluevog yet since they are so expensive, even moreso than docs (which I mostly found on the cheap anyway). But I would like to. :)

[Courtney]

Fluevog represent the absolute opposite of my taste in shoes. It's a whole other, incomprehensible world of accessories to me.

[I.F.A.]

I quite like these too, and they're not quite as expensive as the others... Still too expensive for me though. :(


http://www.fluevog.com/code/images/colour/0000002610/composite.jpg

[chiapet]

Whereas there is almost no fluevog I would not wear. :)

IFA, the taller Fluevogs are even worse for me than Docs, calves wise. Most of the really tall styles are out of the question.

[I.F.A.]

Hm good to know, should I ever have an extra few hundred dollars laying around that I can justifiably spend on shoes. ;)

Though, that surprises me - based on the comment section on those shoes in particular, it sounded like Fluevogs are more calf friendly. It would be nice to be able to try some on. I definitely prefer higher boots aesthetically.

[canexplain]

I don't usually give a stong opinion on things but alas the title of the thread. I have been there done that in a lot of areas. Guys, the best drugs, the best band, the best of anything will not be better then your gal... just sayin. ..................

sorry for the gay gang, or whatever sex you love

[rage patton]

http://www.fluevog.com/code/images/colour/0000002647/composite.jpg

(I've worn a black matte leather version of those almost every day for the last decade).

Becky has these in Black. She found them at a thrift store in exactly her size for like 20 bucks. She almost died when saw them. She probably spent 10 minutes just looking at them making sure they were actual Fluevogs and not knock offs.

[miscorrections]

I like none of the boots or shoes on this page. Sorry, ladies.

[rskapcat]

Proof that shoe lust is subjective: Fluevogs are about the only shoes I want to give the sex.

[algunz]

I have 3 pairs of Fluevogs. 2 pairs of heels and a pair of slip ons. :pulse

[Courtney]

Totally subjective. My lust is focused on these at the moment:

http://i29.tinypic.com/2rxtili.jpg

[miscorrections]

These are the shoes I am in love with right now:

http://i153.photobucket.com/albums/s226/miscorrections/shoes-2.jpg

[algunz]

The tan ones with the red bows - ADORABLE!!!!!

[Courtney]

I like the yellow. Where are those from?

[miscorrections]

Anthro, of course. They curate their shoe collection very well.

[Hannahrain]

I like top left, top middle, and bottom left. I also like Fluevogs. A Hannah for all shoe types. A vote for me is a vote for shoe equality. Hannahrain 2010. Some sort of joke about platforms goes here.

[Courtney]

Anthro, of course. They curate their shoe collection very well.

Oh, good call. I forget about that store now that I don't live near one.

[miscorrections]

I gave in and am watching Drop Dead Gorgeous.

"Excuse me, Miss Penthouse '98. Put your knees together. I could drive a boat show in there."

"I chose Mount Rushmore, ’cause to live in a country where you can take an ugly old mountain and put faces on it, faces of great Americans who did so much to make our country super great, well that makes me, Rebecca Leeman, proud to be an American."

[chairmenmeow47]

i'm watching it now too :)

"the tard's pants are completely off..."

[Pixiessp]

Totally subjective. My lust is focused on these at the moment:

http://i29.tinypic.com/2rxtili.jpg

Those are gorgeous!! My feet can't handle heels anymore but WOW!!!

[rskapcat]

THE SEX.

http://www.fluevog.com/code/images/colour/0000002763/composite.jpg

[locachica73]

I will never get the shoe fascination. Every pair that you guys have posted would make me fall on my face. I can barely stay standing in flip flops at this point. Ahhh to be girly.

[miscorrections]

Those are horrible, Becca. Not to put to fine a point on it. I'm not wild about Courtney's pick either.

I guess I have strong opinions when it comes to shoes.

[chairmenmeow47]

I MISS REAL SHOES :(

[amyzzz]

The ones Becca posted look kinda neat by themselves, but I can't imagine anyone wearing those. They'd look ridiculous.

[miscorrections]

Did somebody say HEY CORINNA POST MORE SHOES YOU LIKE? I think somebody did.
http://static0.modcloth.com/productshots/0044/4441/14770-1.jpg?fb39d223a595bd231b8cfef8870cda1caf7651c2http ://static0.modcloth.com/productshots/0043/9143/14216-1x.jpg?fb39d223a595bd231b8cfef8870cda1caf7651c2htt p://www.modcloth.com/productshots/0042/9189/14180-1.jpg
http://static1.modcloth.com/productshots/0040/4295/12949-1.jpg?fb39d223a595bd231b8cfef8870cda1caf7651c2http ://static3.modcloth.com/productshots/0038/4057/12540-1.jpg?fb39d223a595bd231b8cfef8870cda1caf7651c2http ://www.modcloth.com/productshots/0029/5491/10664-1.jpg

Sorry for the huge pictures, but SHOES.

[locachica73]

OK I kinda like the dark brown ones with the low heal and the bow on top. Not that I would have anywhere to wear something so cutesy. Maybe someday. :)

[chiapet]

Corinna, I feel the same way, I rarely like shoes that anyone else posts. :P

[chiapet]

Maybe we need a shoe porn thread?

Y'all are aware of like.com, right??

[chairmenmeow47]

*swoon*

http://g.nordstromimage.com/imagegallery/store/product/Gigantic/4/_6153204.jpg

[locachica73]

ok seriously... those are hot and all. but how the fuck does someone walk in shoes like that?

[miscorrections]

Except for the Fendi logo those are a little too EVERY OTHER SHOE OUT THERE RIGHT NOW for me. They are ferociously sexy, though.

LUUURRRVE Chie Mihara:

http://www.lovemarks.com/media/image/chie-mihara_lg_html.jpghttp://4.bp.blogspot.com/_b7upVkbQ3xI/SEv9k0FDl-I/AAAAAAAADJY/yB2ithvk6CY/s400/$348+Chie+Mihara+%27Belga%27.jpg
http://www.pedshoes.com/images/colors/1313/main.jpghttp://www.pedshoes.com/images/colors/1639/main.jpg

[miscorrections]

There is a definite theme to my shoe lusts right now.

[chairmenmeow47]

see, i like a nice, tailored, plain looking shoe. i used to wear crazy shoes, but i feel like my feet look big, so i try to not draw attention to them anymore.

[miscorrections]

I appreciate plain shoes from a professional point of view but I favor shoes with a little more personality. It's just a fun way to express yourself.

[locachica73]

see, i like a nice, tailored, plain looking shoe. i used to wear crazy shoes, but i feel like my feet look big, so i try to not draw attention to them anymore.

I think this is why I have never gotten the shoe bug. I wear a size 10, at one point I was even venturing into 11s when I was heavier. So any cute shoes that I see usually look like canoes by the time they get to be my size. Plus I have a high arch and planter faschiatis (sp?) so the only semi cute shoes I can wear with enough support are clarks and they just aren't that cute.

[miscorrections]

I wear these most days because they are both cute AND practical:

http://img.auctiva.com/imgdata/1/3/8/6/4/1/9/webimg/387957948_o.jpg

[chairmenmeow47]

i tend to like traditional, with some flare. like i love my DC sneakers that look like a plain old sneaker in the way they are cut, but have fabulous prints. i really don't have a reason to wear dress shoes outside of work though, so that may also be why i stick to the classic, preppy look. any sort of heel that looks like a penny loafer makes me drool.

[rskapcat]

What I wear and what I covet are very different. I currently wear sneakers every day. I have one pair of heels. I just ordered a pair of black vegetarian combat boots. I'm pretty simple. While I may appreciate things aesthetically, I would have no reason to wear 99% of them.

[miscorrections]

Ah. I covet things I would actually wear, except for crazy heels because I have no need for super high ones anymore. I would very much like a collection of pretty, reasonable height heels that I could wear to work and out on the weekends.

[amyzzz]

I have only one pair of black heels myself. I only wear docs and sneakers.

[miscorrections]

Maybe when I move I will take a picture of my shoe collection.

[locachica73]

Right now I own a pair of sketcher brown tennis that I pretty much wear all the time. They are about 4 years old and I had only worn them a handful of times till I broke my leg. They are the only thing I can wear that doesn't make my ankle swell to the size of my knee. I also have a pair of reef black flip flops that I wish I could wear more often but there isn't enough support for my ankle. :(

[chairmenmeow47]

http://www.cubbieownsyou.com/albums/OT4th09/IMG_4267.sized.jpg

[miscorrections]

I don't have many shoe boxes. Seriously though, expect a shoe picture post-move.

[chiapet]

I don't keep shoe boxes for the most part.

I get the shoe thing from both sides, both my grandmothers had outrageously large shoe collections, my DAD had probably at least 2 dozen pairs of shoes, and my mom... well... she just sent me an email yesterday saying how she got rid of most of her shoes... down to 57 pairs.

I keep talking about taking pictures of all of my shoes. Maybe I'd actually wear them if I remembered I had them :)

[chairmenmeow47]

so i told that guy on facebook i wasn't interested in hanging out because i knew how my friend felt about him. he then responded to say they're "just friends" and that he "just wanted to get to know me". just friends??! you were her goddamned date to my 4th of july party and spent the whole time cuddling in the pool together. THE JIG IS UP DUDE!

[chiapet]

I am disappointed in myself that friends bringing up someone who is in my distant past and with whom I never really had enough to constitute a 'past' still really upsets me to the point where I have to leave the room and then eventually go hide in bed.

[Alligator Bogaloo]

so i told that guy on facebook i wasn't interested in hanging out because i knew how my friend felt about him. he then responded to say they're "just friends" and that he "just wanted to get to know me". just friends??! you were her goddamned date to my 4th of july party and spent the whole time cuddling in the pool together. THE JIG IS UP DUDE!

This guy sounds like a smooth operator, Ivy. :p

[chairmenmeow47]

I am disappointed in myself that friends bringing up someone who is in my distant past and with whom I never really had enough to constitute a 'past' still really upsets me to the point where I have to leave the room and then eventually go hide in bed.

i know that feeling very well. it's a hard thing to get past. <3

and no need to ask micah ;) he's a smooooooooth operator!

[chairmenmeow47]

so apparently the two aren't dating, they are just friends. she has been talking to me about another guy she's into and hanging out with, but she never uses a name, so i just assumed it was him since they hung out at my party together the whole time. WOW. i feel like an IDIOT. but she was really glad that i had her back at least.

so i guess if that guy doesn't think i'm a complete moron, i may have a friend-date next week lol.

[locachica73]

Friend date = Free beer

BONUS!!!!

[chiapet]

I've got to stop deciding to give myself bangs. It only takes 2 or 3 extra snips to go from awesome to awful.

[I.F.A.]

Thus far I've managed to resist the temptation to trim mine myself. Thanks for the reminder, because I've been thinking well, how hard could it be...

[chiapet]

HARD. Seriously, they looked amazing, all asymmetrical and textured. And then I decided to do just a little more.... Don't do it!!!

[I.F.A.]

Ha, yeah, knowing me I'd totally butcher them... I've inflicted some travesties on my hair, but never from trying to cut it myself. Luckily my mom went to beauty school and my brother is a drag queen, so if I ever need a trim I can just call one of them.

[rskapcat]

I trim my own bangs all the time. I twist little bits & then snip the ends.

My stylist also recommended using thinning shears. You can't do much damage with those.

[chiapet]

This wasn't so much a trim as trying to completely change them. After messing them up with a big gob of hand lotion, it's not as bad as I thought though.

[samiksha]

i've been cutting my hair for almost 2 years now. i don't have to be very precise though because my hair is curly and i usually wear it sort of messy. bangs are always tough though. i keep growing them out and then thinking i want them back and when i cut them i just end up pinning them over anyway.

[guedita]

I'm not a very big shopper or into fashion at...all, but I bought two new pairs of shoes today (Nordstrom's Anniversary Sale!)

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I'd also like to rant for a second about how horrible it is to try and find decent tank tops to use for layering/under cardigans etc. I hate anything ribbed, and I hate really skinny strapped tanks because I'm not 14 anymore. For the last few years, I've also noticed this trend of tank tops being excessively long and stretchy. This looks awful on anyone with the slightest bit of meat on them because it bunches up around the waist/hips area. Also, you look idiotic if you're wearing an excessively long tank top underneath a normal sized sweater or cardigan. ALSO, stop making tank tops so sheer, I don't want to have to wear 2, it's not fashionable, it's just a way for designers to make an extra few bucks. The only tank top I have right now that I actually like is from a record label.

[rskapcat]

See, I love the super-long stretchy tanks & Ts. I'm probably one of few women who wants to emphasize the size of her hips, but it makes my waist looks slimmer & lengthens my torso.

For me, a longer & leaner torso is more important than the illusion of longer legs. I have short legs. Not really a secret, considering I'm quite short.

[amyzzz]

I like the longer tank tops. They cover up my belly when I'm wearing all my low-riding pants/short/whatever.

[guedita]

The long and lean tank tops all go down to my freaking mid thigh. I need a tank top that just passes my waist and nicely exposes my beer gut when I move.

[chiapet]

I also like the longer ones because they cover up my stomach. And boobs make all shirts much shorter.

You may not like them because of straps are skinny, but the Sparkle brand plain tank tops at Urban Outfitter are amazing. I can't find them on their website, but they always have them, usually on the weird mezzanine level, and they're like $10/each. Lots of colors. They hold up really well. One of the things I like is that they are relatively high armhole wise, one of my pet peeves are tank tops that are cut really low and show bra. And they are much shorter, on me they are just past waist length.